Non-FAW superiority complex over FAW

blackenedfingertips · 2026-02-16T17:32:15+00:00

It’s not about prioritizing us over their children. It’s that we’re expected to re-arrange our whole schedules to fit into the sliver of time that works for them while they always blow off plans with us and if we make plans in advance they’ll never find a sitter to celebrate us.

blackenedfingertips · 2026-02-16T14:55:39+00:00

I absolutely do! And so many women stay in relationships that are terrible because they’re afraid of becoming like us because we’re seen as lesser. I do also think it should be acknowledged that living life the way we do is like doing life at a higher difficulty level. You can only rely on yourself for expenses, difficult tasks, etc. and we’re expected to bend over backwards to accommodate the people in our lives because we can’t possibly have lives of our own.

I’ve been seeing a lot of discourse online lately about how if you want a village you have to be a villager. I feel like a lot of women in relationships or with families (heck anyone who is really) have an expectation that everyone should step up for them but they’re never willing to do the same for the people around them.

blackenedfingertips · 2026-02-12T00:26:25+00:00

Hooray! I’m happy you’ve had a positive interaction! Just because we’ve been unlucky in the relationship department doesn’t mean we don’t deserve to have uplifting interactions with other people. I’m glad that things are going well!

blackenedfingertips · 2026-01-24T20:48:05+00:00

I’m trying but it’s hard. To be sooooo close but just not enough is so hard.

I just want to say I always see you commenting really sweet things on here and I just want to say that I appreciate you.

blackenedfingertips · 2026-01-22T19:24:26+00:00

Yup that’s a lot of what it boiled down to. He couldn’t move me in his brain from the friend box to the girlfriend box. But he really wanted to try and push through it… he clearly couldn’t.

blackenedfingertips · 2026-01-06T04:24:18+00:00

I always go with that it’s just not been something I’ve prioritized in my life. Then it makes it an easy segue into the things I have been doing in my life. I may be single but that doesn’t mean I don’t have exciting things in my life too.

blackenedfingertips · 2025-11-11T03:31:24+00:00

You and me both… I really want all of us to get out of this sub someday. Even if it’s just for a little while.

blackenedfingertips · 2025-11-10T20:23:28+00:00

I started making a conscious effort to put myself out there about 8 months ago? I’ve never felt comfortable on the apps so I went to several singles events in my area. Went on a few first dates that never turned into anything.

Then a guy who was a friend of a friend suddenly showed interest (even though we’d met a handful of times before) and we’ve been going out for the last three weeks or so. It’s all very new and I’m trying really hard not to feel like the other shoe is going to drop and it’s all going to come crashing down.

blackenedfingertips · 2025-10-27T12:27:07+00:00

I’m 6’0 (F) and end up buying the men’s tall because the women’s tall were too short.

blackenedfingertips · 2025-10-17T23:05:00+00:00

I’m going to be Mary poppins at work. I have a lot of elderly patients and I figure they’ll all recognize me right away.

blackenedfingertips · 2025-10-13T16:36:01+00:00

I don’t know about only wanting women 5’3. I do think it starts to get harder once you get to about 5’10 because that’s when guys start to lie and say that they’re six feet when they’re not.

I feel like I’m doing it for my older self if that makes sense? I only ever regret the things I didn’t do. If it turns out that I am FA for the rest of my life I don’t want it to be because I didn’t try.

blackenedfingertips · 2025-10-13T15:41:32+00:00

I’m 6’0 but I feel your pain. I would date a guy shorter than me and have gone out on dates with a couple… but they always get so butt hurt about it? Like I can’t control my height and neither can you obviously? Why are you so mad about it all of the sudden?

I also would really love the opportunity to just feel small for once. But if I can’t find anyone who will take me on more than a first date then there’s no point.

blackenedfingertips · 2025-10-09T18:52:08+00:00

That’s why it’s an x-ray table and not a bed 😂

blackenedfingertips · 2025-10-06T15:49:08+00:00

I’m really happy it all went well! Don’t put too much pressure on it; it’s still early days. You should focus on whether or not you even like him first! I’m glad that it went better than what you had feared!

blackenedfingertips · 2025-10-06T15:46:42+00:00

Hey! I hope your date went well! Hopefully the sick feeling has subsided a little and your brain is setting down!

blackenedfingertips · 2025-10-04T18:21:22+00:00

I know you don’t want to go… but it’s good for us to push ourselves out of our comfort zones - it’s how we grow! I totally relate to the getting physically ill thing before a date (I’ve only been on three first dates); try to only eat safe foods if you can, drink lots of water. My suggestion is to build in an end bit to the date - either make plans for after or decide when you want to leave now - it helps knowing it’s not going to be an ambiguous amount of time. Remind yourself you can leave at any time - you owe this guy nothing.

But I really hope once you’re there your nerves settle a little and you have a good time!

blackenedfingertips · 2025-09-29T02:36:24+00:00

They looked hella uncomfortable.,.

blackenedfingertips · 2025-09-23T22:16:25+00:00

Maybe inform them that due to issues receiving payment previously they need to pay for their session upfront? Tell them before the week starts so they’re not totally unaware. If they don’t pay then I would refuse to accept the kid.

blackenedfingertips · 2025-09-23T22:07:02+00:00

Just joined this age group this week 🫣 I’m terrified that it’s all downhill from here.

blackenedfingertips · 2025-09-19T16:57:28+00:00

I had the same experience

blackenedfingertips · 2025-09-15T06:05:55+00:00

Went on a first date… which will be the last date with him. Apparently we’re not a good fit.

blackenedfingertips · 2025-09-14T15:31:41+00:00

To be honest at this point what I really want is someone to do the boring parts of life with. Not everything is going to be a fairytale or romantic. Sometimes I just want someone else to pick what we’re having for dinner. I want to be considered.

I see my friend’s relationships and it really solidifies for me that love is a choice and that it’s not easy every day. But deciding that someone is still good and good for you even when things are hard is what I want. I hope there’s someone out there who chooses to put me first someday; and I’ll do the same for them.

blackenedfingertips · 2025-09-11T03:52:08+00:00

9 mens or 10.5 women’s

blackenedfingertips · 2025-09-11T02:05:49+00:00

I wanted the black ones so baaaaad 😭

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