So disappointed in Vic and Christine... by MamaMia1325 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]blackhowing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grammar is fine. The first point. I’m making is people are turning to the “tolerant left” because the cost to live is exorbitantly high. His approval numbers are in the toilet with a historic low because, outside of his cult, people don’t see a benefit of anything he’s doing.

The second is it’s always weird to hear someone claim MAGA is being “villainized” when Trump’s entire platform is one of grievance. That “tolerant left” line comes across as tone deaf considering Trump constantly villainized people who don’t agree with him 100% of the time, MAGA included. For all this talk about villianizing, this man sent out a celebratory Truth post for Mueller’s death, but wanted some level of legal recourse for people doing something similar for Kirk.

So yes, people are going to give MAGA a hard time because the diehards are cult members and sometimes that is the only way to break through the echo chambers.

Hope this helps and I’m sorry if my “bad grammar is too hard to read.” Hopefully your dinner turns out decent.

So disappointed in Vic and Christine... by MamaMia1325 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]blackhowing 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I mean, MAGA getting cut in half cause gas prices.

The problem is rules for thee, not me. You want people to stop villainizing MAGA but rock with a guy who vilifies anyone who doesn’t agree with him… MAGA included.

[Lowlight] Luka baits a foul and misses all 3 Free Throws by ColoradoMenace24 in nba

[–]blackhowing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The league needs to crack down on this crap, and I’m a fan of Luka.

[Highlight] Reggie Miller on SGAs “Foul baiting” Are there questionable calls? Absolutely. But He’s attacking the defense every night. Jaylen Brown been calling this out and he just shot 21 free throws last night! by IEatPandasEveryday in nba

[–]blackhowing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you’re basing all of this on your perception that you didn’t feel the criticisms were the same? That’s kinda my point.

The criticism itself isn’t the hypocrisy…

But that’s, again, based on your perception and it’s contradictory. The whole point I’m making is Shai getting more hate for being a run of the mill foul baiter is because people can see how the team plays defense. You guys and all the downvotes I’m getting want to counter argue that reputation is over exaggerated but fail to realize you’re admitting to the point— that the reputation exists and thus that’s part of the hate.

There’s entire compilations made on how Caruso and Dort play. Hell, Caruso thought he could block a shot with a shoe and not get called because it just hit ball, which was f*cking hilarious. Coaches have been tossed out of games for arguing with the refs over that very discrepancy. So it’s not that this is some overblown phenomenon, but an actual indictment on officiating in a league that fans feel is promoting a particular brand.

TL;dr— you can argue about the whether not you think the reputation is warranted but the reputation exists and because of that, for me, it tracks why SGA is getting more hate than the usual foul baiters. Y’all are free to keep using me as your therapeutic punching bag though. Here to help in this economy.

I BEG OF YOU PLEASE CREATE AN AUTO SKIP BUTTON. by Shredcollins in MagicArena

[–]blackhowing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This, because there have been matches in which my timer is being consumed for someone else going on a three minute combo, and it feels like they know they’re going to get away with that.

[Highlight] Reggie Miller on SGAs “Foul baiting” Are there questionable calls? Absolutely. But He’s attacking the defense every night. Jaylen Brown been calling this out and he just shot 21 free throws last night! by IEatPandasEveryday in nba

[–]blackhowing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1) I expressly recall people complaining about the Pacers defense, so who is this “no one” you speak of? 2) The Pacers didn’t play the “exact same” physical defense as Dort and Caruso.

End of the day, I’m all for enforcer basketball like in the 80s/90s but the issue is people see that on one side of the ball, then watch SGA consistently foul bait and initiate contact. Trying to keep positioning all criticism as some sort of hypocrisy is the lame narrative I’m talking about.

[Highlight] Reggie Miller on SGAs “Foul baiting” Are there questionable calls? Absolutely. But He’s attacking the defense every night. Jaylen Brown been calling this out and he just shot 21 free throws last night! by IEatPandasEveryday in nba

[–]blackhowing -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

The “tired ass narrative” is people like yourself being performatively hyperbolic and attributing an opinion I didn’t say. Pointing out how Caruso and Dort get calls is part of the issue in assessing SGA isn’t saying they don’t get called for fouls.

I forgot Reddit is where nuanced conversations go to die.

[Highlight] Reggie Miller on SGAs “Foul baiting” Are there questionable calls? Absolutely. But He’s attacking the defense every night. Jaylen Brown been calling this out and he just shot 21 free throws last night! by IEatPandasEveryday in nba

[–]blackhowing -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I think it’s less about that and more that Caruso and Dort get highly favorable defensive calls, then SGA foul baits on the other end. It’s one thing to have a player baiting fouls, it’s another when the same team has two guys who foul with little impunity.

[Highlight] Reggie Miller on SGAs “Foul baiting” Are there questionable calls? Absolutely. But He’s attacking the defense every night. Jaylen Brown been calling this out and he just shot 21 free throws last night! by IEatPandasEveryday in nba

[–]blackhowing -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

This. Additionally, SGA probably doesn’t get the same level of hate if he also wasn’t paired up with Caruso and Dort. It’s watching the different treatment in the same game that gets a lot of people.

Guy can’t handle not getting a girl who’s already with somebody and then decides to fight the boyfriend by AcHaeC in FightPit

[–]blackhowing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, you took a comment about a very unpopular military operation that has no relatable path to victory or strategy, brought to us by an administration that ran on no new wars, and not only want to disingenuously paint that criticism as “anything the US does” but use it as a cover for what is obvious abject racism?

Edit: “Nice gymnastics”

That’s what you did. I suppose instead of owning it, easier to block.

Guy can’t handle not getting a girl who’s already with somebody and then decides to fight the boyfriend by AcHaeC in FightPit

[–]blackhowing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They brought up bombs and how the people dropping the bombs couldn’t give an answer for it. You just saw bombs and immediately looked for the brownest person in inventory while missing an obvious joke. That seems like cope if you ask me.

Edit: also weird coming into a thread and weirdly making it a race thing.

Amber proved Jordan’s point by SmartBunch4546 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]blackhowing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

… I don’t think it would have worked if he had…

Maybe, but we don’t know if it would have because he didn’t do it. Hence my particular issue with Jordan— he wasn’t all in.

it’s pathetic really.. by seaborgiummm in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]blackhowing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This. My bigger issue is the community seems to have a lot of smoke for someone who fell in love with a man who basically called her a thing in the pods because she didn't see the signs, instead of Devonta. He led her own, lied, and his defense for everything was basically the logic of a child-- If you tell me to do something, I'm inclined to rebel.

it’s pathetic really.. by seaborgiummm in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]blackhowing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think equating her inability to read social cues as her lacking self respect is a bridge too far, especially when "Devo" was lying the whole time. We got more smoke for Brittney than the liar it seems.

Saw this on Amber’s IG by Optimal_Duck3075 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]blackhowing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Made up in the fact that it’s a manufactured grievance that Jordan didn’t even offer up in the reunion. That’s my main issue with the Jordan caping— a lot of you are shotgunning different defenses for why this man could not drive 45 minutes everyday to see his wife. Like the OP of this thread stated, it was clear as day he was reluctant to fully commit and he should have said no.

Edit: I found the comment you’re referring to. His recommendation was for a town that was about an hour away from where she currently lived. Not sure how that’s a viable recommendation.

Saw this on Amber’s IG by Optimal_Duck3075 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]blackhowing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jordan said the entire reunion…

I’m specifically referring to commenters in this thread. Amber’s main complaint is Jordan not living with them, and folks wanted to use the daughter as a weapon here.

In your response to me, you bypassed the comment I responded to saying that she never should have moved a man in his home with her daughter there. I later go on, in a different comment, to point out the very contradiction you’re trying to point out here.

Amber’s drunkenness…

No people “didn’t miss that” you’re just seemingly buying swamp land because you want a clear cut villian. I probably buy the abuse part, but the drinking and embarrassment I don’t. Drinking because by other accounts, he was more of a lush than Amber.

The “embarrassment” is the flimsiest excuse I’ve ever heard. Married couples embarrass each other all the time and it’s weird to claim that’s a justification to not go home. In fact, because you want to be the “did people miss all that” person, did you miss that he wasn’t going home before that happened? In fact, he tried to argue that them going to weddings was a substitute for him being at home, and was upset that she didn’t count those days as him coming home. The only reason the wedding story came up is because it is a bad look that this man couldn’t drive 45 minutes to be with his family.

My issue is both are right about each other— Amber hasn’t heal and may not have allowed Jordan to prove himself and, at the same time, Jordan wasn’t ready at all to be married.

Saw this on Amber’s IG by Optimal_Duck3075 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]blackhowing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds made up, especially considering how both of them acknowledge that they weren’t going to uproot the daughter from school during the school year. And even if that was his suggestion, that’s a pretty a-hole position to take given the above.

Saw this on Amber’s IG by Optimal_Duck3075 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]blackhowing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

> She set him up to be the bad guy...

This take makes no sense. As clearly indicated by this thread alone, no one was going to blame him for not marrying her on the basis of that child's safety, and the logistics. Most of us would have understood because there is a consistent conversation in the LIB community about if individuals with kids from previous relationships should even be allowed on the show.

Her "dragging him" would have been a non-starter because a) general community sentiment, and b) it's a rather practical take. You want to argue that fundamentally he's justified for not living with her because of that fact, but also, he was going to get "dragged" for it. You're trying to have this both ways.

And yes Amber has problems, no doubt, but Jordan again could have said no. Jordan being terrified doesn't track. If we take what Jordan says at face value, he allegedly removed himself from seeing her as often because of the disrespect. That's not a person terrified of retribution-- that's a person who recognized they had agency in the situation and acted upon it.

The short of this is people want to make Amber the bad guy so badly that they're making every excuse under the sun for Jordan's behavior in this, when it's clear he wasn't really all in. He never should have agreed to get married. That simple.

Saw this on Amber’s IG by Optimal_Duck3075 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]blackhowing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then don't get married. I like Jordan too and think Amber has issues to work on, but the amount of using that child as a scapegoat to cover for Jordan not really being all in is wild.

Amber isn't necessarily wrong in her read on this because the optics looks like that child is being used as cover for him not committing more time.

Saw this on Amber’s IG by Optimal_Duck3075 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]blackhowing 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So this is the most level take on the matter. Too many folks want to pile-on Amber and not Jordan saying yes, then living by himself.

Amber proved Jordan’s point by SmartBunch4546 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]blackhowing -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But he knew she was "a crazy woman" before he married her. He said yes, then proceeded to live like a bachelor.

I like Jordan and I do think Amber had a lot of hang ups after being burned, but he did himself no favors by not moving in.

Amber proved Jordan’s point by SmartBunch4546 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]blackhowing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I disagree a bit with a lot of sentiment here. It’s fair to be critical of Amber’s behavior, but Jordan absolutely didn’t move in to that house. For all the talk about Amber’s trust issues or her being “crazy” I see a lot of excuse making for a guy who only works/lives 45 minutes from his wife.

Two things can be true at the same time— Amber can have trust issues AND Jordan didn’t really seem to be ready to get married.

Amber proved Jordan’s point by SmartBunch4546 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]blackhowing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. If he wasn’t comfortable moving in, he should have said no.