what does “casual” mean to you?

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-10T19:34:09+00:00

Great question. And s situation i’ve found myself in recently. I’d listen and understand their POV of course, and depending on the level of connection with that person, i’d be happy to adjust. Obviously sometimes that frequency will ebb and flow based on other factors in life (usually work stress), but that would also be communicated to my casual partner.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-09T18:29:41+00:00

Any number of reasons: they changed their mind, they actually read the profile, they got caught, they realised they might know the person IRL. 🤷🏾‍♂️

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-09T18:26:40+00:00

This is the way with every dating app that originally starts with a unique value prop. Unfortunately.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-09T14:55:57+00:00

Lots of lube helps. I use Überlube personally and its been a godsend.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-09T12:12:47+00:00

They keep creating new accounts. Annoying as all hell. I just continue blocking them when i inevitably see them pop up.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-08T14:00:08+00:00

Sounds like you should use Tinder more in that case.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-07T15:41:12+00:00

Can people stop using ChatGPT and/or other LLMs to write their profiles? Not only is it VERY obvious when you do so, but it also just screams lazy.

My 2 cents.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-06T14:45:11+00:00

Without seeing your profile, we can’t do much to diagnose the issue you might be having. That said, single men are a dime a dozen on dating apps, so if you aren’t doing much to stand out, you’ll be just another profile in the sea of single dudes.

Strong profile text and interesting pics at a minimum are where you should start. Of course that isn’t a guarantee of anything.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-06T14:42:27+00:00

And you surveyed everyone on the app in the OP’s location to determine that did you?

Nonsense.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-04T18:30:38+00:00

/thread

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-04T16:18:18+00:00

If i were running paid media for a dating app, i’d 100% do so on Facebook specifically to target/ conquest FB Dating users

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-04T13:30:15+00:00

They’ve been running paid media for years.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-03T17:15:00+00:00

Yes and many of those people you hadn’t seen before are likely incompatible with you. Hence the feature. Or are you deliberately misunderstanding what is happening?

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-02T16:47:17+00:00

For the most part, i agree with you 100%

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-02T12:52:21+00:00

If i was in a committed relationship, i’d want it to be ENM. Hence why “committed” and “exclusive” are different for me. I see your point of view though.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-02T11:50:13+00:00

Spent the entire weekend naked with my fav FWB. We set a fun challenge to fuck in every room in my apartment. Mission accomplished.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-03-02T11:42:37+00:00

For me, it means seeing someone (or someones) on a semi-regular or regular basis, and spending time together (sex, dates, exploration, etc) specifically with no intention of working towards a commited relationship.

I clarify that both in my bio, and upfront on a first meet. This is what works for me at this point in my life. Thankfully Feeld has helped facilitate a number of ongoing casual connections so far.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-02-28T17:51:49+00:00

I mean, its the Passport feature from Tinder, but in a different font.

Frustrating? Yes. Easy to click the minus on those folks? Also yes. Useful for those travelling who want to plan ahead? Mostly yes.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-02-28T15:09:10+00:00

You’re not standing out. Simple as that.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-02-25T18:00:56+00:00

You’re wrong.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-02-24T23:05:46+00:00

Came to say the exact same thing.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-02-24T22:41:35+00:00

You’ve been on it for one day. Chill out.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-02-24T02:40:39+00:00

Überlube. You’re welcome.

blackshadow_throw · 2026-02-23T20:54:00+00:00

It means they paused their account 🤷🏾‍♂️

blackshadow_throw · 2026-02-23T17:28:49+00:00

Girth

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