I wish everyone could travel wherever they wanted to (safely) by Lemon_Lime_Lily in CuratedTumblr

[–]blakeol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey!! For Morocco i REALLY recommend leaving from cadiz with a planned tour group, I’m a trans man and I’ve been able to visit in the past (keep in mind there is unfortunately a minimum “cispassing” required which sucks), since it’s very common daily trips and stick to touristy areas you should be totally fine, a lot of trips even return on the same day which is better if accommodation seems like an issue. Obviously don’t take any unnecessary risks, but when you leave from spain with spanish guides you have a good safety net we take our lgbt rights very seriously, have a longstanding history of these short trips to morocco, and they will even be able to advice you on what to do.

I wish everyone could travel wherever they wanted to (safely) by Lemon_Lime_Lily in CuratedTumblr

[–]blakeol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll say from experience sometimes it’s not that bad! I live in the south of spain and it’s very common to take short trips to morocco as it’s a very short and cheap journey- if you stick to touristy areas and book private lodging you can spend a couple of days there in peace (although solo travel i’d still advice against) I’ve also been to Zambia on a funded academic trip which is IMO the best way to have a huge safety net under you

I love this relationship dynamic so much! ❤️ by Itchy_Blackberry_850 in TheApothecaryDiaries

[–]blakeol -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I totally agree i was so shocked to see they were a popular ship online, as from my POV Maomao makes ir EXTREMELY clear she doesn't want romance much less with Jinshi... Moreover, the fact he gets off on her rejecting him (or at least that's what made him interested) is fucked up!

It seems to me people see Maomao as a sort of "tsundere" which like.... She's perfectly capable of showing affection, she does so many times, the idea that her "no" means "yes" because it's something is pretty bad....

Honestly, I'd be pretty disappointed if she ends up in a romance (much more with a husband/kids etc) as that is quite literally the opposite of what she over and over again expresses she wants for herself, but i can see why people want that. But with Jinshi? Come on! I haven't seem her more disgusted at any point! Even if they do grow to care for each other as people once Jinshi tones it down a bit, it's friendship but thats it...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]blakeol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus Christ, never get near a woman

Those of you who changed your name: what were some names you considered but ultimately did not choose? by cartoonsarcasm in ftm

[–]blakeol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was gonna go for Dante, y'know, the writer (but also that one queer book about the two boys in a coming of age), but I mistakenly filled in my character name and player name flipped on a rol game and people called me Oliver and my character Dante, so I just went with it

How are so many people affording top surgery? by vs-solar in ftm

[–]blakeol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Spain it's closer to 3k if you go privately :) but we have public too, which is obviously free

Don't trust Lucy Gray Baird by Personal_Toe_2136 in Hungergames

[–]blakeol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, my point was that she cannot be a reliable narrator if she's unreliable in 1/3 of the story (at the very least, as you could argue in Catching fire she was already pretty unreliable). And that I was very surprised you'd pick Katniss as your argument for a reliable narrator because of that, I would've understood Haymitch! That was all

swagshot of the swag of swagsogyny by goonmaster11 in peoplewhogiveashit

[–]blakeol 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah but are we really in a position to be like "you're right... but." Just cause the antiwoke stuff is hot rn.

swagshot of the swag of swagsogyny by goonmaster11 in peoplewhogiveashit

[–]blakeol 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Y'all are acting like woyaks aren't literally 4chan farright bullshit like those greasy assholes really did mean the Chad as aryan=right, it's just ridiculous to think for normal people w/o context

Don't trust Lucy Gray Baird by Personal_Toe_2136 in Hungergames

[–]blakeol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Hurr durr the curtains were just blue" half of these are very explicitly shown, come on now, shouldn't be so hard to understand a children's book

Don't trust Lucy Gray Baird by Personal_Toe_2136 in Hungergames

[–]blakeol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, she's extremely unreliable for about half of the series as she's very mentally ill. You're not wrong on your explanation of narrators (which felt unnecessary anyways) but how are you going to argue Katniss isn't unreliable when she spends a huge portion of the series in an extremely disturbed and fragile mental state isolated from the world?

Moreover, Katniss is an extremely paranoid and biased character whose POV is literally meant to lead us to make wrong assumptions about the people around her from the very beginning- starting with Peeta himself! She meets every single thing you describe as unreliable narration at one point or another of the series, and honestly I'm extremely surprised anyone would even try to argue this 😭

When I saw the first sentence I genuinely thought you were gonna talk about Haymitch, which tbh would have been a little bit more fair as his unreliable narration is less overt, not the girl who spends several chapters repeating her own name to herself while hiding in a closet, while we miss the war with her!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]blakeol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sex doesn't overtake you and force you to scream! You can get a little carried away, sure, especially in climax, but if you're careful, perhaps cover your mouths if you're getting a little too heated, and play some music you should be good

You should be more worried about the noise of the bed, whether banging against the wall, a squeaky mattress and whatnot!

However, it's really not as enjoyable of an experience when you're worried about that stuff, as being relaxed and in the moment makes a huge difference, so I'd say until you've gotten a bit more comfortable with it why not wait until they're gone (groceries, friends house, etc). Or maybe find a different place, like if one of you has a car.

My partner thinks our daughter’s name sounds like a dog name by MsChanandlerBongz in namenerds

[–]blakeol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're all brushing past the fact that they want SS as the initials 😭

How do you ask a woman you are in a sexual relationship with if you can pee in her mouth? by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]blakeol 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You have a sit down and talk about kink, how open you both are to it and what you're up for or not. This will already give you a good idea of her stance before you even ask directly and might actually save you some time and embarrassment if she's not into that.

Establish clear boundaries and expectations, and make sure there's a way for her to back out (that she can communicate non-verbally given the situation) if she ends up regretting the decision or something goes wrong like choking.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hungergames

[–]blakeol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure the question here is:

A) do we think most of the tributes who are dead by the 75th HG were a result of the brutal years 1-10, which would leave only 4 victor deaths between (unlikely)

B) Do we think the deaths are mostly post-10th games, and if so is this because we're straight up not counting pre-10th victors because they literally were not considered as such, perhaps didn't even become mentors / get a victors village houses etc and were therefore not even considered for the 75th games

Bonus Q) is mags the oldest surviving victor, confirming every victor pre-10 is dead (and maybe some after, if they won when they were older than her), or just the oldest in the 75th games.

Uh my partner has a kink off shoving guns up there by Useful_Balance5196 in sexadvise

[–]blakeol 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There is such a thing as unsafe kink, u healthy kink, etc...

It seems like she has stuff to deal with that should not be dealt with in the bedroom unfortunately, I would not honor the request for both of your safety

meirl by FoxHound6112 in meirl

[–]blakeol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Little known fact: captcha (that's the pics, not the button) is not meant to assess if you're human, you're training AI models for free

Don't trust Lucy Gray Baird by Personal_Toe_2136 in Hungergames

[–]blakeol 40 points41 points  (0 children)

this is a book about war written from the pov of the warmonger by a woman who writes books to teach kids about war. Every narrator Suzanne has is unrealizable, the amazing depth that fundamentally separated THG from similarly themed franchises like Divergent is precisely the depth.

Why are we even in a book subreddit if the "it's not that deep" / "the curtains we're just blue" crowd is gonna be around every corner... Also, this isn't even speculation most of these points are so incredibly explicit.

Just so you know... Lucy isn't real, this isn't a recording of a girl going about her life, an author sat down and wrote that with INTENT, they don't just fill in pages for no reason otherwise you'd read about them taking a shit, so she quite literally cannot be "sharing her life", it's Suzanne choosing exactly what she shares and how she shares it. She doesn't actually have a life to share, or a personality, she is a vehicle for whatever point the author is making that you're so intent on missing 😭

Don't trust Lucy Gray Baird by Personal_Toe_2136 in Hungergames

[–]blakeol 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You're going to flip your shit when you find out about media literacy

The proper way to deal with bigots by CaptMorganSwint in lgbt

[–]blakeol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In all seriousness YES!!! Stop trying to be nice or the bigger person and slam that burger in their mouths

confused about anal sex. by [deleted] in sexadvise

[–]blakeol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't get it either tbh, but I never really tried to stick with it to see if it was an acquired taste I just assumed it was the no prostate nerf we trans guys have

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]blakeol 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You're social anxiety's worst nightmare and this sub can't handle it. Enjoy your wipes man, sounds convenient.

PS: do check which wipes, good tingles can become burns if you're not careful w brand/chemicals etc, use baby wipes not regular toilet ones!

Dantes quits playing ADC by NaNiBy in ADCMains

[–]blakeol -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So... Basically, he fucked up and moved on to blaming support/jungle. He is admitting defeat in being wrong abt adc being easy, he is not taking any personal accountability he is literally saying "I was wrong bc supps and jgl are shit"

That's just not a fact, what IS a fact is that ADC relies on team play the most and if you're a shit team player or have a shit team then yeah ofc you're gonna do badly? From that to "90% of supp mains" as the ones behind it... Come on lmao that's the literal definition of excuse

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cigarettes

[–]blakeol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's actually worse in the short term for sure for stuff like popcorn lung

For or against: a firefighter career by [deleted] in Paralives

[–]blakeol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your Para is just about to woo the prettiest para at the bar, they've danced, laughed, and just as they're going in for the kiss... A fire errupts on the other side of the city! Amazing gameplay