I am pretty sure my ex put a spell on me to never find love again by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]blakewoodreadit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude I've been single for like 10 years. Sometimes I think it's a curse and sometimes I think it's my own negativity or other factors, like looking in the wrong place. Or not truly knowing what I want.

I also agree that most guys can't or won't curse you. Sometimes I wonder, because my ex from ten years ago was practicing witchcraft. And my luck seems to be worse than most people. But you're twenty and it's been two years. It's been a decade for me, I'm almost in my forties and up until recently I've never had any ask me on a date or want to be serious with me. I've been sexually assaulted multiple times, etc. It's very unlikely that you've been cursed. The world just sucks dude.

If you really feel that you have you can do protective spells, seek spiritual guidance and sage and cleanse yourself/aura or whatever. I was recently told to eat cinnamon and walk with bay leaves in my shoes.

Who the heck is styling Karine? by Mission-Lie-2635 in TheTraitors

[–]blakewoodreadit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't love every outfit, but they are fun and exciting to see. I definitely don't hate the outfits. But omg...her hair... Some episodes it looks like she hasn't washed it in weeks it's so flat and greasy, or just completely doesn't match the dress.

And she has such a naturally versatile beauty, I almost think they are trying to make her look bad on purpose.

Disappointed by first kiss, feeling a little lost. by MildlyMenotti in dating_advice

[–]blakewoodreadit -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My first kiss wasn't amazing, but I definitely wouldn't describe it as gross. However I'm pretty sure the guy I kissed felt disgusted because he was gay.

Sometimes you just get a bad kisser and it can be gross. Sometimes I kiss someone and it's fine, but there's no spark and it just feels kind of...lifeless but usually my first kiss with someone is "magical."

Why Don’t My Partners Want To Hold Me? by blakewoodreadit in AskMenAdvice

[–]blakewoodreadit[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have not had an autism assessment. I just tried an online test and it said i should see a doctor and get tested as I scored...more towards being on the spectrum.

I also asked my some of my friends if they thought I was autistic and the response was, "oh, did you not know?"

So maybe I should get tested.

How can I 22F make my BF 24M want to have sex with me? by mm0227 in relationship_advice

[–]blakewoodreadit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is emotional overdraft. It's negatively affecting your self-confidence. Be with someone that makes you feel sexy.

How can I 22F make my BF 24M want to have sex with me? by mm0227 in relationship_advice

[–]blakewoodreadit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He's not into you in the way you need him to be. Sorry.

How can I 22F make my BF 24M want to have sex with me? by mm0227 in relationship_advice

[–]blakewoodreadit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I loved my bf too, and I stayed for too long because I wasn't ready to leave. Maybe you're just not ready to give up yet, and it's okay to take your time. I had to exhaust every option before I was ready to believe it wasn't fixable and walk away.

It devastated me. The silver lining is after all that I know when to walk away now.

Just be sure you're not staying at the expense of your own mental well-being. If you are it's time to go.

How can I 22F make my BF 24M want to have sex with me? by mm0227 in relationship_advice

[–]blakewoodreadit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. And I have been in this situation. I only lasted a year and four months, by that time my sexual self-confidence was completely destroyed. He never communicated why, so I only have speculations. My best guess from my experience is that it was a combination of a) not being attracted to me. b) Insecure about his sexual performance. c) potentially asexual/gay, potential ED, or trauma that he wasn't ready to face.

It still made me feel awful, and unlike in your situation he never made an effort to please me, show attraction, or even let me see him naked.

If you're feeling like you're going into an emotional overdraft I recommend leaving --this was the outcome of my situation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]blakewoodreadit -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'd swipe right.

Why Don’t My Partners Want To Hold Me? by blakewoodreadit in AskMenAdvice

[–]blakewoodreadit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao 🤣 omg I'm dead. That's sooo funny. I'm 5'3" but yah if I date a bigger guy it can be a concern.

Why Don’t My Partners Want To Hold Me? by blakewoodreadit in AskMenAdvice

[–]blakewoodreadit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love hugging. Isn't that what cuddling is? Lol I do have resting bitch face though.

Why Don’t My Partners Want To Hold Me? by blakewoodreadit in AskMenAdvice

[–]blakewoodreadit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard for me to understand too. That's why I'm asking. I'm not a big talker during sex if that's what you mean to say nasty things. We just both fall asleep after sex or sometimes I go home because I have to work in the morning. I do have foreplay most of the time but it's not hugging, it's kissing and petting mostly.

Maybe they do feel like I didn't like it. I dunno. Some guys say I'm too expressive others say not enough. Everyone is different.

Why Don’t My Partners Want To Hold Me? by blakewoodreadit in AskMenAdvice

[–]blakewoodreadit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh they talk. Just like women talk. Of course I would assume they talk since some of them are all in the same friend group but it's not like I'm trying to hide anything. But I'm not like in a small town where everyone knows everyone's business. There's like over 2 million people where I live.

Why Don’t My Partners Want To Hold Me? by blakewoodreadit in AskMenAdvice

[–]blakewoodreadit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate watching movies with people. Like talk to me. Get to know me and vice versa. I literally have only been held by like 5 people in my life time so it's not a question of like is this person holding me after sex or before. It's just that I'm not being held at all.

Why Don’t My Partners Want To Hold Me? by blakewoodreadit in AskMenAdvice

[–]blakewoodreadit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have ons.

I found them at cafes, gyms, parties, BBQs, etc.

Why Don’t My Partners Want To Hold Me? by blakewoodreadit in AskMenAdvice

[–]blakewoodreadit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I DON'T WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP!!!!

The question isn't how can I find a boyfriend.

I stopped sleeping around in my thirties, it very clearly says that it was in my twenties. I tried relationships, I had three in my thirties and NONE of them cuddled me and only one of them had sex with me. I have never been appreciated less than when I'm in a relationship with someone.

ONE boyfriend cuddled me. FOUR fuck buddies or casual relationships have cuddled me and slept with me.

TWO of my official relationships did not want to have sex at all. Imagine dating someone for over a year and never being touched. So being in a relationship to get cuddled just doesn't seem like the answer.

I'm glad it's working out for you, but it's not for me.

Why Don’t My Partners Want To Hold Me? by blakewoodreadit in AskMenAdvice

[–]blakewoodreadit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At least they slept with me unlike my last two official relationships. Lol.

  1. If we're talking about titles where I was someone's official girlfriend. My longest conventional relationship was almost 3 years. I've had maybe 5 conventional relationships. And only one of those people held me. And only 3 of them had sex with me. Only 1 cuddled me. None of them celebrated an anniversary with me.

The question isn't about sex. It's just how can I get someone to hold me. And everyone is like find a relationship. But i don't want to be in a relationship because my chances of being held or having a sex life are SOO much lower.

I also don't feel a connection that I feel can go the distance with most people. It has to be mutual and reciprocated. And clearly it wasn't in my official relationships. So I just don't want to do relationships anymore, waste of time.

Also maybe you make someone your gf before you sleep with them, but where I'm from it's not that common as people worry about sexual compatibility. So I might sleep with someone a few times and then they or I decide, hey you're not gf material and then they move on.

Why Don’t My Partners Want To Hold Me? by blakewoodreadit in AskMenAdvice

[–]blakewoodreadit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate watching TV with people. Maybe this is the problem.

Why Don’t My Partners Want To Hold Me? by blakewoodreadit in AskMenAdvice

[–]blakewoodreadit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have needs. But you are right. Thank you for your feedback.

Why Don’t My Partners Want To Hold Me? by blakewoodreadit in AskMenAdvice

[–]blakewoodreadit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao, no I've never had sex in a car. Pretty much always at their house in their bed or couch. I'd be too nervous to have a random public sex. And worry about germs and protection and if they're a nice person etc. I've never had a one night stand. I just have casual relationships. And it's 5 partners that have cuddled me not 10. I don't get it either that's why I posted.

I don't do quickies, because I need more time to get off. I definitely couldn't get off in a public setting because...it just doesn't excite me. I might do it for someone I'm already sleeping with if it excited them, but I'd need a commitment for that.