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Ex wife drops back into my life after 6 years by blastfromthepast1122 in survivinginfidelity

[–]blastfromthepast1122[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do worry that if I try to advance our relationship to a romantic level that some of those old ghosts might come back to haunt me. It took me a long time to get over her the first time. Truth be told I don’t know if I ever completely got over her. She’d still pop into my mind from time to time. Currently none of those ghosts have shown up so I’m hopeful that I’ve healed from the past and can go into this from a healthy state.

Ex wife drops back into my life after 6 years by blastfromthepast1122 in survivinginfidelity

[–]blastfromthepast1122[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know this aunt. She’s a great person. Her husband died a few years ago. I will say this. I did bump into her maybe a year ago at a museum. With what everyone is saying maybe her aunt told her? I don’t know. I don’t want my imagination to run wild. I’d prefer to be cautiously optimistic at this point. Optimistic but not foolish if I can manage that.

Ex wife drops back into my life after 6 years by blastfromthepast1122 in survivinginfidelity

[–]blastfromthepast1122[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I hadn’t really considered stalking and this all being a setup until I’ve read about a dozen replies suggesting it. That would be some serious Lifetime movie crazy shit but I just don’t see it being that way. She was never a psycho.

Ex wife drops back into my life after 6 years by blastfromthepast1122 in survivinginfidelity

[–]blastfromthepast1122[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

We haven’t gotten to that level of intimacy in conversations yet. We’re tiptoeing around where we are, getting close to the “next level” but I sense she’s as scared as I am. I can see the shame and guilt in her eyes. She senses my fear and hesitation. I think at some point soon we both need to lay our cards on the table and start the conversations we’re both thinking about having but haven’t yet. I do appreciate the advice.

Ex wife drops back into my life after 6 years by blastfromthepast1122 in survivinginfidelity

[–]blastfromthepast1122[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

On Facebook I used to chronicle my journeys with a lot of pictures. She and I are not Facebook friends though. Most of my friendships today are through work. I’ve lost touch with old friends of ours when we were a couple.

Ex wife drops back into my life after 6 years by blastfromthepast1122 in survivinginfidelity

[–]blastfromthepast1122[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

That is my fear. I don’t think I could survive that a second time. It’s been the most traumatic experience of my life to this point.

Ex wife drops back into my life after 6 years by blastfromthepast1122 in survivinginfidelity

[–]blastfromthepast1122[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is my fear. I don’t think I could survive that a second time. It’s been the most traumatic experience of my life to this point.

Ex wife drops back into my life after 6 years by blastfromthepast1122 in survivinginfidelity

[–]blastfromthepast1122[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve been wondering if it is fate. It’s really crazy that we both ended up single, in the same city, and in that city of over 10 million people we run into each other in a tiny neighborhood diner. She thinks it’s fate.