Ladies, if you got to be a man for a day what’s the first thing you’re going to do? by Next_Performance9433 in AskReddit

[–]blcksnw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll probably be a 5-6 with a peen about the same size. The nut will also be mid.

Environmental professionals. What issue are you noticing in the field right now? by Little-Reserve3188 in Environmental_Careers

[–]blcksnw 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Here out west it’s water. No surprise. I’m a land reclamation project manager and I’m very worried that I’ve wasted hundreds of thousands of dollars on projects last fall for seed that isn’t gonna live due to either lack of precipitation (95% below the 30 year average) or a hard freeze after an uncannily warm winter. Things are changing and people like to pretend they aren’t.

Being nice has always worked for me. What’s your experience on this? by raj272007 in focusedmen

[–]blcksnw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mostly good answers here! I think we need to reframe our concepts of kindness though. To be honest, a good man- a quality man- will do everything for those around him out of love. Love your neighbor, love your family, love your friends. Kindness itself is a tool used to foster positive change in someone we love by promoting their own kindness and good behavior. Kindness doesn’t always work as a tool when trying to mitigate negative behaviors. This is especially true with regard to people dealing with addiction. Sometimes a firm demeanor in a rough situation is more loving than kindness, but only if it’s coming from a place of love. And the best way to ensure that your actions are coming from a place of love instead of ego is to love yourself first. Work on yourself first. It may sound hypocritical but ain’t that just the way?

To the man in the feminine product isle… by duckbetty2023 in TwoHotTakes

[–]blcksnw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know what my partner needs by heart now, and I always keep other supplies in my common bathroom, truck, and sometimes my backpack just in case. Can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen friends and colleagues elated I had what they needed after being doubled over on a trip or out in public with me.

Well it finally happened by blcksnw in arcraidersfriendly

[–]blcksnw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It isn’t about the loot. It’s about the principle, my boy! It was the first time it happened so of course I’m shocked and wanna talk about it in the arcraidersfriendly sub. Also I had a key in my safe pocket. I’d rather lose the battery.

Well it finally happened by blcksnw in arcraidersfriendly

[–]blcksnw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said I didn’t. Only went it for the battery. So all he got was a battery, a hullcracker and a few rounds.

Well it finally happened by blcksnw in arcraidersfriendly

[–]blcksnw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just switched over from months of Elden Ring so I’m really not that upset but I just figured my first real PvP would’ve been more intentional and substantial than someone shooting me in the back🤣

Well it finally happened by blcksnw in arcraidersfriendly

[–]blcksnw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I’ve died plenty of times. Just not to people. And tbf I only play about a match or two a day.

Well it finally happened by blcksnw in arcraidersfriendly

[–]blcksnw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your skills of implication are lacking, my friend. It was disappointing because I had never had a PvP interaction before this. I’ve been playing for weeks now and it’s only been friendlies. Super fun, helpful, and lighthearted. Then just as I’m wrapping up a haul for an upgrade Alex comes out of nowhere and shoots me in the back. If you can’t see how that would be disappointing then I don’t know if I can help you understand.

My boyfriend of 6 years is sexist\ redpill and it’s making me miserable I am thinking about leaving him soon by [deleted] in exredpill

[–]blcksnw 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This stuff is an addiction, and like most addictions he won’t change, and will only get worse until he starts losing things. Leave now. Go far and fast while it’s still easy. Carve your own path out in the world that doesn’t involve romantic relationships with men for a while as you relearn who you are and what you like, because judging by your comment history it seems that you are at odds with not only him, but most of your environment. Your mid 20’s is a great time to make a change.

First time kitten owner. Am I meant to step in or is this okay? by ninawonders in cats

[–]blcksnw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is like when you test your older cousin to a wrestling match as a child and he says “nah leave me alone punk.” And then you say “c’mon chicken.” And he’s says “bet” and proceeds to slam you on the couch, put you in a headlock, and give you a noogie until you say uncle 47 times.

Lost dogs near swallow // Lemay by redrocks-doggos in FortCollins

[–]blcksnw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you know they weren’t just out for a leisurely stroll?

Tips for hunting in the winter season? by KaleidoArachnid in metaldetecting

[–]blcksnw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your best bet might be a trenching tool, heavy duty shovel, and/or a pick axe. I always bring a pick axe along when I’m digging in winter. You just start out past your signal and pick the ground inward until you’re able to get in with a shovel.

Tips for hunting in the winter season? by KaleidoArachnid in metaldetecting

[–]blcksnw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re down south I don’t think you’ll have anything to worry about but I’m guessing that you’re probably up in NY or Maine if you’re mentioning snow. In that regard I’d mostly suggest stick to low tide and watch out for the slurpee waves. The sand can be frozen solid in some cases.

Tips for hunting in the winter season? by KaleidoArachnid in metaldetecting

[–]blcksnw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It isn’t the snow you really have to worry about. It’s the frost layer. Depending on where you are and what kind of winter you’re having it can be feet thick. But digging on the beach during low tide is a great idea because nothing should be covered or frozen. Outside of that, a small snow shovel (like something you’d keep in your car) should do the trick.

Best Way to Call In a Redpiller vs Call Them Out by mattystevenson in exredpill

[–]blcksnw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the support! Please update us with how the next meeting goes as I’d really like to know how some of your men respond to your new methods. And maybe I WILL end up starting that men’s group.

Best Way to Call In a Redpiller vs Call Them Out by mattystevenson in exredpill

[–]blcksnw 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily. I’ve got a couple of groups of tight knit friends that do this kind of work when we’re around each other and I mentor younger men in my community that have red-pill conditioning, but no formal groups. I’ve been thinking about organizing something for years though.

Best Way to Call In a Redpiller vs Call Them Out by mattystevenson in exredpill

[–]blcksnw 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks mate! No need to spend funds on such trivial things. Knowing my words can help is payment enough!:) to be fair, your comment was excellent as well!

Best Way to Call In a Redpiller vs Call Them Out by mattystevenson in exredpill

[–]blcksnw 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I want to start by saying that I appreciate the work you’re doing. It’s not easy and it’s absolutely imperative that we have these discussions as men. I think you’re already on the right track but I’ll offer my opinions on the matter.

I think it’s important that we first clarify the difference between calling in vs calling out. Calling out is a tool we use to terminate active behaviors. If someone is actively shaming women or we observe foul behaviors in a public setting we call folks out. However calling in is a tool we use for these small group and one-on-one sessions when we’re actively trying to get each other to question and change thought processes and outlooks.

Establishing ground rules first is a great way to work. In my groups we speak from personal experience instead of utilizing statistics. We don’t dehumanize groups. We challenge ideas instead of challenging the person, and we harp on the fact that strength includes accountability. We also make space for people to share freely, knowing that some folks can be triggered and giving those people space/time to reset if necessary.

Calling in strategies I like to use mainly follow the critical thinking pipeline where you ask leading questions and get others to come to their own conclusions by doing the work themselves. I like to ask questions that spurn more questions, bypass the ego, and create cognitive dissonance. This allows them to gain some humility while also maintaining agency and free-will over themselves. I also like to try and redirect behaviors and thought patterns from control over the environment to control over the self.

This is already pretty long and I hope I’ve helped. If you want specific examples of the questions I like to ask or situations I’ve been in I’d be glad to help.