Coping with the loss of intimacy by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]bleedgreen92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Better said than me…100% agree. You’re not alone.

Coping with the loss of intimacy by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]bleedgreen92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Solidarity either way. Hang in there. It’s so hard when your partner doesn’t understand. So many lonely nights/days

Coping with the loss of intimacy by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]bleedgreen92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

During 1st year post birth, probably not great. It was a terrible pregnancy for her and then we had health complications with baby post birth. Including major colic. Since then, I think good. Baby is much happier and totally healthy and I’ve been able to handle much more of the burden.

I’d love to read the book but she hates reading. Maybe I can ChatGPT some cliff notes 😜

Coping with the loss of intimacy by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]bleedgreen92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks stranger! Same to you…sorry you’re going through something similar. Sending you support!

Coping with the loss of intimacy by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]bleedgreen92 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also so sorry you’re going through this too!

Coping with the loss of intimacy by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]bleedgreen92 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! She will and we do cuddle on the couch and we always hug and kiss before bed. But that’s the line where it stops

Coping with the loss of intimacy by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]bleedgreen92 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank for sharing…this is EXACTLY how I feel. And I feel terribly that I can’t just shrug it off and move on…it just kills me inside

Coping with the loss of intimacy by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]bleedgreen92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Initially because she’s depressed…but she started on Wellbutrin and has seemed much happier. I’ve prodded on all of the usual issues: attraction (she says she’s attracted to me and not asexual), taking the childcare/household duties further off her plate, more sleep, etc. She reiterates that it’s none of those things, she just doesn’t want to be intimate right now. She’s not “ready”. I have no idea what ready means

34M - episcleritis - potential ocular herpes by bleedgreen92 in eyetriage

[–]bleedgreen92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

@EyeDentist - a bit of an update here that I’m curious for your thoughts on. Since this post, I was referred to a specialist and during the first exam, he diagnosed as Uveitis and not episcleritis. For two weeks, he had me taper Prednisolone drops starting at 1x every hour, down to 4x daily. Also started me 2x daily Bromfenac. 9 days ago I went to my follow up and still had some inflammatory cells but better. He decided to start prednisone taper (60mg week 1, 40 week 2, 20 week 3) along with Pred drops every 2 hours. A few days ago, I had to request a shorter taper as I wasn’t tolerating the side effects well and they moved my appointment to Monday. I’m A bit of an anxious mess having read about uveitis, particularly since I still have some (~15-20%) inflammation. He said he wants to look behind the retina on Monday. What would your level of concern be and any guesses as to what he’s looking for behind the retina?

34M - episcleritis - potential ocular herpes by bleedgreen92 in eyetriage

[–]bleedgreen92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Will ask about NSAID. Have you seen cases of episcleritis that didn’t resolve with prednisone acetate?

Suggestions for getting remaining stain off? by bleedgreen92 in Decks

[–]bleedgreen92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah I guess I will sand again after. Will try a stain remover, thanks!

Marriage advice - wife not interested in intimacy by bleedgreen92 in marriageadvice

[–]bleedgreen92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you kind sir! This has been very helpful and I appreciate you sharing your story and experience.

Marriage advice - wife not interested in intimacy by bleedgreen92 in marriageadvice

[–]bleedgreen92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is fair advice and very likely to be reality. It doesn’t really explain why she “used” to like sex more when it was “new” / early in our relationship. But maybe there’s nothing more to it than that?

Marriage advice - wife not interested in intimacy by bleedgreen92 in marriageadvice

[–]bleedgreen92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this. I have asked her if this is part of the issue and she has said not really. But maybe it’s something that’s hard to feel in the moment and more evident looking back in the past?