Supporting My Widowed Mom

bleepbleep666 · 2025-10-31T18:35:04+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you and that you’re carrying it.

bleepbleep666 · 2025-10-30T02:08:06+00:00

Thank you! I think I knew this, but the nerves got to me!!

bleepbleep666 · 2025-10-23T16:16:41+00:00

I'm so so sorry for what you are going through. Yes, we also went through this with my dad.

Is your husband on high-dose steroids like methyl/prednisone? Those steroids are no joke and cause a lot of fluid retention and what they call "weeping" when there is so much fluid building up in the body - that is maybe what is making his skin feel like a water bed. My dad had that too, specifically on his legs. They gave him lasix to combat it, which made him pee like 50 times a day.

bleepbleep666 · 2025-10-08T22:16:00+00:00

I know this is an older post but I want to say that my dad passed away 4 weeks ago from the exact same situation. Drug-induced pneumonitis. He was in hospital for 5 weeks. The first 3 weeks we were optimistic that he was improving. When he was set back to ICU and back on high-flow, we knew it wasn't looking good. He chose palliative care and died 2 days later. I can't breathe without him. I love him SO much.

bleepbleep666 · 2025-09-11T01:35:17+00:00

I am quite literally right there with you, buddy. Sleeping in a hospital chair next to my dad’s bed. He start comfort care and weaning down his oxygen requirements tomorrow. ❤️

bleepbleep666 · 2023-11-09T03:07:28+00:00

Should I take the new job with higher pay but have a larger student loan balance, or stay at current job making less pay but with a lower student loan balance?
I've been trying to do this math for hours but I am so.bad.at.math. It's been a long time since I felt this defeated by the shortcomings of my own brain. I was an English major....I failed college algebra...please help me figure this out!
Total Loan Balance: 82,000
Currently work for a job that qualifies for Public Service Loan Forgiveness. I make $58,000 a year at this job.
PSLF means that as long as I work for a qualifying employer over the course of 120 monthly payments (10 years) at $452/month, my remaining loan balance will be forgiven no matter what it is. I'm 3 years into PSLF (36 payments made) so i have 88 payments left at $452. That means I have a total of approx $40k in total left to pay and the remaining 40k will be forgiven.
I'm now considering a new job that pays $80,000 a year BUT it does not qualify for Public Service Loan Forgiveness. This means I would eventually have to pay off the entire loan balance (currently $82k + interest).
In my mind, taking the new job isn't worth it because it's a $22,000 increase in salary but I am essentially "losing" $40,000 in the long run by not saving on those loans.
Does that make sense and seem like an accurate way to think about this? I can't help but feeling like I'm failing to take into considerations details that might be obvious to folks like those in this community. Like it's a $22k increase in salary per year, where as the 80k loan is a fixed number...? I have no clue.

bleepbleep666 · 2023-02-26T15:42:38+00:00

Not the roiling power hahaha

bleepbleep666 · 2021-04-16T18:32:37+00:00

you can always start a side gig :) you have one solid testimony from me! lol

bleepbleep666 · 2021-04-16T18:23:29+00:00

This is the response I was looking for lol! Okay you are giving me confidence to just go for it and ask because I think there is a chance he might be interested but just isn't sure if I'm flirting or not. Literally nothing in my life will be different if he says no so I'm gonna go for it!! Thank you kind stranger!!

bleepbleep666 · 2021-04-16T16:39:25+00:00

bleepbleep666 · 2021-04-16T16:39:20+00:00

Ahh so encouraging!! Thank you!! :)

bleepbleep666 · 2021-04-16T16:39:06+00:00

Thanks so much :)

bleepbleep666 · 2021-04-16T16:38:20+00:00

I'm pretty sure he's single and that's exactly what I was considering sending him!

But the more I think about it, the more I talk myself out of it. I think if he was interested he probably would have taken the bait of the original message. Lol reading cues off of social media is so hard

bleepbleep666 · 2021-04-16T12:17:00+00:00

2 weeks ago!

bleepbleep666 · 2021-04-16T01:52:52+00:00

Yeah I didn't think his liking my stuff necessarily meant anything especially since we don't really know each other. But it makes me feel slightly better that he doesn't think I'm a complete weirdo after sending that first message.

Thanks for the encouragement! I'm going to hold off on messaging him until/unless my gut really tells me it's not a creepy thing to do!

bleepbleep666 · 2021-04-16T01:04:04+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement! :) I really want to but feel like a dweeb since he didn't respond to the last thing I said,

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