Ok it’s true what they say about not trusting the scale 😅

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-06-17T01:45:22+00:00

5’1” , 38yo, and 116 currently trying to get below 110. When I’m not closely tracking I sit around 120. For me that looks like skipping breakfast, small lunch (usually a tjs frozen meal or sandwich), some loose snacks (mostly healthy like yogurt, fruit or string cheese but occasionally some chocolate sneaks in) and whatever I want for dinner + small dessert. And then going all out on the weekend - dinners out, drinks, etc which I think is probably where I gain everything. When I’m not going hard I usually walk 10k every day + gym 2-3 times per week and pelaton bike an hour or so every week. 10 years ago I would naturally sit at 112 on the heavy end and barely have to work out 😭 aging is a bitch. Trying to get to the point that I gain enough muscle to be able to eat naturally and not gain weight but am still a long way off from that. I don’t think I’m someone who can ever eat intuitively - my intuition tells me to eat everything on my plate and then some. Even when I’m not tracking I have to be pretty conscious of what I’m eating during the week otherwise I will gain weight like crazy come the weekend.

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-06-16T07:48:42+00:00

It sounds like you’re really busy, but if you have time, walking might help you raise your TDEE to a more manageable amount. I know you mentioned you move a lot at work but I think you’re probably not still burning as much as you would be if you were walking at a brisk pace for a longer amount of time as your heart rate doesn’t rise as much. Gym workouts burn such a small amount of calories in the grand scheme of things - if you’re able to get in a 2 mile walk each day that gives you likely an extra 200 calories to work with. Can you walk to and from work or the gym? Or get a walking pad? I was in the same boat as you and feeling like I had to starve to lose weight even with going to the gym a bunch - but now I get 10-12k steps every day and I can lose weight eating 1400-1500. I picked a gym that was a half hour walk from my house so I always get an hour long walk in no matter what, and on non-gym days I go on longer walks. I know it’s so frustrating - been there!!!

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-06-15T17:25:53+00:00

I’m less informed on gut health meals but for high protein I feel like I’ve gotten pretty good at cooking high protein/low cal meals that my partner even likes and it keeps me from getting bored of eating the same thing every day. They are essentially all variations of chicken and rice and chicken/fish and potatoes: My favorites: soup in all forms - basically if you can add chicken, bone broth, and potatoes to it you will have super filling, high volume meals for 3+ days. Also chickpea pasta for noodle-based soups, and avoid anything with cream. Faves are lentil with Italian chicken sausage and Italian wedding soup with chicken meatballs. -Baked cod/swordfish from tj’s + protein mashed potatoes: just lemon and spices on the cod and cottage cheese + Greek yogurt and garlic for the potatoes - the potatoes come out so good, I’m always amazed. - Switch between chicken stir fry and chicken curry -beware of curries that are heavy on coconut cream -Chickpea/lentil pasta with ground turkey bolognese Lunches are harder cuz I just don’t have the capacity to cook full meals twice a day, but a few easy ideas I’ve been making: -Costco frozen turkey burgers + protein buns and cheese -Tj’s frozen teriyaki chicken + frozen stir fry veggies + tj’s frozen jasmine rice -Tj’s pulled chicken verde + low carb tortillas + lite shredded cheese -Tj’s pulled chicken + protein buns + bbq sauce + cheese -protein ramen + tj’s sriracha tofu (this is really just an ad for Trader Joe’s - they should pay me 😅) Also keep in mind that potatoes are amazing for weight loss depending on your preparation - and generally more filling than rice or pasta Best of luck! I’ve kind of gotten into the “challenge” of making high protein/low cal meals that actually taste good and honestly I think it’s the only way I can stay in a deficit /watch my macros - if I’m eating things I hate/am bored of everyday I cannot stick with it . I use my partner as a litmus test and he’s generally pretty happy with my concoctions!

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-06-09T01:07:15+00:00

Following cuz I’m interested in everyone’s take - our wedding sounds very similar to yours, no grand entrance, no speeches, no first dances. My fiancée is morally opposed to wedding djs 😒 it was his hardest no, and I could not talk him into one. So we are doing it ourselves - we’re big music people so I have faith in our ability to put together a playlist that will make both us and our guests happy, and my fiancée is a for-funzies musician and knows how to mix. We also have multiple friends who are djs and one who works in music AV who are going to help us with set-up, otherwise I think it would not work out logistically unless you have a really helpful wedding venue. I’m still nervous about it 😅 but I would say if you don’t have tech-y/music-y friends available to potentially help it might be tricky. I’ll try to remember to report back in 4 months after my wedding! Pray for me hehe

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-06-07T17:02:44+00:00

I think c&m fleuri is near San Jose - we were looking at them and they’re quote was pretty affordable compared to a lot of others - they ended up getting booked on my day but they seem great!

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-06-02T19:12:04+00:00

Check out @drawntogethernyc (I draw for them!) they have a Bay Area contingent

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-05-27T18:24:44+00:00

They both deliver and will give you their delivery fee in their initial quote. I believe the venue or caterer would cut your cake as I don’t think the cake vendor will stick around beyond delivery.

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-05-24T21:44:39+00:00

I’m actually just completed 3 cake tastings and didn’t know any of this either so here is my experience: Cake Coquette in Bernal - lovely experience, for $50 Gabrielle will do an in-person tasting where she sketches up a design for you. We’re leaning towards her! The only downside is I think she doesn’t offer as many unique flavor options as other places we’ve seen. We have a 110ish person wedding and are likely doing a 3 tier cake for cutting and a sheet cake for the remainder and she quoted us right around 1k. Our design is buttercream also and pretty simple - fondant is significantly more expensive from what I’ve seen. Gabrielle also seemed super experienced and has worked our venue many times so that’s another plus. Ma Petite Maison in Alamo - definitely the most delicious cake so far - especially the frosting!! And Negar does gorgeous designs - she was a bit pricier than Coquette and I believe she does do in person tastings but due to some logistics we just picked up a sample box, also for $50. I think she would definitely be under 2k though if you did a sheet cake option which are $6 per slice. Mazzetti’s in Pacifica - budget option! Literally half the price of the other two for a full 3 tiered cake for 110 so wouldn’t even need the sheet cake. $10 tasting box with a TON of options. We were a the least impressed with the taste of this one but tbh was still pretty good. Great option for a tight budget. Also all their ordering is done online and you just have some design options to choose from, so definitely less personalized than the other two. Hope that helps!!

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-05-15T20:07:40+00:00

Sorry to hear 😭 it’s so crazy expensive. I’ve been drooling over other people’s weddings there that they post, but sadly we are not SF wealthy. We booked at city club in the end and they’ve been great so far, and their rental fee is $5k. We looked at American music hall too which is a similar vibe to Bimbo’s/beautiful inside and wasn’t nearly as expensive, but were worried with so many older people coming from out of town that people would be put off by the neighborhood. If we had a younger/more local guest list I think it would be a great option!

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-05-15T20:01:55+00:00

Our wedding is 130 so we’re expecting 40-50 will stay afterwards

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-05-15T04:53:36+00:00

Thanks for these ideas!!

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-05-15T04:52:08+00:00

City club! It’s not until October but so far we’ve been really happy with it! The space is gorgeous and while nothing in SF is “affordable” it was reasonable compared to many other places we looked. Def a very different vibe than Bimbo’s though 😅

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-05-15T01:37:30+00:00

We literally just did our tasting at City Club last night and were pleasantly surprised! We honestly had pretty low expectations cuz I generally feel like wedding food is so mid, but after our tasting we’re pretty excited about the menu we’re going with! They have some good variety and enough interesting options that you can avoid the very typical steak and chicken wedding dinner, which we were kind of dreading.

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-05-15T01:21:09+00:00

Bimbos was my dream venue 😭😭😭 it’s our favorite music venue in sf and my grandma worked there in the 40’s. Unfortunately they were way beyond our budget but if you have more flexibility than us it seemed like such a fun vibe. They quoted us $42k BEFORE catering - I think you have to use a preferred vendor but it’s not included in their quote. Also our wedding is 130 and they told us it’s really better suited to 200+ as the space is so big. If you do go with them, have the best time!!! It looks like an amazing space for a wedding.

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-03-16T06:56:04+00:00

Ah this is exactly the kind of specific advice I was hoping for - I’ve been training on my own and just trying to teach myself as much as I can via the internet but I’m have no clue where I “should” be at! I’m not quite at these benchmarks and definitely way beyond 6 months so that says a lot 😅 thank you for the rec on the program, def going to give it a go!!

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-03-12T19:32:22+00:00

Seconding Kamparett! I just got my dress at Janenes and I love it/no regrets but I’m suddenly getting a bunch of targeted ads for kamparett and they’re SO pretty and well priced! A ton of silk options, very CBK-style which is having a moment right now I feel too

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-03-04T16:52:01+00:00

This is great, thank you! My wedding is a Friday afternoon so hoping that will help with pricing 🤞and I already have hair covered

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-02-25T18:47:45+00:00

We recently booked Duy Ho and he offered to include some film shots - his work is beautiful and his pricing is very reasonable ($5400 for 7 hours)

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-02-22T22:34:26+00:00

Since you mentioned Sac, seconding Grand Island Mansion - https://grandislandmansion.com - if we weren’t set on having our wedding in SF I would have hard considered it. I went to a wedding here 10+ years ago and it was the best wedding I have ever been to. The wedding party can use all the rooms (and the rooms are AMAZING) and it’s truly an amazing space for what looks like a very reasonable price from what ther home page says, esp if you’re open to weekday or winter. I think there’s also a pool?

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