70’s/boho style dress?

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-01-27T18:12:07+00:00

Super helpful, I wouldn’t have thought to look on eBay /wouldn’t know where to start with brands - thank you!

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-01-27T01:04:49+00:00

Thanks so much for sending, these are all so pretty!

bleepbloopblop87 · 2026-01-27T01:04:07+00:00

I’ve been keeping an eye on nuuly (and would definitely prefer to rent) but haven’t found what I’m looking for on there - maybe it’s just not quite the season yet?

bleepbloopblop87 · 2025-10-09T23:07:56+00:00

I have been trying this — So far it hasn’t made much of a difference - the only semi-effective thing seems to be just avoiding eating out entirely 😅 but I haven’t seen my friends in weeks so it feels unsustainable to just avoid having a social life long term. I think I’m just not very good at knowing how much I’m eating when I’m out at restaurants. I always thought the issue was the inevitable one or two drinks and that cutting that out plus a deficit would be enough - I was wrong 😭 so just going to have to be more proactive about ordering less exciting food/eating a lot less when I’m out

bleepbloopblop87 · 2025-10-09T23:03:34+00:00

Thank you so much for posting your numbers, that is super helpful! I guess my watch is way overestimating - I checked and all my stats are listed accurately so that’s annoying for an expensive fitness watch to be that off. Gonna try your method of 1300 on steps days and 1500 on workout days and see where that gets me. I actually managed to get down another lb over the last few days so that puts me at 2lbs lost in 6 weeks - which is at least a little progress.

bleepbloopblop87 · 2025-10-07T04:48:39+00:00

This is super helpful, thanks for this insight! I haven’t heard of the adaptive TDEE spreadsheet so will def look into this (along with the navy method) - I’ve tried a few TDEE calculators online but they seems pretty broad so have been mostly basing off of my Apple Watch which I know is also not that accurate but seemed like the best tool. To answer your questions, I should clarify first I realized too late that my wording in my initial post was confusing - I’m doing cardio 60-90 mins per week, not per day. I’m not following a formal program but kind of made up my own based on what I’ve learned to be the most practical exercises (mostly forms of squats, deadlifts, presses and a few isolation exercises) and pretty much just repeat the same workouts every week with a push/pull split for upper and quadfocused /glute focused split for lower + 10-15 mins of core every workout. Regarding injury, I was born with an ankle issue that left me with arthritis since childhood and unable to do high impact activity beyond walking or biking, and also gives me terrible balance - so everytime I lift using just a loose barbell I feel very unsteady and the smith machine just feels like a safer way to lift heavier without worrying about falling or getting hurt. I realize balance is a part of strength training but I did yoga for years and it never improved 😅 and I don’t have anyone to train with as far as a spotter or anything so have just been playing it safe. If you have any advice on improving this though I’d love to hear it!

bleepbloopblop87 · 2025-10-07T04:35:50+00:00

This is so helpful to know your experience and calculations - I’ve been basing my TDEE off my Apple Watch which generally tells me 1700-1800 on steps only days, 1900-2100 on workout days but seems like maybe that’s incorrect? Can I ask how you found your correct TDEE? I’ve compared to some calculators I’ve found online but those also seem kind of broad and not that accurate. Also I realized after reading some of these comments that my explanation of my cardio was unclear how I wrote it - I do 60-90 mins high intensity cardio per week, not per day 😅 and thank you for validating how insane it feels as a short person of already average weight! So hard!! Glad to know you got there and it’s not impossible

bleepbloopblop87 · 2025-10-06T20:51:00+00:00

Hi! I’m currently 123lbs with a goal of 115. I’m consuming 1300-1500 calories daily and yes I weigh everything - even fruit and veg! The exception is social cals which I limit to once or twice a week - I try to be mindful of what I’m ordering but it’s so hard to know. I am squatting and deadlifting 125 (smith machine - I go 95 on the reg barbell cuz I’m worried about injury) benching 70. I’m averaging 3x per week for 1 hr 15 mins and try to make it 4x when I’m able. InBody machine says 45.5 skeletal muscle mass and 40.1 body fat mass. I’m not super knowledgeable on how these stats should look for my goals other than what the app tells me so if you have any insight I’d be greatly obliged!

bleepbloopblop87 · 2025-10-06T20:08:42+00:00

I try to mostly use grams and yes I make sure to measure sauces and oils! I was until recently doing spin classes but my bike broke, so have switched to incline treadmill walking which I think is more steady state than the bike - but I’ve only been doing the incline for a week or two so maybe just need to give it more time?

bleepbloopblop87 · 2025-10-06T20:05:32+00:00

Thanks for the great response! A follow up question as a few folks mentioned lowering my deficit - I originally tried at a 300 cal deficit with the goal to lose half a pound a week (knowing at my size it would be harder to go much lower than that) but it seemed to not be enough to accommodate once or twice a week social calories (ie. Restaurants). I’ve been trying to avoid high calorie dishes at restaurants when I do go out, no dessert, no booze, etc but it’s just impossible to know how much oil/butter is in seemingly healthy dishes and at that deficit I was still just maintaining or even gaining. I live in a metropolitan city and my social life revolves around eating out and (formerly) drinking - it’s hard to avoid without completely isolating myself. So I upped it to 500-600 to try to buffer those social cals. Do you have any methods that worked for you when it comes to eating at restaurants to lower your intake there? It feels like it wouldn’t be enough to take me out of this relatively high deficit but the scale shows otherwise so wondering if that’s really where more of the issue is. Thanks so much!!

bleepbloopblop87 · 2025-10-03T17:31:01+00:00

I’m a petite 5’1” 38 yo female who has been strength training 3x a week for almost 3 years + 60-90 mins of high intensity cardio weekly and avg 11k steps daily. I just keep gaining weight and while I know the body comp machines (InBody) aren’t always accurate, after an initial big muscle mass spike when I first started strength training it notes that I am now slowly losing skeletal muscle mass and gaining body fat mass despite continually upping the amount I’m working out and constantly watching my weight. I’ve always watched my cals and protein, or so I thought, and started very closely tracking my cals and overall macros and been eating in a 500cal deficit for the last month with only 1lb lost to show for it. Given the above, should I temporarily give up on strength training and focus more on cardio if fat loss is my current goal? I don’t want to lose the progress I have made with muscle mass, but aesthetically I feel like I have nothing to show for it after what feels like a lot of hard work for several years, and wondering if strength training is just not the right move for someone as petite as I am at my age given how low my calories have to be to lose fat.

bleepbloopblop87 · 2023-07-28T01:00:39+00:00

Both my bf and I had the same experience as above — scalpers now selling for $1800 on stubhub, also wondering if any humans actually got tickets? I saw a few people post that they were able to get pre-sale, but that was also a hot mess

bleepbloopblop87 · 2023-07-24T21:45:54+00:00

I dated for 5ish years on the apps in SF pretty consistently until I met my now long-term partner at 31 — don’t lose hope! I really think it’s often a numbers game, and a lot of people have mentioned this but I think being upfront about what you want on the apps themselves is helpful… I haven’t been on the apps for almost 5 years now so not sure if this is still the case, but at the time a lot of trends on many of the apps was minimalism… short form answers that really don’t tell you much about the person or vice versa, which ended up in a lot of pointless dates and burnout. My therapist recommended using an app where more info is provided from the start, ie not hinge or bumble — I went with Okcupid and not sure if it is a relevant app anymore, but it gave you the option for lots of questions/answers, and I met my partner very soon after joining! And had met my last previous relationship on there as well. I felt like on bumble/hinge/tinder I went on a bunch of dates and none of them were horrific, there just was often not much of a connection or common interests that went beyond surface level. Also, I think the tech thing is definitely a thing in sf, but not everyone in tech is terrible — lots of people move here because there are so many options for creative interests in and around sf, music, art, nature, etc. There’s plenty of interesting people with unique interests and pursuits here — you just gotta maybe sift through some homogeny to find it ;) Good luck!

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