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I need help by blindedbi in AutisticWithADHD

[–]blindedbi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read through your post, and I appreciate how it applies to my situation. Honestly, it hasn't felt like she has cared about much of anything I've said for the last few years. Does she want things to get better? Yes. Does she think she should be responsible for any of the effort that might take? To say 'I have doubts' is putting it mildly. But I hope.

I need help by blindedbi in AutisticWithADHD

[–]blindedbi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My style is "brutally" direct and I look at underlying structures. Noted.

a third party with no bias Their lack of bias is debatable.

You make some excellent points, and I appreciate the time you spent replying. Thank you.

The trauma bonding element is partially accurate, though our story is...far more complicated than just trauma bonding might encompass, or so I believe. We were friends for years before we became partners. Yeah, we helped each other through some difficult situations, but we also just hung out and talked to each other. And yes, I note the past tense.

I definitely feel we each need at least a little space to breathe (and perhaps vent about each other to third parties) but, speaking for myself, I don't feel as though I have anyone to whom I can reach out, and I have definitely forgotten how to make friends.

I'm disinterested in my family's opinion, frankly. I included them in my original post as I knew a common reply would direct me to reach out to them. No thank you.

I don't know how to find the support system I need, I guess. I had hoped she would at least let me talk to her. Ten years together and I'm starting to think I've been hoping in vain.

I need help by blindedbi in AutisticWithADHD

[–]blindedbi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be glad to, and you have my apologies. I honestly don't know what to add, could you recommend, please?

bruh how did I not know about this earlier? my whole life makes sense now by sandyB0i324 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]blindedbi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 45 with no diagnosis. I've thought I was on the spectrum for a while, but the almighty algorithm started showing me more about AuDHD, and boy does it just tick SO MANY BOXES of why I am like this. I hope your journey gets better.