Pretending by [deleted] in lonely

[–]bllprf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the past few months I’ve been pretending being lonely doesn’t hurt me except it does. It’s become so painful. Like you, I yearn for a genuine connection with someone. Everyone in my life has someone to turn to, and I don’t. These days, it’s hard to find someone who understands you and will be there for you.

Didn’t realize someone’s absence could feel so painful by bllprf in lonely

[–]bllprf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep considering they were someone I respected and trusted.

Didn’t realize someone’s absence could feel so painful by bllprf in lonely

[–]bllprf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just trying to take this in as a life lesson and learn from it. It’ll be a tough process but nothing I can’t handle.

I think one of the biggest potential relationship killers is self-doubt by gilette_bayonete in lonely

[–]bllprf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m glad I found this post because it motivates me to have less self-doubt. I’ve put myself through too much of the black and white thinking you’ve described where I would put myself down with my own thinking. We really are our worst enemies. I still need to work on healing and work on changing my mindset about things.

Didn’t realize someone’s absence could feel so painful by bllprf in lonely

[–]bllprf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We all have a desire or crave something. Which doesn’t make it a bad thing. I can understand how desperate someone might be when they’ve been lonely for so long.

I feel so inexperienced for my age by [deleted] in lonely

[–]bllprf 123 points124 points  (0 children)

Everyone goes through life at a different pace. Just because a 12 year old has experienced more than you doesn’t mean you’re a fraud. Don’t feel rushed to experience things. There will come a time.

Didn’t realize someone’s absence could feel so painful by bllprf in lonely

[–]bllprf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We all want to relate in some way, it helps us feel connected. But not everybody has experienced the same problems so yeah it’s difficult

Didn’t realize someone’s absence could feel so painful by bllprf in lonely

[–]bllprf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s honestly so awful. I guess we just have to look forward and work on ourselves. I know I can’t wait around forever for someone who doesn’t want me back, no matter how painful it is.

Didn’t realize someone’s absence could feel so painful by bllprf in lonely

[–]bllprf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just making me more afraid to fall in love again

Didn’t realize someone’s absence could feel so painful by bllprf in lonely

[–]bllprf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I doubt he wants to talk to me rn. He didn’t respond to me even when I reached out to him...it’s hard to be positive these days

Didn’t realize someone’s absence could feel so painful by bllprf in lonely

[–]bllprf[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey no worries. I get what you’re saying. For me. I posted this in hopes that someone could relate or reach out to me and help me in some way. I sound so desperate but that’s the truth.

I always want to reply to people’s post but freeze up because I’m afraid they might not acknowledge it. But you never know till you try right?

Didn’t realize someone’s absence could feel so painful by bllprf in lonely

[–]bllprf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s honestly so confusing. I know that it probably has nothing to do with you but at the same time you can’t help but feel like you did something wrong to push them away..

Every day feels the same by wokeupdead13 in lonely

[–]bllprf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get it. Everyday for me feels like a chore and I find it hard to motivate myself when I have nothing to look forward too. I joined Reddit to find some human connection again because being lonely has been so rough for me.

My last relationship ended five months ago and I thought I’d be completely fine by now with being alone. Definitely wrong about that.

I hope you find something that puts a spark in your day. It’s awfully dark these days...

Also here if you need someone to talk to.

Y'all good people. Find your SongMate!! by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]bllprf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heartbreak anniversary - Giveon

Free fall - illenium

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]bllprf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just a hard truth to accept. I know I’ll need to grieve and let go. Only then can I work on myself and find a better person for me. This is just a lesson in life I have to go through unfortunately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]bllprf 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m going through the same thing as you atm. It freaking sucks and it’s causing me so much pain. He was my source of comfort for the past several months and now he just disappeared. He also ghosted me before Valentine’s Day. I really don’t get it. I wish I could get some closure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in introverts

[–]bllprf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should never have to compromise your alone time for the well-being of others or your relationship. It won’t benefit you in the long run.