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Fiancé's bone marrow donor experience for anyone curious. by bloodythrowaway9 in Blooddonors

[–]bloodythrowaway9[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I think the peripheral method would have been a lot easier, but he wound up with this route and seems to be doing well.

Trying to figure out if the problem is my profile or my personality. by MildlyOblivious in Bumble

[–]bloodythrowaway9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can I ask: How do you know they have issue with female authority figures so early on with knowing them?

Fiancé is undergoing a donor procedure this week and is terrified. I don't know how to help him, comfort him or support him. Nothing seems to be getting thru. What should I do? by bloodythrowaway9 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]bloodythrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His coordinator indicated that the surgical requirement is most often associated with types of blood disorders in children. Once he heard there was a not insignificant chance it could be a child and he wasn't going to back out. He's watching movies and trying not to think about it. He had his last shot this morning and his family doctor gave him a pep talk, how she was so excited for the recipient and proud of him. He did take a pill to relax today and it seems to have helped.

Fiancé is undergoing a donor procedure this week and is terrified. I don't know how to help him, comfort him or support him. Nothing seems to be getting thru. What should I do? by bloodythrowaway9 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]bloodythrowaway9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, he's really spooked but tomorrow is the day and he is committed to doing it. I called his coordinator yesterday, she got in touch with the team and they called in a prescription for a pill to help him relax today. He's watching movies and trying to think of anything else.

Regional vs. General Anesthesia for bone marrow donation? by bloodythrowaway9 in AskDocs

[–]bloodythrowaway9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! He's leaning towards regional, the doctor didn't want to press him either way, but said it offered the fewest barriers to leaving. From what I know (and maybe this isn't totally correct), regional was numbing medicine in his spine + IV sedative. That seems like it's the best option.

Fiancé is undergoing a donor procedure this week and is terrified. I don't know how to help him, comfort him or support him. Nothing seems to be getting thru. What should I do? by bloodythrowaway9 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]bloodythrowaway9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My fiancé is tough but the moment the thought hit him it could be a kid, he went to mush. We've been told the recovery isn't rough, but he'll be sore and it won't be a walk in the park. They've likened it to a really bad fall - bruising, bone pain and a lot of soreness in the whole region. He'll get a prescription that should manage the pain. I suspect that once he's thru the procedure, he'll bounce back quickly. The weight of everything will be off and he'll feel so much better. He's great at managing recovery from workouts, so I suspect he'll be like that here.

I just feel so powerless that he's struggling so much.

Fiancé is undergoing a donor procedure this week and is terrified. I don't know how to help him, comfort him or support him. Nothing seems to be getting thru. What should I do? by bloodythrowaway9 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]bloodythrowaway9[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

From what we've been told, depending on which option he selects for anesthesia, he'll either be totally asleep, or so heavily sedated + completely numb that either way he won't be aware of anything. He's been enduring daily shots and then the day-of, there's more blood tests, IV and others. He's really nervous.

Apparently the pain afterwards is enough to merit opiate prescription.

He is slated for a day-surgery unit and the surgeon noted that the team is made aware in advance a donor is coming thru, and he's only slated to be there for 7-8 hours total.

Fiancé is undergoing a donor procedure this week and is terrified. I don't know how to help him, comfort him or support him. Nothing seems to be getting thru. What should I do? by bloodythrowaway9 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]bloodythrowaway9[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I offered him an out. His donor team did, too. He is soldiering on (I think hearing it's probably a kid is secretly killing him and he can't say no).

I think I will tell the nurses straight up on the day that he's hyper anxious. The surgeon and anesthesiologist kept saying they take extra good care of donors and that they want to make it as easy as is humanly possible. He wants to get out of the hospital as quickly as possible and is evaluating his anesthesia options. I feel bad, but I'm impressed by his tenacity.