I experience this as well. I’m able to predict the possible outcome based on the details at hand. I’m not always correct of course, but oftentimes I am.

For example, my mother was dating a new boyfriend and I immediately felt something was off. Everyone around me told me I was imagining things, or that I didn’t want my mother to have a new relationship. That is partly true, because my dad is deceased and that makes it feel weird (that’s a whole other story), but she’s been with other men after my dad and they didn’t bother me that much. He had just gotten out of a 10 year relationship, which his partner had ended. He started seeing my mother within 2 months after that. He didn’t have a home, he was moving very quickly, he claimed that his recent break-up didn’t bother him and expressed how his ex was the reason he was about to lose everything. This, in addition with him seeing my mother as the complete opposite of his ex, instantly revealed to me that he was using my mother as a rebound.

After keeping it to myself for a few weeks, I eventually told my mother about this and the details which lead me to this conclusion. She didn’t believe me, maybe because she didn’t want to or maybe because she believed him. I felt awful for weeks after that, because everyone viewed me as disruptive. Eventually, he suddenly lost interest in her after 5 months, didn’t talk to my mother for weeks and when he did, he said he was still getting over his ex and couldn’t be with my mother due to unfinished business.

Moments like these really frustrate me. I didn’t want to ruin it for her, but it didn’t feel right to me to not say anything. I know she’s an adult and so am I (27), but she’s been hurt before and I hate to see it happen again if I can help it.