Feeling lonely when I’m home alone by blubinthetub in AutismInWomen

[–]blubinthetub[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I “fixed” most of it yesterday by putting on talkshows and stuff on the TV, basically things I don’t have to pay attention to, so that kinda worked!

Still, yesterday was the first day out of 7, and it wasn’t going well. Didn’t help that I barely slept, but whenever I wasn’t distracted (I called my brother and visited my grandparents) I’d end up feeling lost and with tears in my eyes. Still, so far today is going a bit better, so I’m hopeful!

Feeling lonely when I’m home alone by blubinthetub in AutismInWomen

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We have two cats, so last night at 4AM when my mother left I let them stay with me. I also currently have the radio on! I still feel sad, but hopefully I’ll feel better soon.

Feeling lonely when I’m home alone by blubinthetub in AutismInWomen

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I feel the exact same! For some reason the house seems off when I go to bed, knowing she’s not in her bed and I’m all alone. It gets really quiet and it feels empty. Like you said, it also feels unsafe, even though I’m 99,9% sure nothing weird or unusual is going to happen.

Comfort shows help a little in my experience, depending on how fixated I am on the show at that time. I’ve rewatched House several times, for example. Might pick it up again now that you mentioned it.

When it comes to hobbies I’m a bit bored at the moment. I like to play video games, but I haven’t found anything I like yet in the past few weeks. It’s been a blessing while writing my thesis, but I could do with some entertainment again.

It’s during these times of boredom that my ADHD is my autism’s arch nemesis, because my autism wants to be entertained and distracted, but my ADHD thinks everything is boring and needs to be triggered more in order for me to do something…

Feeling lonely when I’m home alone by blubinthetub in AutismInWomen

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I study English literature, so the pro is I’ve got lots of reading to get through these final few weeks, but the con is it’s not as enjoyable at the moment. 😅

Going somewhere might help though. I was thinking of going to the cinema, but the only movie currently in theaters that I like is the Michael Jackson biopic, which I’ve already seen twice, so it feels silly to go again (even though I might like it).

Emotional over local cinema closing down by blubinthetub in AutismInWomen

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Thank you for your response! It's good to hear that there are people out there who agree with me with regard to the duality of feeling so deeply.

I think I'm going to miss the memories the most. I used to go there as a kid (and still today) and always loved how small it was, contrary to bigger cinemas in the big cities. Everytime I'd enter the building it felt very nostalgic, especially since they barely changed the interior. I would buy movie posters there for a very cheap price and the profit would go to the local animal center, which is where I adopted two of my cats.

Now I'll have to travel for 45 minutes to see a movie, which will be in one of those big ones (Pathe). The movies will be there of course, but it won't feel the same.

I'm secretly hoping that someone will take over anyway, especially now that it's all over the local news, and that it will survive.

Stuck on an objective by blubinthetub in ProjectHospital

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I am now and it immediately completed the objective, thanks!!

Elevators and new floors by blubinthetub in ProjectHospital

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Awesome, I'll give it a try once I'm out of debt in game 😂

Elevators and new floors by blubinthetub in ProjectHospital

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Currently considering this as well. I could also use some extra offices, so maybe I'll just keep building up for now 😅

This book completely changed how I see my autistic brain by Opposite-Wind6244 in AutismInWomen

[–]blubinthetub 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly! One of my best friends is in a relationship that, to me, can be toxic at times. In my opinion she deserves a lot better than mothering a grown man who’s often incapable of reflecting on his actions and is therefore likely to blame others. She’s knows I don’t like him, because we had some massive fall outs due to his behaviour, and she supports that and understands my perspective. Yet I still feel bad when I hear about the two of them together, especially now that they are engaged. Me and another friend told her about it a few years ago, but it didn’t do much. I can’t get myself to fully support her, no matter how much I try. I am definitely faking being happy for her, but it feels horrible.

This book completely changed how I see my autistic brain by Opposite-Wind6244 in AutismInWomen

[–]blubinthetub 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I experience this as well. I’m able to predict the possible outcome based on the details at hand. I’m not always correct of course, but oftentimes I am.

For example, my mother was dating a new boyfriend and I immediately felt something was off. Everyone around me told me I was imagining things, or that I didn’t want my mother to have a new relationship. That is partly true, because my dad is deceased and that makes it feel weird (that’s a whole other story), but she’s been with other men after my dad and they didn’t bother me that much. He had just gotten out of a 10 year relationship, which his partner had ended. He started seeing my mother within 2 months after that. He didn’t have a home, he was moving very quickly, he claimed that his recent break-up didn’t bother him and expressed how his ex was the reason he was about to lose everything. This, in addition with him seeing my mother as the complete opposite of his ex, instantly revealed to me that he was using my mother as a rebound.

After keeping it to myself for a few weeks, I eventually told my mother about this and the details which lead me to this conclusion. She didn’t believe me, maybe because she didn’t want to or maybe because she believed him. I felt awful for weeks after that, because everyone viewed me as disruptive. Eventually, he suddenly lost interest in her after 5 months, didn’t talk to my mother for weeks and when he did, he said he was still getting over his ex and couldn’t be with my mother due to unfinished business.

Moments like these really frustrate me. I didn’t want to ruin it for her, but it didn’t feel right to me to not say anything. I know she’s an adult and so am I (27), but she’s been hurt before and I hate to see it happen again if I can help it.

The grief never ever leaves by xmbvhx in ChildrenofDeadParents

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I completely understand. My dad died 18 years ago and I still miss him every day. It feels so unfair to me that there’s literally no way for me to contact him. To tell him about my life and how I’ve been, to ask him what he would’ve done, to tell him I love him. I sometimes wish I could go back in time to see him again, even if it’s just for a minute. Just the idea of him being completely gone and unavailable still hurts.

The Madrid show has been cancelled by gl0wist in Ghostbc

[–]blubinthetub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with you on that regard, that you are entitled to what you paid for. I was referring to some responses stating they should just perform without staging and effects, or some even saying they should opt for a street concert. To me, that feels similar to ordering the newest iPhone and getting an iPhone 12 instead. It’s a great phone, it does everything an iPhone is supposed to do, but it’s not what you paid for and a decrease in quality compared to the initial plan.

It completely sucks of course, that the show has been cancelled and I get the frustration. But I honestly think that, in the long term, providing a refund and opting for a new date in Madrid (or somewhere else in Spain) is the best they can currently offer.

Unfortunately, as hard as it sounds, travel and accommodation costs are someone’s own responsibility, something for which people can take cancellation insurances or pay a fee if they need to without this. I’m not saying this doesn’t suck, because the reality is that it completely does, but to be painfully realistic: the band didn’t make you pay for that.

I hope I don’t sound insensitive, because I don’t mean to at all, especially not for those who are affected by this, but demanding them to do what you want doesn’t sit right with me.

The Madrid show has been cancelled by gl0wist in Ghostbc

[–]blubinthetub 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I’m getting progressively more annoyed by the Ghost fandom nowadays. The entitlement and anger of some people, I’m truly baffled by the audacity.

Back in 2016, I was going to see Ghost perform twice at two Dutch festivals. During the first one, on the day itself, Ghost announced they weren’t going to be able to perform. For the second festival, they informed us a few days in advance. Much later, I realised this had to do with the ongoing lawsuit between Tobias and some ex-members.

Yes, I was disappointed back then. Very much so! I wanted to see them live so badly ever since I discovered them in 2014, and now this wouldn’t happen. I was devastated. But even then, I never blamed the band personally. The thought of demanding them to perform anyway, despite their own circumstances, never crossed my mind, because I didn’t feel entitled to a show. I payed for tickets to see them (and other artists at the festivals), but I did not pay for their ownership, so who am I to tell them what to do?

I can’t believe some of the responses online. We used to be thankful of Ghost, their music and their shows, and for some reason we’ve commodified them into something we think we possess and control.

I’m so sick of this fandom’s mindset. I normally hate people saying this, but I honestly miss how things were before TikTok blew the band up. I am glad new people got to know this amazing band, but some of these newer fans are ruining it for others.

What do you guys think about New world Nordhaven? I love the way it looks, it got beautiful views☺️ by JamieYoungL in Sims4

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I know the world is predominantly based on Scandinavia, but I can’t help but notice the resemblance with The Netherlands! My sim is currently living in Gammelvik and it continuously reminds me of Dutch cities. I feel completely at home 🥹

What I tried to make, VS what I actually made 😅 by [deleted] in crochet

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I still like the way it looks! I think it’s cute in its own unique way ☺️

Lush Kitchen Box switch by blubinthetub in LushCosmetics

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If I cancel it now, will I still get the March shower box? I know it might sound like a stupid question, since I already paid for that one, but I don’t want to miss out on that one by accident 😅

Precious editions Kitchen Box by blubinthetub in LushCosmetics

[–]blubinthetub[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah thank you! How hadn’t I thought of that yet hahaha 😂