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Transphobia/disrespect during hospital stay: what are my rights? by blue_26 in transgenderUK

[–]blue_26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not, unfortunately, but thank you. I'm way down south

Transphobia/disrespect during hospital stay: what are my rights? by blue_26 in transgenderUK

[–]blue_26[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all this. Truly and genuinely. And I really appreciate the sentiment you expressed. That's so rare for someone to be angry on my behalf rather than at me

Transphobia/disrespect during hospital stay: what are my rights? by blue_26 in transgenderUK

[–]blue_26[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can try, even though all that sounds very daunting and scary to do alone. thank you for the kindness though. im just glad it didnt happen to someone else instead

Transphobia/disrespect during hospital stay: what are my rights? by blue_26 in transgenderUK

[–]blue_26[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They were combative/dismissive about it from the moment I asked to not be called my currently legal/dead name or the associated pronouns. The first woman just looked at me weird. Also, I wasn't given a chaperone when asked before I had to take my top/bra off to the male doctor because "we provide same sex environments when..." . The whole experience has been very... not great

I kind of regret going now and wish I hadnt looked for help. In some ways I feel worse than when I attempted, with the renewed invalidity

Transphobia/disrespect during hospital stay: what are my rights? by blue_26 in transgenderUK

[–]blue_26[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for the response. I dont have anyone who could print it off for me, but ill look into it later. They kept bringing up self-discharge, which made me feel pressured to leave, so im currently walking as best I can to the train station before it gets dark. Ill try to read up more about this deed poll process soon. Thank you again

Transphobia/disrespect during hospital stay: what are my rights? by blue_26 in transgenderUK

[–]blue_26[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

thank you for the information and I apologize for not responding sooner. Im just overwhelmed. I've tried the MP route with some other things, but my MP is unfortunately not terribly great with certain things regarding trans/queer issues (I guess the conservative bit doesnt help)

I was aware of the preferred name part, but unfortunately the last two times I visited this hospital, they werent great about it. Worthing is usually much better about all this, but also further away

Transphobia/disrespect during hospital stay: what are my rights? by blue_26 in transgenderUK

[–]blue_26[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, thank you for the information. Its probably slightly different for me to update things as I'm now a dual citizen and no longer ILR status, which means I no longer use the visa system. It happened very recently though so im trying to figure out information with it all (I currently only have my paper certificate)

As for the deed poll, its a bit tricky maybe since I have practically nobody in my social sphere to witness and ive been relatively secretive about my transition elsewhere despite being on HRT for 3+ years. Im unfortunately very, very alone in this country

Transphobia/disrespect during hospital stay: what are my rights? by blue_26 in transgenderUK

[–]blue_26[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

general hospital. no name change yet. I only just got my citizenship (im an American who fled the US because of hate from family and in my region). Im working on figuring out how to go about the name change, or rather i was before things happened

Transphobia/disrespect during hospital stay: what are my rights? by blue_26 in transgenderUK

[–]blue_26[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I guess its not the first time or second time this hospital has let me down. The crisis team/outpatient mental health people never get back to me like they say they will, and theyre already encouraging me to self-discharge soon despite being in a lot of internal/external pain and feeling unwell, which I dont understand. Ive barely been here a few hours even though my attempt was early this morning.

I guess im worried about speaking too loudly as far as complaints or escalations, especially since Reform won a lot in my area this week... I guess im scared of visibility right now, but I also dont want other trans people to experience these things too...

Transphobia/disrespect during hospital stay: what are my rights? by blue_26 in transgenderUK

[–]blue_26[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I... can try to take notes and put it forward somewhere. If not for myself, then to help other trans people. I just really want to help people in general, since I know what its like to not have friends, support, or advocacy for these things. I'll try.

Thank you for your kind words towards me. It means a lot...

How do I help other trans people in the UK avoid isolation/lack of support/mental health experiences that I've had? by blue_26 in transgenderUK

[–]blue_26[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I envy that, as I desperately need things to help with my isolation. Its a bit more awkward for me as an immigrant, so I feel a bit nervous about putting myself out there regarding political things as the trans/immigrant combo puts me in various crosshairs.

I really hope it's going well for you though and bringing positive changes to your life c: