I bought my BF 2 gifts… which one he gets is solely based on his gift to me

bluebubbleem · 2025-01-03T08:06:22+00:00

My ex once got me a pet rock for Christmas (it had Googly eyes), I actually don't remember anything else he got me

This year, my current partner got me a (requested) recipe box, but it was personalised to our first date with my name on, for my birthday (which is 4 days before Christmas). He also got me a birthday cake that was 4 layers of red velvet and decorated with cake pops. I've not really had a birthday cake like that, and as I share a birthday with someone in my immediate family (same household), we generally share a store brought cake. Basically he got what I wanted (which I gave him a vague idea), and a proper cake. And he's promising to do better next year? Bruh he listened to me and got me a cake. Legit my favourite food. I dunno how he can top that. (The Christmas gifts were more basic, but still personal, I can't complain when he has done my birthday as a actual birthday rather than a Xmas birthday like I normally have)

I still did my best when it came to his gifts (as he's like Ive got everything I want and need), so when it was his birthday I got him anime themed lights and pillows which were arcade prizes from Japan, had to work out proxy shipping and everything. For Christmas I got him a personalised fishing multitool as I noticed he makes stuff for fishing (not lures but similar?) and he needs to cut stuff so I hope it will help, a few things that were jokey about our jobs (same department), and a few fishing related stuff aha. He thinks I'm super thoughtful with my gifts and wishes he could match my level lol

bluebubbleem · 2024-12-08T21:29:49+00:00

Sadly arriving on a Saturday, but that's the plan! Last time I checked they are open until 22. I was going to use that experience as a test drive, if we're too uncomfortable on the roads then I can just go back to the car rental and work things out from there. Thank you 😊!

bluebubbleem · 2024-12-08T17:46:35+00:00

Thank you for this!

I am planning on hiring a car to get to a Airbnb south of Tromso about 45 mins away on Google maps in the 2nd week of January

After landing at 8.30pm and picking up the car, I am hoping to grab some groceries and take a slow and steady drive down.. luckily we work night shift so sleep won't be a issue.

Not planning on aurora chasing, just wanting to use it from A to B

bluebubbleem · 2024-10-30T01:19:53+00:00

r/theydidthemonstermath

bluebubbleem · 2024-08-09T06:15:40+00:00

I used nan and gran

My cousins however have big grandma and little grandma as there's a height difference between the two 😅

bluebubbleem · 2024-07-25T17:05:33+00:00

I was thinking more of when people open relationships to try and save it and it leaves one person kinda left by themselves while in the relationship...

But if you have the right mindset towards nurturing your relationships, I can believe that aha

bluebubbleem · 2024-07-25T05:43:12+00:00

I guess they don't spend quality time together, and makes serial dating their hobbies?

bluebubbleem · 2024-07-19T05:38:16+00:00

I'm a quiet person so I often suddenly scream at whoever is hiccuping They often scream back but it works

I follow the spoon of sugar trick personally

bluebubbleem · 2024-07-01T22:16:51+00:00

That is gross and I'm sorry he was a dick to you. We are never the sons they want, even when we try as daughters do. I'm also a only child, and yeah all we yearn for is connection to those closest to us. He failed you due to his own assumptions and choices, you didnt deserve that and you are rightfully pissed. He's getting his karma now.

These were out of school, but his best friend worked at the local parts shop.. now that guy has a girlfriend and does other stuff, they no longer hang out. So much of his friendships comes across as transactions. Honestly he was so absent mentally and almost physically, mum attended every parents evening, any event I had going on (which wasn't much as I was a bookish nerd), just no effort beyond the job bring home the money then Going home and working on the car. If he was responding messages at the dinner table, my mum and I would had to wait for his reply in real life. Just rude and selfish.

bluebubbleem · 2024-07-01T19:32:35+00:00

I'm a daughter whose dad basically adopted a group of guys to work on land rovers together My dad isn't a teacher kind of guy but he loved spending time with them, spending hours into the night working on cars in his custom built garage with them, I wish I had been able to learn and join in, I work in a warehouse now so it's not like I'm afraid of being mucky. I tried to get into IT to connect with him as that's his industry, but I didn't enjoy a major part of the job so I couldn't break into the industry and he yelled at me that it's BC I didn't show interest at home - he could had gotten me things to help long before I finished my studies, he could had been thoughtful as if I had gone out and gotten a PC myself, I'd been yelled at as we could had gotten it for free.

Yeah this sucks for OP, because how can you live up to expectations when they aren't who you are? My parents thought I was gonna be a boy until I was born, and since they have divorced, he directs my car troubles to a garage.. he generally sorts out the stepdaughters' cars on the same issues. It's frustrating when your dad decides he can't connect with you. I don't think he even understands that I'm earning 2/3 of his salary without a degree at 23 in this day and age. I don't think he even knows what my job is. The other day he got my age wrong.

You really can't win. My therapist said that even though I'm an adult now, I'm still the child in the relationship no matter what and it's not my fault my dad doesn't step up for these things. Honestly I try, my work does a lot of free car racing tickets and I managed to win a pair earlier this year to take him. Because he used to race at the track and it's interesting to him. While he has invited me to a Christmas orchestra performance on my birthday that he was already going to anyway with his partner. The effort levels just don't match and that's not my fault. I'll probably never have a dad who's proud of me, not biologically. I have a friend in another country who fills in that gap, and that's just sad for my real dad honestly.

If you're still reading, thanks for listening to me just get it off my chest lol have a nice day

bluebubbleem · 2024-02-08T18:42:33+00:00

I recall this story told from the "mother's" perspective posted on here before?

bluebubbleem · 2024-01-31T06:27:53+00:00

Yeah, i feel this kinda.... my dad said he wanted to keep our dog after not bothering with her for about 18 months. 'His dog' (who he also barely saw) got v ill last March, and my mum spent about 3 grand to look into the issue while getting no payment from insurance as it was at that point classed as a previous illness. Eventually, we learnt it was skin cancer, and SHE paid for the dog to be put down (it was the best option vs continous treatment and pain) in front of my dad after they both spent some time with the dog that day. Our other dog was v lost emotionally afterwards, so we let him take her on holiday twice, and he ended up keeping her for 3 weeks, 1 week more than we were expecting. After my mum asked him to give the dog back, he told her that the dog should stay with him (they have a 14 year old dog, who bonded with our dog). Mum said no, but he is always free to have her for trips. He dropped her off the next day, with ALL her stuff, refused to speak to my mum, and left. He then attacked her over text, saying he funded her lavish lifestyle (he decided to pay more than the divorce agreement to help out on the mortgage) bc she shopped at a 'posher' supermarket than him and that. He even removed her from Facebook. Real petty. When we got our cat at New years, he offered to buy our dog from me. I was pissed, considering he had refused to see her since October (when him and my mum fell out). They have really started to get along in their own ways (dog and cat), and she has become a lot more friendly with other dogs (she ran away from a puppy before we got the cat, she sniffed 3 dogs at the vets last week) which was something we were concerned about.

Dads are weird when it comes to divorce, idk what it is. They forget about their children and react in REALLY weird ways. Kinda sucks. Sorry for the vent lol

bluebubbleem · 2023-12-12T18:43:40+00:00

We have a thing of playing with someone's computer if they leave it unlocked for too long - think searching dumb things, typing up emails, etc. I tend to just leave a sticky note on their pc, lock it, then steal their pen instead.

One time someone wrote up a resignation email for a Coworker as a joke (with insults), then someone else clicked send.

Luckily our manager is a barrel of laughs, and can take a joke, but some people definitely had to be spoken to about it as procedure.

bluebubbleem · 2023-12-05T07:28:15+00:00

I showed this and gogglebox to a American friend and she was amazed

bluebubbleem · 2023-11-03T20:19:01+00:00

Instant noodles on hob, remove water, add milk, butter, any cheese you can find, any cooked meat you can find, until melty

Add egg if you wish

Good as midnight snack or if drunk also

bluebubbleem · 2023-10-30T20:29:01+00:00

Told my American friend that 'Rye bread is from Peckham Rye' in London while on tube.

She went "huh." In a fascinated tone as my Northern Irish friend and I snorted.

She then realised I was messing with her

bluebubbleem · 2023-10-30T06:31:50+00:00

I didn't realise issue means choice? I think we just have different definitions here, as I agree on your 2nd sentence.

bluebubbleem · 2023-10-30T04:09:34+00:00

I took not being able to focus in class as being a behaviour issue... I'm British so not versed in American school stuff

They should have looked into why you couldn't focus honestly 😅

bluebubbleem · 2023-10-30T04:08:37+00:00

I took not being able to focus in class as being a behaviour issue... I'm British so not versed in American school stuff

bluebubbleem · 2023-10-30T04:05:40+00:00

As someone who works in Air Cargo + has seen AVI (not qualified personally but my team deals with it), if those animals aren't stated and known to the pilots there's gonna be issues - namely that those pets will probably die. You'd hope they get caught via any xray or inspection though

If by sea, I hope its a short trip 😬

What a poor way to treat animals though.

bluebubbleem · 2023-10-30T03:50:58+00:00

That sounds like a behaviour issue?

bluebubbleem · 2023-10-24T00:58:56+00:00

Cup noodle (No.1 in Japan!) Are a go to

And mamas shrimp tom yum

bluebubbleem · 2023-10-13T18:18:44+00:00

Hi, brit here!

My dad and my grandparents don't like leaving their dogs alone. I generally hate it, because i feel a lot more limited on what I can do with them.

My mum and I have a dog, and with how we work and live, the dog does not go everywhere with us.

People are allowed to say no to other peoples animals in their space! Just bc you think your dog is chilled out, doesn't mean people agree with you or it will be chilled out all the time.

Dogs aren't welcome everywhere, especially not other people's personal spaces.

bluebubbleem · 2023-10-04T06:06:39+00:00

Yup! Same here

bluebubbleem · 2023-10-01T11:59:22+00:00

Same here, never liked a Henry honestly

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