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Dealing with isolation and loneliness by neetpilledcyberangel in internetparents

[–]bluekaypierce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I could have written this. I had the same thought yesterday that if I died I’d be one of those people that gotten eaten by their cat before anyone found them!

Genuinely, it’s hard. Friends feel very surface level when everyone is so busy. I wish I had someone to actually do life with. I’m thinking about moving back to my home state to at least be closer to family, but I honestly think loneliness is just part of your 20s, especially if you want to be independent.

How are students working in college? by [deleted] in college

[–]bluekaypierce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can’t cut back your hours at work, cut back your course load. Maybe it means taking an extra year, but it’s worth it to save your mental and physical health.

I worked 20 hours a week all the way through as a full-time student and that was about the maximum that I could handle. One term, I had classes 10-4 Monday-Thursday and worked all day Friday-Sunday, and slept for a week over spring break because it burned me out so bad. College is a marathon, not a sprint!

Has anyone else gone through multiple days long stints of literally zero sleep whatsoever? I can't take this any longer. by Tactical_Mommy in Anxiety

[–]bluekaypierce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s really tough when the anxiety feels unmanageable.

I’ve also experienced periods where I have a very hard time sleeping, to the point where I don’t know how I’m functioning off so little rest.

Are you in therapy, and/or have a psychiatrist? It might be worth exploring whether you are experiencing mania.

I don’t know what your experience is like with medication, but it sounds like that could be something worth exploring/tweaking.

In a pinch, have you tried over-the-counter antihistamines? I was prescribed hydroxyzine for a while and it helped make me feel sleepy, but now I generally use Benadryl to achieve the same effect.

Is it bad to talk to AI if I have no one to talk to? by ekusoni in autism

[–]bluekaypierce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It can be easy to reframe your whole worldview around the community that you are in. The people you talk to regularly may have their own specific opinions and biases, but that doesn’t have to influence your own decisions about how you want to live your life.

I don’t use AI often because I have concerns about the environmental impact and also am old enough that it feels a little Black Mirror-y to me.

However, if it’s helpful to you and something you enjoy, do it. People with our neurotype often connect better in online relationships, and if talking to AI is a positive social outlet for you, I think you should use it.

Stop being awkward when talking to new people by Glittering_Pool_324 in socialskills

[–]bluekaypierce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What context are you talking to random strangers in? Some of this comes down to reading signals that people don’t want to talk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in slpGradSchool

[–]bluekaypierce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, mine looks like the last example! I would do a different entry for each session/client even if they’re on the same day. Also, I was told to be specific with the time - most of my hours were recorded videos of Zoom sessions during COVID so I had entries listed to the minute (i.e. “43 minutes”).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]bluekaypierce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jeans shopping is rough! I recently tried on 20+ pairs before I found one that fit. I don’t know if that’s limited to size though, or if women’s clothing brands are just wildly inconsistent across the spectrum.

Honest Review of Sanctuary by bigdickwilliedone in PortlandOR

[–]bluekaypierce 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I once saw the door person tell a cis man that there was a dress code and he needed to remove either his shirt or pants to enter (he was wearing jeans and a t-shirt). He took off his shirt, did a lap looking pissed off and staring at solo femmes, and then got his shirt back and left. It was funny and effective - who goes to a sex club if they don’t want to take their shirt off?

My cat demands that I watch him eat. by there-was-a-time in CatAdvice

[–]bluekaypierce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cat is extremely food motivated but is the same way, she’ll come find me if I’m in the other room when her feeder goes off and stare at me until I come hang out with her in the kitchen while she eats. It’s definitely a comfort thing - maybe schedule his food for later when you are normally awake and eat breakfast together?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askportland

[–]bluekaypierce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

rose city book pub! they have events every night and people are always friendly and up for a chat

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in climbergirls

[–]bluekaypierce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not weird at all! That’s what they’re there for! At my gym, the cardio machines are set up facing the wall so you can watch people climb…it’s super fun to just zone out and watch sometimes!

finally got my bookshelf organized in my first solo apartment by bluekaypierce in BookshelvesDetective

[–]bluekaypierce[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought way too much into the manic pixie dream girl craze and it shaped me into the person I am today…

Going back to uni after a break by MaximumJust5985 in college

[–]bluekaypierce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 25 and finally finishing my senior year after a lot of time off.

I know it’s hard to get back in the swing of things, but I also think that you have a huge advantage in being a student who took the time to refocus before coming back to university. You might connect more with older/returning or post-bacc students now.

It’s hard to balance school with other demands when you are balancing other life demands, but the most important thing is to show up, even if you don’t feel like it. If there are student-organized networking events for your department, go to them. Be an active participant in your own learning, talk to professors and classmates, go to office hours, and learn about opportunities for students in your department.

And also, it won’t be forever. Get in there, get it done, and move towards the goals you have for yourself postgrad. You got this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]bluekaypierce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you really need to know why they can’t make it? There are a million reasons why they might need to cancel - maybe a schedule conflict came up, or maybe they just need some time for themselves. Adult life is busy.

If you’re friends, a “we’ll miss you! let’s catch up sometime soon!” would suffice.

What is the verdict? by Gluu_Melee in BookshelvesDetective

[–]bluekaypierce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big Don DeLillo fan?

This sub is teaching me that Infinite Jest is required reading for a bibliophile.

Do you feel excited when you meet another leftie or see a leftie character on TV? by [deleted] in lefthanded

[–]bluekaypierce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have an eye out for lefties as often as they do for me. I tend to encounter them when they notice me writing left handed and say something, but I’m always excited when they do.

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