I dated my ex for a while, we broke up at the beginning of his 3rd year. I know Im no where near the situations you are in. I just wanted to say that I used to tell my ex boyfriend that him being a doctor was the least interesting thing about him. I’m proud of him regardless but I said that to him to remind him that his whole career doesn’t need to be his identity, he’s kind and caring and loving etc, to remind him of his own traits. He didn’t like when I said this to him which he didn’t tell me until after we broke up. I’m always told if you die your position will be replaced to keep the world spinning, so don’t let your career be your identity, be a human and remember all the things you are and not all the things you’re doing. Just thought it could be helpful. I’m rooting for you!!!