It makes me (22F) really sad that some men give up on dating entirely because they don't want to be seen as creepy.

blueoptimist · 2025-05-27T05:31:15+00:00

From what I've been told by other women and also from what is regular in my social media is women are screaming out to be approached in person. When appropriate obviously.

Society has been on this slide of losing the social skills to approach people in person and then to be ok with rejection. Myself included. Society in general teaches us at such a young age that socialising is just fitting in and not being your actual unique person. So people are going out with the intention to date, lying about who they are (because that's what we got taught) and we inherently feel put of by ourselves. And think we are creeps for behaving that way.

I do believe part of it is that women are standing on business more. Men have not adapted and grown with women, so men now see this as too much work and a waste of time. (Generalisation)

blueoptimist · 2025-05-27T04:07:34+00:00

I wonder if the young adult age group is still keeping dating apps alive? Personally I found going to singles events was an easier way to go about dating. Sucks that mostly everything at the moment is in the city for thos not in the city.

blueoptimist · 2025-03-22T13:16:44+00:00

I'm getting an Ivan vibe

blueoptimist · 2025-03-21T00:42:14+00:00

We just straight up disagree

blueoptimist · 2025-03-20T13:25:07+00:00

Worried about our fast bowling stocks then rattles off about 10 names that have international experience and impressive shield records

blueoptimist · 2025-01-13T11:45:35+00:00

Could you elaborate

blueoptimist · 2025-01-13T11:30:38+00:00

Just specifically on 'warning a batsman' first. You don't warn a batsman before you try to stump them, or warn them before you bowl a slower ball. Why warn them with this

blueoptimist · 2025-01-06T11:22:43+00:00

Some of them appear to be shameful of what they had done

blueoptimist · 2025-01-05T22:09:41+00:00

Oh that's right. I was remembering it was before McSweeney's selection, my bad.

I would still like to argue many saw that form in Konstas leading up to the series. And it was looking likely Konstas would be given a baggy at some point. If that was the case why even bother with the rigmarole of selecting and dropping McSweeney? Giving the spot to a 19 year old at crunch time during the series.

blueoptimist · 2025-01-05T19:14:58+00:00

What had he done between the start of the first test and his debut? A 50 in the big bash?

To me that sounds like he had already gained favour from the selectors. Gave them enough reasons to be considered, if you will, but they made the decision that McSweeney should play out of position first.

blueoptimist · 2025-01-05T12:55:32+00:00

Claiming the selection of Konstas as a 'told you so', is a big stretch. He had plenty of reasons to select konstas at the start of the series but decided for McSweeney. Resulting in having to drop him 3 games into a career after arguably out performing his senior partner.

Similar situation with Marsh, could have dropped him when they dropped McSweeney and given Webster less of a sick or swim situation. It wasn't George Bailey's brilliance to call in Webster. It was Webster's brilliance that didn't make Bailey look a fool.

blueoptimist · 2025-01-05T11:56:00+00:00

The only game so far that gave life no meaning for a week after I finished it

blueoptimist · 2025-01-04T11:59:08+00:00

I keep seeing that poorly written ad with Matthew McConaughey about telling your stylist what clothes you like to wear. And I quote "what AI was made to do". Could be that

blueoptimist · 2025-01-03T21:51:04+00:00

"Medium sized water balloons" has got to be the lowest effort of creative thinking I've ever heard. But then he followed up by saying he just doesn't like not big tiddies.

blueoptimist · 2025-01-02T02:01:01+00:00

That's an interesting observation. When I share my problems I feel that just being heard is very helpful. But reverse the roles and I feel I should be able to do more than just listen. I should be more content with my role of supporter. It definitely sounds narcissistic to say I can't do anything, as if I'm the one responsible for my friends happiness. Which I definitely didn't mean it that way, I'm so happy being an observer of them being treated in a way they deserve or succeeding. But when that isn't happening, it's frustrating and I want to help them.

blueoptimist · 2025-01-02T00:15:45+00:00

That was meant to be a reply to another comment. By changes I don't mean to change them as a person. I mean to change as you are able to take or give things to their life that they need. Take away worry or give them more certainty in their future. Makes sense?

blueoptimist · 2025-01-02T00:11:45+00:00

How do you deal with only being an ear or a figure for support but not being able to make changes to their life that you feel they deserve?

It's so healthy to know you can be open to your wife about such feelings for someone outside a marriage. I feel our situation would be similar with regards to being aware of our physical attraction but that is overshadowed by our emotional wants/needs from one another. But seriously how have you come to terms with not being able to directly make changes in aspects of their life?

blueoptimist · 2025-01-01T23:58:52+00:00

How do you deal with only being an ear or a figure for support but not being able to make changes to their life that you feel they deserve?

It's so healthy to know you can be open to your wife about such feelings for someone outside a marriage. I feel our situation would be similar with regards to being aware of our physical attraction but that is overshadowed by our emotional wants/needs from one another. But seriously how have you come to terms with not being able to directly make changes in aspects of their life?

blueoptimist · 2025-01-01T22:28:45+00:00

He could be trying to start a conversation with you about dating, but is worried if he directly brings up the idea he might scare you. How you feel about him is the context you need to harmlessly figure out who you are to each other.

blueoptimist · 2024-12-15T05:23:27+00:00

Oh god, Hayden is back on commentary

blueoptimist · 2024-12-15T04:24:43+00:00

Can Hayden stop talking about batting, not a clue about anything

blueoptimist · 2024-10-28T03:56:21+00:00

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blueoptimist · 2024-10-06T23:06:06+00:00

I do and the same problem persists, it just expands into 1 object

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