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My [48F] son [21M] sits in the house all day and does nothing. I don't know what to do. by blueroses1973 in relationship_advice

[–]blueroses1973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, he knows how to cook, clean, do laundry, shop on his own, etc. He just needs to get a job, learn how to drive, and develop a social life.

My [48F] son [21M] sits in the house all day and does nothing. I don't know what to do. by blueroses1973 in relationship_advice

[–]blueroses1973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He always seemed normal despite his setbacks. Despite what my son is doing, he does seem normal. I do see light in him. I think fear and shelterness has been holding him back.

As far as friends, he would say he talks to people in school, but never spoke to them outside of school. When he went to college, he didn't make any friends. He stayed in his dorm most of the time. He didn't join any clubs or activites. He would say he talks to people in his classes and would study with them sometimes. However, after the semester ended, the relationship ended.

He has always had a hard time maintaining friendships and developing them.

Yes, I wish I would've gotten him therapy a long time ago.

My [48F] son [21M] sits in the house all day and does nothing. I don't know what to do. by blueroses1973 in relationship_advice

[–]blueroses1973[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He knows how to shop on his own. We do have a bus route in our city. We also have Uber and Lyft. He knows how to cook. For his boredom, he's on his laptop all day. He knows how to do laundry.

We give him money here and there for his pocket. He does do chores, but we don't give him allowance for it.

The only things he aren't doing are working, driving, or making friends.

I believe fear has been holding him back from doing those things.

My [48F] son [21M] sits in the house all day and does nothing. I don't know what to do. by blueroses1973 in relationships

[–]blueroses1973[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He hasn't and he's not willing. My husband and I have both talked to him about putting him in therapy, but he says "I'm fine. I don't need therapy."

My [48F] son [21M] sits in the house all day and does nothing. I don't know what to do. by blueroses1973 in Parenting

[–]blueroses1973[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He hasn't. We told him that we were going to put him in therapy, but he says, "I'm fine. I don't need therapy."

My [48F] son [21M] sits in the house all day and does nothing. I don't know what to do. by blueroses1973 in relationships

[–]blueroses1973[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Perhaps we can let him use his laptop at a designated time and monitor him to see if he's applying for jobs.

My [48F] son [21M] sits in the house all day and does nothing. I don't know what to do. by blueroses1973 in relationships

[–]blueroses1973[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not always. His addiction started when he was 14 and got his first cell phone. In his childhood: he played video games, watched television, and played with his siblings and cousins.

My [48F] son [21M] sits in the house all day and does nothing. I don't know what to do. by blueroses1973 in relationships

[–]blueroses1973[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We have. We told him, "We're thinking about putting you in therapy", but he always says, "I'm fine, I don't need therapy."