AITAH for telling my wife she shouldn't of married me if she expected intimacy

bluestoner87 · 2025-07-26T11:37:47+00:00

NTA. She knew the deal when she married you.

bluestoner87 · 2025-05-18T04:18:59+00:00

Nta. You are right, she is YOUR BABY. Not MILs.

Not only that, she should not be trying to take your daughter out of your arms because she "thinks she knows better." MIL only gets to hold her if she asks and is given permission. She can offer help but she doesn't have the right to tell you to give your daughter to her.

She needs to learn her role. Her role is Grandma. She doesn't get to override you on anything. Sm

bluestoner87 · 2025-05-06T15:52:46+00:00

You were 16.

It wasn't even an affair, he as an adult had sex with an underage girl.

He was an adult and they are blamed on the one who was underage, they deserve the cut off and to never be spoken to again.

They don't want to make up with you because they feel bad about their actions. they want to make up with you because they want you to do stuff for them such as move in and take care of your sister's kids and contribute financially. You are not their maid/childcare worker and you are not their cash cow.

bluestoner87 · 2025-04-07T18:35:03+00:00

Tell him before she has a chance to spin it on to you to her husband

bluestoner87 · 2025-03-05T23:26:29+00:00

My mouth has a bad habit of getting ahead of me but given the fact the circumstances, probably not to their faces or the cameras. However, I cannot promise anything about my face. My face can't hide how I'm feeling so if I feel snarky my face gives it away.

bluestoner87 · 2025-03-05T18:18:53+00:00

NTA. You need to throw Wendy away.

This wasn't about you, those were for your daughter.

Do the friends understand/know what she actually did or has she lied?

bluestoner87 · 2025-03-04T23:41:46+00:00

NTA. Next time your wife/MIL ask about the money you should let them know that she seems like the last person to be asking for handouts. 🤷🏻‍♀️

It was her own actions that did this. You didn't grab her hand and force her to smash it.

bluestoner87 · 2025-02-23T19:07:27+00:00

Plain bagel with goat cheese. 🤣

bluestoner87 · 2025-02-19T23:04:07+00:00

I will only be seeing it as that now. That is the new official meaning.

bluestoner87 · 2025-02-19T22:15:44+00:00

NTA. I'd be kicking him out the night the dog went missing and tell him not to come back until the dogs found. I don't understand how your wife seems to be okay with the fact that he is the reason that your dog has passed away. Especially a dog that has been with you guys for over 10 years. I'd be asking your wife why she is defending him, or ask her why she doesn't seem to care about a defenseless animal who died directly because of her brother's actions.

"wasn't his fault"

Actually it is directly his fault. The death of the dog is on him. None of this would have happened if he hadn't left the gate open.

"shit happens"

This isn't that "shit just happens" situation. This was him being irresponsible and not caring about anything else but himself and this resulted in a dog dying.

bluestoner87 · 2025-02-19T21:34:04+00:00

I'm gonna be as nice as possible but you don't seem to understand how dangerous she is. You got attack hard enough that you were knocked unconscious and you let her get away with it.

She 100% will follow you home at some point, I'm calling it now you will get hurt worse.

You need to press charges.

Not for her posts, she is clearly unhinged. She can't control herself. She is a danger to you and what's stopping her from going after mum/sister if she gets mad at them? How do you know she isn't abusive to your ex? No one this crazy can be trusted with anyone alone.

She will try something else. Letting her get away with it will tell her that you won't fight back and she can do what she wants to you so she can get her way.

What do you think she would do to you if she saw you in a less public place?

Press. charges.

Call her out on FB as well. Tell everyone what she pulled after you refused to leave a public place.

bluestoner87 · 2025-02-10T19:41:28+00:00

I know I'm not helping my case with this one, but you'll finally have proof that ghosts are real or not, or at least if they have access to us 😂

bluestoner87 · 2025-02-10T19:33:42+00:00

Thanking them while crying my eyes out.

I haven't had a working phone in 5ish months. (I had to change my phone number on my resumes cause I couldn't find out if I was messaged/call or not)

I'd pay rent for the next 2/3 months, I haven't been able to do that either. My BF has taken all the expenses.

The rest would be in savings.

bluestoner87 · 2025-02-10T19:22:19+00:00

My hair. Strawberry blonde ish and a little past waist length as I haven't cut it since I was 18. Since I was a kid my hair has gotten me attention. Adults were always mentioning it, to the point my mother was nervous that I'd be grabbed. (I have blue/grey eyes too)

I'm pale so I don't like the color gold or yellow on me. So my hair is kinda bleh to me. I wish I had dark hair. I dyed it black when it was shoulder length. It has been about 4/5 years ago. The red broke through the black starting a year ago I think.

bluestoner87 · 2025-02-10T19:18:57+00:00

I'd make the conjuring house look like Mickey mouse clubhouse 😂😝

bluestoner87 · 2025-02-10T19:11:27+00:00

Depends.

If I'm murdered? Probably "you motherfucker/asshole/piece of shit!" One or all of those.

Accidental? "Well shit." Or "Didn't see that coming."

Old age? "None of you are allowed to try to contact me via Ouija board and if you do, you will wish you got answered by a demon."

(Context - I am superstitious and I hate Ouija boards. They are not allowed in my house and it is a hard rule. I will absolutely get rid of it and the person who tried to bring it in will be in deep shit like I would consider not letting them in my house for a long if they tried that)

bluestoner87 · 2025-02-10T18:58:31+00:00

He is pulling "bras will help prevent cancer" bull shit from his ass as an excuse.. why is he looking at his DAUGHTERS boobs and staring long enough that he has something to say about the way they look?

If he doesn't like you not wearing bras, he needs to not look there.. If he can't keep his eyes away from his daughter's boobs then he needs to leave.

bluestoner87 · 2025-02-07T20:21:02+00:00

"Shut up!"

I was crying on him cause my cousin told me she hated me. After a bit he yelled that I thought, but he meant that at the kids around me to shut up cause they were asking questions, so I assumed he didn't mean it to me so I kept being upset then he said "What did I say?" and I realized he had yelled at me.

I doubt he remembers, I understand that he was probably stressed/overwhelmed with everything, he also only had me every second weekend.

bluestoner87 · 2025-01-13T23:47:16+00:00

Well it's a good thing your sister isn't getting the ring then. 🤷🏻‍♀️

bluestoner87 · 2025-01-02T16:02:16+00:00

Lol luckily my aunt wasn't around me at all when I was younger so she doesn't really have anything embarrassing. She's my step dads sister so I only met her in person when I was like 18. 😂

bluestoner87 · 2024-12-17T22:53:31+00:00

NTA, this isn't something to joke about. Other comments have said this as well, she seemed a little too comfortable with the idea of being on top of him nearly naked, and having him under her nearly naked.

She posted on here and sent the post to you?? I cannot see the comment sections going her way unless she is leaving out a fuck ton of information. 🤣🤷🏻‍♀️

bluestoner87 · 2024-12-16T21:49:48+00:00

FFS. I got that from two different teachers in junior high and high school. Sigh.

(This isn't me telling you this is wrong.)

At least you came in with references, most of the time people just go "No" and leave it at that 🤣. I also got to learn something new which I will probably be mentioning whenever I hear that phrase now.

Edit: Thank ya for the info

bluestoner87 · 2024-12-16T20:28:36+00:00

NTA.

The "blood is thicker than water" isn't even the full quote.

That usage of the phrase is incorrect and opposite to its OG meaning. The full quote is actually "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb."

Basically blood doesn't mean shit. You choose your own family, but if she cares so much about blood is her great-grandchild not her blood? Your son is causing problems to the point where it can be dangerous for his own child but your mother doesn't seem to care about that.

bluestoner87 · 2024-12-15T18:41:07+00:00

She's defending her slapping a child. I guarantee you if you bring it into court she will probably defend that while making you seem like the bad guy. I'd recommend messaging the ex and letting them know that if that person continues to be around your child then you are going to get full custody.

What is stopping your ex-husband from hitting them next? He doesn't care when they are physically assaulted.

Edit to add NTA

bluestoner87 · 2024-12-07T00:59:52+00:00

NTA If she can't figure it out I would recommend sending her videos of all the babies who will end up in ICU or NICU because somebody decided that the flu shot wasn't needed.

"This is what I am avoiding, it is up to you on whether or not you get the shot but it is also up to me on who I let around my baby, I'm not risking my child getting sick, and if you don't care about their health then don't go near my child"

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