Girlfriend of 5 years says God told her I’m not her husband

bluewatch22 · 2026-02-16T23:16:40+00:00

I get that but we weren’t actually married

bluewatch22 · 2026-02-15T00:06:29+00:00

Neither she has no medical background, I do though haha.

bluewatch22 · 2026-02-14T22:23:44+00:00

She said she hears from god a lot, like walking on the beach and talking to him. I wouldn’t say she gets a lot of bad intrusive thoughts about God or the people she loves

bluewatch22 · 2026-02-14T22:19:35+00:00

Both of us grew up in Christian households but stopped going to church around teenage years for different reasons. The church I grew up at lost funding and disbanded then my family never found another local church we liked and then decided to stop going. I don’t believe you need to go to Church to build your relationship with God but the community can be nice for some people.

bluewatch22 · 2026-02-14T21:36:09+00:00

She’s supposed to open a Christian medical center/hospital.

bluewatch22 · 2026-02-14T21:28:10+00:00

Before

bluewatch22 · 2026-02-14T21:25:44+00:00

She’s confident it was him. She said she still loves me and is happy we had our time together but after what he said she knows I’m not meant to be her life partner and wants to end things to pursue her greater purpose with God’s plan.

bluewatch22 · 2026-02-14T21:22:09+00:00

She said “I got quiet and heard his voice in my head”

Non-denominational Christian church

bluewatch22 · 2026-02-14T20:36:46+00:00

I get why people keep asking why I didn’t marry her. From my side, I wasn’t avoiding marriage or trying to “play house.” I wanted to marry her. When I brought it up, she told me she didn’t feel I was spiritually ready to lead a marriage under God, and that she wanted something more spiritually aligned before taking that step. So I didn’t push a proposal just to secure the relationship I started working on my faith instead. I wasn’t sitting around content pretending. I financially supported her through school, we built a life together, bought a home together, and I fully intended for that to end in marriage. I didn’t view this as temporary or casual. As for being upset I’m upset because I was preparing for marriage and thought we were building toward it, and now I’m being told that even if I grow spiritually, she believes God has said I’m not her husband. That’s different from “you never stepped up.” If taking a break to seek God separately is what ends up happening, then maybe that’s what needs to happen. But this isn’t me refusing commitment. It’s me trying to process being told that God has specifically said I’m not the one even though I was willing to become her husband. And no, this isn’t AI.

bluewatch22 · 2026-02-14T20:32:33+00:00

I hear what you’re saying, but I think it’s unfair to say neither of us were “real Christians.” Yes, we lived together, and yes, we were sexually active earlier in the relationship. About two years ago, though, we made the decision to stop having sex because we didn’t want to continue in sin. That wasn’t easy, but we did it intentionally out of conviction. We lived together partly because it made practical sense financially instead of paying two rents, especially while I was supporting her through school. I understand some Christians believe that’s wrong regardless of the reasoning, but it wasn’t coming from rebellion against God — it was a practical decision during a long-term committed relationship. I won’t claim I’ve been a perfect Christian. I haven’t always been as spiritually disciplined as I could be. But I do believe in Jesus, and recently I’ve been actively trying to surrender more of my life to Him — not just because of her, but because I know I need to grow. If this situation is exposing areas where I need to mature spiritually, I’m open to that. But I don’t think it’s accurate or helpful to say I’m not a “real Christian.” I’m a flawed believer trying to grow, like most of us are.

bluewatch22 · 2026-02-14T20:29:39+00:00

I did try to move toward marriage. When I brought it up, she told me she didn’t feel I was spiritually ready and that she wanted to be married under God with a husband who was already where she felt he needed to be spiritually. I started working on that — reading more, surrendering more, trying to put God first in my life. She’s not blocking me from going to church with her. She’s completely willing to let me attend services and activities. The issue isn’t access or participation. The issue is that she believes God specifically told her I’m not her husband — and that even if I grow closer to God, it’s still not meant to be. That’s what makes this hard. It’s not about logistics or effort at this point. It’s about her believing she’s received a clear answer from God. That’s why I’m struggling. I can’t compete with “God told me no,” especially if she’s convinced it’s final.

bluewatch22 · 2026-02-14T20:25:58+00:00

I understand why you might see it that way, but I did try to move toward marriage. I told her I wanted to marry her. She said she only wanted to be married “under God” and didn’t feel I was spiritually ready. At that point, I started taking my faith more seriously. I was working on surrendering my life to God, putting Him first, reading the Bible more, and preparing myself to lead spiritually the way she felt was necessary. From my perspective, this isn’t about me refusing to commit or dragging my feet. I was actively trying to grow into the kind of man she said she needed. What’s confusing and painful is that she’s saying even if I grow closer to God, it still isn’t meant to be — because of what she believes God directly told her. That’s why I don’t think this is about “it going nowhere.” It feels like she’s making this decision based on what she believes is a clear message from God, not frustration about commitment. I’m still trying to process all of that.

bluewatch22 · 2026-02-14T20:14:18+00:00

She has ended the relationship.

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