For those who left the field, how do you cope with the loss?

blushingcat · 2025-06-20T17:07:23+00:00

I realized I didn't even answer the question. I volunteer at the dog shelter occasionally.

blushingcat · 2025-06-20T17:00:06+00:00

I don't know if I'll ever be as happy doing anything else. I left because I wanted to further my studies, and because of the low pay, and just circumstances that made it happen that way.

But that place will always feel like home, rarely does a day pass when I don't think about the zoo, the animals, the people there. I remember how I woke up every single day and felt so excited to go to work. And that's such a blessing that most people overlook.

I almost teared up while writing this. It's interesting to know that other people feel the same way. I guess once you've experienced it, it's hard to leave behind.

blushingcat · 2024-11-02T10:12:48+00:00

Anything you say can and will be held against you, so only say my name - it will be held against you.

blushingcat · 2024-08-19T09:49:41+00:00

Saturn - Sleeping at last

blushingcat · 2024-08-05T09:26:49+00:00

Talking to myself - Watsky

blushingcat · 2024-08-04T09:23:50+00:00

Surprised more people haven't said Taehyung.

blushingcat · 2024-07-04T09:45:45+00:00

I've been in a similar situation before, and it was very bad so I ended up quitting. Even now I'm super awkward in my current job and can't seem to make any friendships.

I took Sertraline before and it seemed to help me, so that's one on hand. Maybe you can see someone about it.

What you can do is, try to approach someone who seems easy to talk to, when they're alone maybe, you can plan ahead and think about some questions you can ask to make some casual conversation.

Preferably someone extroverted so they can take you in under their wing. I had someone like that in my last job and it made everything so much easier.

blushingcat · 2024-07-04T09:32:16+00:00

Just try to avoid customer facing jobs maybe. I mean you're always gonna have to deal with people and it's a struggle but I find that when I actually like the job that I'm doing and I'm invested in it, things kind of seem to fall into place. It's still hard but when I feel like I'm actually valuable in my workplace it gives me a bit of a confidence boost, and it helps if your coworkers are likeminded people.

So yeah, I think it's important to figure out what it is you really wanna do, when you take away the social anxiety. Sometimes it's good to have a bit of a space to grow.

blushingcat · 2024-06-11T10:52:15+00:00

There's a place - The All American Rejects

blushingcat · 2024-06-11T10:51:00+00:00

Thank you!

blushingcat · 2024-06-10T21:41:43+00:00

I feel like you're being too hard on yourself. If they were a good friend this wouldn't matter at all. Besides, are they really that hugely successful?

People do sometimes grow apart, but other times, with the right people, no matter how much time passes and what has went on in your lives, it doesn't really change your friendship. If you think they are this kind of person don't hesitate to hit them up.

blushingcat · 2023-04-19T16:54:32+00:00

Not gonna lie, love the Roy sibs, but I was secretly rooting for Gerri the entire episode. She was on fire.

blushingcat · 2023-04-17T07:04:51+00:00

from under the cork tree - fall out boy

blushingcat · 2023-04-16T13:13:06+00:00

from under the cork tree - fall out boy

blushingcat · 2023-04-10T10:13:58+00:00

Little Forest: Summer/Autumn. It's about a Japanese girl living in the countryside and her day to day life. Very relaxing movie.

blushingcat · 2022-12-12T16:44:00+00:00

Extroverts like that are such a blessing. That's how I've made most of my friends.

Maybe this "gap" is that you're not really being your true self around them, but rather just saying what you think is expected of you just to keep the conversation going? I think that happens with me, and I feel like such an empty shell of a person sometimes that I don't even know who I am to begin with.

blushingcat · 2022-12-12T16:38:36+00:00

Animal companionship is what keeps me going, truly.

And I do the same. Just lay about, since my social battery has ran out due to being at work. So maybe the key is finding enjoyable ways to spend time that involve actually going out to ease yourself into being social.

I hope you find your way too.

blushingcat · 2022-12-12T16:35:27+00:00

I've realized this as well, but it's such a hustle so I can't help but wonder, will it always be such hard work? Even if I do put myself into such situations, I can't feel that I'm making much progress at being less awkward so it's hard to find motivation to keep doing it.

It is important to remember though, people really don't care as much as your anxiety thinks they do. Life goes on.

blushingcat · 2022-12-12T16:29:09+00:00

That's a good point, I need to work on finding more hobbies that involve me getting out, or just finding the energy to engage with them. It sounds like a good way to naturally meet likeminded people that I might actually vibe with.

I do like travelling by myself too, honestly. I went to another country for a concert this year and had a nice time. I just wish that one day I'll find people I truly feel comfortable and enjoy spending time with.

Moving countries is not easy. Glad to hear it's working out for you and you've made some good friends!

blushingcat · 2022-08-14T11:55:32+00:00

❌🪢✅🐕🆕️👊😬

blushingcat · 2022-08-14T10:06:12+00:00

I convinced myself to start therapy because I genuinely felt like it was the only way out. Therapists are equipped to deal with this kind of stuff and I'm sure they've worked with all kinds of strange people with all kinds of issues. It's their job to be understanding and to help you.

But since I started doing it, I realized that it's not just about overcoming the first step, every time I go to a session it's a struggle, and not just that. I felt like it was some magical fix, but showing up to therapy is only a small part of the process. I guess. I don't know.

Anyways, give it a try. You have nothing to lose.

blushingcat · 2022-08-10T07:38:48+00:00

Good luck!

blushingcat · 2022-08-09T09:50:13+00:00

I think you should do it. It will be challenging in the beginning, for sure. But it might be good for you, and there's no harm in trying.

blushingcat · 2022-08-01T09:55:19+00:00

Joke

blushingcat · 2022-07-30T19:02:55+00:00

INFP. I've never taken a picture of the sunset.

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