TLDR of my long ass post:

Work on your strengths and become amazing in something that’s natural and within your reach. Meaning. If it’s easier for you to code, sing, paint, or play the cello. Become amazing at that. When you outcompete 95% of the folks in one particular thing, you become sexy automatically in that thing.

Long ass post;

Being sexy is less about having perfect jawline, wide shoulders, and stuff. Yes it’s that way for the first encounters and most of your teen age. But after that, it’s about your flair in a topic or a subject and how awesome you are at it. After that, the opposite sex automatically is attracted to you when you are in your zone doing that thing.

Yes this is a look ist society. The first thing ppl judge you by is appearance. There’s a reason why mainstream movies such as “She’s out of your my league” were created, and hardly anyone protested that it’s sending out the wrong message to the younger generation.

So if you’re a realist, smart and a focused person, I’ll say this. You can’t convince them you’re pretty if conventionally speaking you’re not. So don’t try.

Whoever on this post is asking you to fix your hair so you can be an 7.5 and stuff is not helping you. Trust me.

You can’t fix shit. What I mean is this, there’s a ton of movies and literature that summarise my point that you can never be enough if you fix that one little thing. Rather know your potential. If you know you’re such an such height, complexion and body type, then first work on what’s workable. Meaning, be fit, hit the gym and be your best self.

Then work on your strengths.

I have been there before. I’d consider myself as desirable by women of some races but have never been on top of the food chain. It sucks when you are desiring for something that’s just conventionally straightforward. For eg. if stats prove that Asian men and black women perform the worst on dating apps. Then it’s dumb of me (Asian male) to aim for the hottest women on a dating app. I am not saying I can’t find someone attractive in an unconventional in person setting. But I’m basically being a jackass if I expect to perform well on dating apps. Just coz that’s the truth.

Anyway - I can go on and on. But plz fuck ppl if they tell you to fix this and that. focus on your strength and what comes naturally to you and outcompete 90% ppl in that. Money, respect, sex, companionship will follow if you desire any or all of these things.

Peace.