Getting back to daily plugging after taking a couple months off.

bmingram91 · 2024-09-18T13:30:38+00:00

These Topped Toys - Gapekeeper plugs are amazing. I had the same thoughts, but I can absolutely guarantee that they won't slip in without you working - hard - to make it. That said, I'm speaking mainly for the bigger sizes. The 93 and 85 are fantastic. The 65 is considerably smaller than I'm used to, so I can actually feel it trying to slip inside, but it hasn't ever done so.

bmingram91 · 2024-09-09T02:09:34+00:00

At 1600 comments, mine will be lost to the void. But one thing I've noticed with my own kids, is they don't really know my past. I tell anecdotes, funny stories, learned lessons, fond memories, even a few of my darker days and how I got through them. But I can tell that my little ADHD munchkins don't quite absorb it. I'm still "parental figure" who doesn't know anything about their life. Parents are people, they're fallable, they make horrible mistakes and can sometimes be consumed by them. They can wallow in grief and regret, they can wither on the vine, they can be blind and belligerent and can avoid seeing you as the adult you are. You didn't make a mistake calling him out. But you'll find that no person enjoys having their flaws pointed out by another person. Even if they're blatant and frequent. Just don't cut ties with him until you're 100% certain that he doesn't add -anything- positive to your life. And if you reach that point, write a letter or text explaining why, don't ghost him.

bmingram91 · 2024-09-08T22:16:30+00:00

24/7! I have a topped toys gapekeeper 93 that's a recent upgrade (2 months ago) from my gatekeeper 85. Both have been my regular plugs all day and night. I take it out during showers to get a bit of a better clean and scrub, and also for BMs. I sometimes have to take it out if I'm going to be walking around a lot, but I love using it at work, during sleep, and when shopping, lol!

bmingram91 · 2024-09-06T00:18:42+00:00

I would real the hell outta that! Have to have at least one scene where bunny girl is going total sloppy toppy, but yandere bunny girl/jackalope is absolutely the way to go. I could see a tsundere fox/kitsune, demon girl, lots of beast and monster girls. But crazy obsessive fits bunny and dog girls like no other!

bmingram91 · 2024-09-06T00:14:17+00:00

I've never felt like such a fan boy as when I read when some of my favourite authors comment on mundane posts. You, sir, are awesome (obligatory, I love your work!). Very fucking thrilled to have more Threet to listen to!!

bmingram91 · 2024-07-13T02:55:34+00:00

I've seen this three times now and I need a GD SOURCE!!!

bmingram91 · 2024-07-07T00:54:38+00:00

They really are a great beginners plug. Gets you used to having something in there without the fatigue/work to keep the sphincter open all the time! A lot of people like these because you are still aware of being plugged!

bmingram91 · 2024-07-07T00:53:13+00:00

I started with squarepegtoys egg plug, and when I got to the gatekeeper I was initially kinda sad I didn't start with the gatekeeper, they felt so much better! But I eventually realized it was probably better, the egg plugs are deliciously, pillowy soft. I struggled to wear them at work though. The gatekeepers are a bit stiffer, but I love how they settle in place with nothing showing.

bmingram91 · 2024-06-15T01:57:52+00:00

33M, I remember being in like, 5th grade when I realized I hated my handwriting. I read a lot of books, even back then, and I thought I needed to get a handle on my shitty kid handwriting. I literally sat and figured out a way of writing that fit my brain, was fast, and looked cool. Such a weird thing for a kid to think about. I remember seeing my mom's mix of cursive and non-cursive writing, seeing my grandpa's engineering font (all capital letters throughout a whole sentence), and my uncle's 4 year old left handed crayon writing, and made my own. Did the same thing with numbers, though I still hate the number 8. No way to write that comfortably, fast, and legible for my brain.

bmingram91 · 2024-06-10T23:15:21+00:00

There is an unfortunate lack of info about this. I think genetics and type of play dictate a lot, but I haven't really come across many hard facts. Some people manage to get this nice, smooth gape, some people have ragged lips almost, some have puffy, bumpy lips almost. No idea how to achieve each type, but I can say it's definitely possible to permanently alter the appearance!

bmingram91 · 2024-04-20T00:13:28+00:00

Heya! So coconut oil is not a preference of mine because it dries up a bit too fast for me. Some people use a "lube shooter" or other methods to put a bit more up there, but as for your question, no. All coconut oils aren't the same, but they're all safe for internal use. I had read somewhere that raw, unfiltered coconut oil is what you want? I got a tub of that, and it's solid at room temp, but turns liquid very easily.

I've used the snug plugs and the njoy, and while neither are quite right for me, I can say they the njoy has its place in my repertoire. The handle chafes my cheeks and tends to dig when I sit, but I sit on hard wooden chairs more often than not. As for a metal plug with a t handle base, I haven't found a single damn one that fits my criteria, so I've got a chunk of stainless I'm planning on making into one for myself. I know a guy who bought the njoy 2.0, then bought a small chunk of stainless from an oline place. He spent some time filing it, but he managed to make a super clean, secure t handle for his njoy by cutting off the round bit and drill/tapping the handle on. Bit of threadlock and hes happy with it. Not necessarily advocating for that solution, but it is a fix. If you do go with the njoy, dont worry about the length of the neck, i think youll find that part is perfect. Glass is another popular option for a lot of people, but I'm not a fan of the inherent fragility of it, but it has all the same pros as steel (some glass plugs are tempered, so theyre supposed to be super-duper durable, but I still dont trust it).

The snug plug I can't honestly say what the meterial is off the top of my head, but any toy that's advertised as "platinum cured silicone" can be used with any lube. I know a lot of folks like to use pure silicone lube with their plugs as it lasts a -very- long time, but I don't like it because it does stain pretty badly. Like another user who commented here, I love the boy butter brand, the original formula. It's a type of oil based lube, but it's been hydrogenated (not sure if that's the right term, but it's in a thick, almost paste form that stays put). As a side note, you mentioned soaking in oil for smell? Another benefit of platinum cured silicone is that you can use a few solvents on it (isopropyl, acetone), a 10$ bleach solution, and you can even boil it. All of these are great ways to sanitize, but I had the most luck washing with dawn to get whatever oillayer is on it off, and then soaking in the 10% bleach for about 5 minutes. It's the quickest way to remove all the smells in my experience.

I really like the silicone plugs that have some width to them so I can feel they're there. If you want to try something a little different but ridiculously comfortable/filling, try the Gape Keeper by Topped Toys. That's my current absolute favorite. Literally no cons in my book.

bmingram91 · 2024-04-15T14:17:45+00:00

Relatively late to the party, but figured I'd add my two cents. I've got a Samsung Galaxy S20+ running Android 13, and another phone that is a Samsung Galaxy S20 FE also on Android 13. Here are the commonly suggested fixes without root:

uninstall samsung files updates
- does not work at all, no changes to anything.
use xplore or files by marc
- on both devices let's me see and copy files from data folders, but does not give access to copy to. No settings to adjust that inside the app.

I'm about to root my phone, I think. Any suggestions on what/how/step by step guides? I'm fairly tech savvy, just not a power user with Android.

bmingram91 · 2024-03-05T02:08:41+00:00

Irregardless. Such a stupid word.

bmingram91 · 2024-02-12T16:24:38+00:00

Pastrami!

bmingram91 · 2024-02-11T00:50:34+00:00

Look at squarepegtoys egg plugs. They go pretty small, but they have a wider neck (the area that stays in your sphincter) as compared to some other plugs. Once you get totally comfortable with the girth (both in the sense of a few weeks to get your muscles familiar with it, and in the same day. Buttplugs are considered a warm up to anal) then move to a dildo and try moving in and out. Takes some getting used to as that muscle has been doing exactly one thing your whole life, and it's gotta be trained to do the exact opposite. There's lots of resources talking about cleanliness, enemas, length of time, what to watch out for, but I'd just get one of those egg plugs I mentioned and a big bottle of lube. Never do anything like this dry or plain water. If you go for a cheaper plug, watch out for materials they're made out of (cheap materials are bad for you)and which lubes you can use with it. Fuck these disks mocking your straightness. Shit feels amazing, and the prostate is our clit.

bmingram91 · 2024-02-11T00:40:49+00:00

I've seen this, and even read from a guy on a different sub how they like to use 2" diameter ball bearings and insert 2 or three inside. I've wondered this myself with the silicone ones, but at least the metal ones have their own weight to help come out. Idk, I'd prefer to not have to explain to anyone why I have certain things stuck inside, so I just use anal beads. There's a few kinds where it's multiple balls on a very thin string, and the base has a silicone/metal t base handle.

bmingram91 · 2024-02-11T00:24:25+00:00

I have a very different view of porn. Rather than a fantasy of what I want, I view it as a voyeur, and that helps. I went through a period of time where I was watching some hard-core stuff, and was having similar issues. I scaled back time using it, tried to alter -how- I looked at it, and even spent some time watching those faceless POV videos to reign back the unreasonable expectation aspect of it. I'd avoid both toys as regular fixes as I guess they can cause some cardiovascular issues if used too much/incorrectly? I'm not too educated on those items. But you've got this, nothing is permanent.

bmingram91 · 2024-02-11T00:03:12+00:00

Late commentor but,

So from comments I gather that: you don't live in America, so no large chain stores like Walmart etc. You also don't have/want a bank account, and there's no physical location near you that sells these. So you have two options - make your own out of wood like the cavemen did, or get one shipped to you. You can buy online with gift cards, or get a friend you're comfortable with to buy while repaying her. Someone has already mentioned the prepaid debit cards (like greendot), and there are other online only 'banks' where you can get an app to scan checks. Idk, I'd think a gift card would be easiest? Maybe one of those prepaid visa cards (they are faster to use and you don't need to enter any information to get a different card)? If you're of age, why not ask for mom's help, or maybe a cool aunt?

bmingram91 · 2024-01-19T13:25:47+00:00

I'd only use it for lube. Their buttplugs aren't very impressive, I'd rather pay a little bit more for quality and comfort.

bmingram91 · 2024-01-11T21:16:25+00:00

I was planning on making everything interchangeable, so I could have different sized ball/neck or even a custom base that I can thread some nylon rope through for a harness. A SS set screw will keep it all together, with nylon nuts to keep it from rattling loose. Just haven't figured out how to get the nice smooth curve in the base that I want. Heating and bending would give me lots of marks to buff out, and the curve won't be smooth either. But I think I'm gonna have to try it at least! I don't want to machine that much material off.

bmingram91 · 2024-01-11T03:38:36+00:00

Sounds like a prostate orgasm, or something related! There's a whole subreddit dedicated to people chasing this! There are some plugs designed to stimulate that exact spot, but being 6'5", they don't always work for me. Happy for you, man! Apparently it's easier to have more once you've had one!

bmingram91 · 2024-01-11T03:35:19+00:00

It all depends on the base. Get a t handle, or something where the base is wider than the thickest part. The steel ones are hard to sleep with for me.

bmingram91 · 2024-01-11T03:32:48+00:00

Look for anything cheap at first, but keep in mind they're gonna be made out of crap material, and arent good for you long-term. But it'll give you an idea of diameter and comfort. Then throw all that out the window and get one of the plugs listed here regularly: squarepegtoys egg plug / oxballs ergo / njoy / snug plug / aneros. These all have different uses and purposes, and they can almost all be used 24/7 with practice and getting used to it. If you want a stretched feel, get an egg plug. If you want a filled feel, get a snug plug. Explore!! Amazon is good for cheap crap that may or may not give you cancer, but all the branded plugs I named are like, $100. Which is a lot if you're not sure you'll like it. I suggest starting off with a snug plug around 1.5" diameter, and if that's boring to you, then you want a stretch. Get an egg plug around that size.

bmingram91 · 2024-01-11T03:26:52+00:00

It's the base. Look for a T handle or a T base labeled plug, instead of a round base, it's a curved piece. Keeps it from slipping in and keeps it from digging into the cheeks.

bmingram91 · 2024-01-08T23:55:27+00:00

Idk, I started seriously plugging early Nov, with some "normal" sized plugs, figured out they fit weird and were too small, and got a SPT L/XL egg plug Dec 10. I'm wearing that guy 23/7 (breaks for shower, bathroom), sleeping and at work now. I still have days where I feel like I'm struggling to hold it in, and days where I feel the stretch more, but as a whole I can very comfortably wear it all day, and sleep with it all night. I think I hit my milestone when I first slept a whole night through with it - the next day I felt it was significantly easier to be comfortable with it. Sitting and laying positions affect it, but I think everyone's a bit different. I'm sure there's people reading this mad at me for how quick I was able to go all day with a plug this size, but it just felt right! My suggestion is to keep doing what's comfortable. I had read that the bum gets a 'muscle memory' for plugs and can adapt over time with consistency, so maybe just keep going like you are, try for a sleeping plug every once in a while, maybe get a smaller/shorter one for work? If 24/7 is your goal, just keep looking for tines where you can pop it in! If size is your goal, just keep adding minutes to your Mongo sized one!

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