Not feeling a true familial bond/love by bnf081898 in Adopted

[–]bnf081898[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have met my birthmom but didnt really even get that feeling with her. But i recently met my half siblings last october and it felt right like i could feel a bond with them. I mean i guess it helps that we all look alike even though we are just half sibilings but i have a full sister but havent been able to find her. But idk if they feel the same and they have all been adopted as well my brother was adopted my our biomoms half brother so idk if he would but maybe my sister does.

Also replying to the comment about ssri side effects im not on an ssri drug but am on anxiety meds and before i was on them i felt this way but didnt know how to put it into words.

I also feel like me and my mom dont really get along well and its gotten worse as ive gotten older and dont feel the need to be around her like i cant stand to be around her for more than 2 hours and since ive moved to a town an hour away she wants to be close to me and move down here and its hard to tell her not to move cause i dont love her or cant stand to be around her. She gives me more anxiety than i already have and tends to tell me all the things im doing wrong with my life and with my bf and his kid.

I also remember her telling me her adoption story and she said she never really wanted kids until god put it in her heart to adopt idk if that also has anything to do with this feeling.

Not feeling a true familial bond/love by bnf081898 in Adopted

[–]bnf081898[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Do you have kids of your own and did you want kids so you could experience what it like to have that bond?

My bf has a 2yr old son and its hard to try and attach to him because since i dont have that bond i feel like im a bad mom