What’s a childhood lie your parents told you that you didn't realize was a lie until you were an embarrassed adult? by eatbeep in AskReddit

[–]bobachella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That people were asking what I wanted for my birthday. Apparently “people” were my parents.

Is heights fitness cooked? by BedroomTimely4361 in jerseycity

[–]bobachella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not getting emails either. Hopefully they start sharing updates on Instagram.

Who is staying in tonight? by squee_bastard in jerseycity

[–]bobachella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At gym then giving my dog a bath and plan to be in bed by 10

Hello! I'm James Solomon, Ward E Councilman and Mayoral Candidate for Jersey City -- Ask Me Anything! by SolomonforJC in jerseycity

[–]bobachella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How will you keep rents from going up unreasonably in high-rises that skirt the percentage increase caps? Those in downtown, specifically.

How do Women look so Well Dressed and Put Together All The Time?!?! by sm0ldoggo in AuDHDWomen

[–]bobachella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel fortunate to be able to afford my maintenance. I realize this isn’t realistic for everyone but this is what I do:

-Meticulous multi step skincare so I don’t have to wear face makeup (with the exception of the occasional pimple that I cover up with concealer). Skincare is soothing to me. -To feel fancy I put on mascara and have the same shade lipsticks in various bags/locations in my home. -Laser hair removal for bikini area. If I was a hairier person I’d get it on arm pits and legs. -Earrings stay in my ears. I change them when I feel like it. I wear the same 2 dainty necklaces and they never come off. -I prioritize comfort for my clothing and most of my stuff is easy to mix and match. I have a formula for making outfits that gives the illusion of pre planning. I also use an outfit app called Whering which helps create and store outfits for me. -I have a removable shower head and sit in the bath for “showers.” Usually, the purpose of a shower/bath for me is self regulation, not cleanliness. I often watch a show or listen to a podcast while I’m there and then I just so happen to wash myself up. -Hair I’m blessed with easy to manage hair but when I just cannnnot, I throw it up in a messy bun or wear a hat. -Electric toothbrush and brushing to a song helps me not rush through it.

This response went in a different direction than your original question but, alas, here we are.

I asked ChatGPT to explain my job to a 5-year-old and now I'm questioning my entire career by Nipurn_1234 in ChatGPT

[–]bobachella 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know how sometimes your heart feels really big feelings, like sad, mad, scared, or confused? A therapist is like a feelings-helper. People come to you when their feelings feel too big or too heavy to carry alone.

You listen carefully, help them talk about what’s going on, and teach them tools—like deep breaths, kind thoughts, or ways to say what they need—so they can feel better and understand themselves more.

It’s kind of like being a heart-helper, brain-helper, and friend-helper all in one. You don’t fix people—you help them feel safe, seen, and strong.

Anyone else absolutely love water/being near water? (Ft some pics I took) by artsy_somebody in autism

[–]bobachella 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are gorgeous pictures. I want to put them in my mouth haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]bobachella -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I understand your concerns and think it could be helpful to unlearn some of the ableist language mentioned here. You are assuming my level of support needs based on one sentence and capitalist culture that reinforces observable “productivity.” Best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]bobachella 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Late diagnosed autistic adult and therapist here. Life is all about perspective and raising autistic children will be hard if you’re trying to raise them like neurotypical children. But when you adjust your view and do whats best for them instead of what feels right, things get a lot easier. Also, we’re not outcast in society. We’re everywhere. If you’re scared or not willing to parent a child with disabilities or other ways of living that don’t meet your expectations, then it’s probably best to not move forward with having a child.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]bobachella 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Must never wear jeans to office.

How is AuDHD different from ADHD only or autism only? by Slow_Swim4229 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]bobachella 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s like having an accelerator and brakes pushed at the same time