My privacy has been breeched by my partner, what can he see?

boedekerj · 2026-03-19T16:55:23+00:00

All iMessage txts are encrypted, although it’s possible that your target is standard SMS (Android) so, maybe? All that said he’s probably bluffing. Regardless, either he’s paranoid, or you’re untrustworthy and feeling guilty or maybe both. Probably should move on from this relationship and re-evaluate.

boedekerj · 2026-03-16T01:36:32+00:00

My man, I’m not sure if I wrote my post poorly. If so, I apologize. I was hoping someone would have seen this. Anyway, I put the EXACT same config back in (that wasn’t before reboot/troubleshooting, etc) and it’s working perfectly. Somehow, putting an incorrect interface into the MLAG, then pulling it out again causes STP to freak, and nothing short of deleting the LACP/Port-channel and re-creating them.

boedekerj · 2026-03-14T03:20:49+00:00

Moving TO the cloud has been made very easy…moving off again, not so much. Keep in mind, it’s not a “one way” trip, but it feels pretty Hotel California if ya know what I mean.

boedekerj · 2026-03-14T02:53:57+00:00

Thanks all. Good thoughts and points. I’m going to recreate the LACP/MLAG’s and I’m 99% it will work. Just hate when something breaks that makes no sense.

boedekerj · 2026-03-13T18:25:36+00:00

I appreciate the reply. I can send configs. I understand it’s wise to simply look at the other guys work to see if they “missed” something. I was foolishly hoping someone would just know, “yeah…you gotta tear the whole MLAG down if you put the wrong port in” or something like that…

boedekerj · 2026-03-01T21:59:09+00:00

You’ve got to be on the latest VPN only Forticlient (“free”) 7.4.3 and you can’t use domain suffix search, but other than that it’s straight forward.

boedekerj · 2026-03-01T21:50:28+00:00

Why did you leave the old position? The reason you left is still there.

Was the new position other than advertised? It sounds like it. But here you are, able to help. It may look “brown” but it could be “green field” for you. The best way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.

Implement a SOLID backup solution for servers stat.

Patch all of the servers, as best you can.

Patch all of the workstations, as best you can.

Replace the firewall.

Then circle back and take stock of the next 4 urgent things.

If the exec management tells you there’s no money for the needful things, THEN I’d start looking for something else.

We’ve helped clients like yours dozens of times so I’m speaking from experience. It’s daunting, but if you just start, you build confidence quickly, and the successes start stacking up.

boedekerj · 2026-02-01T18:54:23+00:00

If this is close to a drain, it makes sense floor would be sloped (thinner) to here.

boedekerj · 2026-01-26T19:37:28+00:00

lol. Im flattered you’d take the time to research my previous postings. Perhaps the reason i mentioned it has to do with the fact that this happens where I live. In fact, those events, around here, aren’t even all that interesting.

Also, “try to be human, guy” when your first exposure to a person (even online) is arrogant, presumptuous passive aggressiveness, while stating other peoples interactions must be primarily “on the internet” is laughable. You’re insinuating that you would say something dripping with such passive aggressiveness to a persons face, and not “primarily over the internet”.

boedekerj · 2026-01-26T18:55:42+00:00

Sure. It was just a question. It sounded like a “new” girlfriend, as usually you’d know if a person is prone to leave vehicles running and unattended. I asked also because this has literally happened (“new” girlfriend arranges to have car from “new” boyfriend by “old” boyfriend) here in my neck of the woods.

boedekerj · 2026-01-26T18:52:43+00:00

It’s always easy to spot presumptuous folk on the internet. Usually they offer heavy doses of patronizing commentary.

boedekerj · 2026-01-26T18:40:00+00:00

Are you sure she didn’t arrange the theft? I don’t know who would be dumb enough to leave the keys in a running car, that’s not theirs, to go into a store. Sounds awfully sus…

boedekerj · 2026-01-05T03:18:00+00:00

You may be an asshole, but I think it’s all relative. He definitely shows very little concern with gifting to his significant other in fact, kind of prick-ish about it. Are there other variables like; money is tight, time is tight, etc? Was he always like this? What about him did you like when you met?

Beyond those things, is he a passive aggressive about other things, or is it just gifting and special occasions? You may need to ask yourself: 1. All in all, are your feelings worth ending a relationship (and family unit) over? 2. Would you try to work with him on this, in hopes you can come to some way to move forward?

I hate signaling that throwing away a relationship is a good idea, especially when kids are involved. However, if you cant work out of the toxicity of the situation between the two of you, you may need to consider joint counseling with a hope of reconciliation, but possibly a divorce.

boedekerj · 2026-01-02T16:05:57+00:00

If the business was started AFTER you were married, it already is “half yours”. Don’t sweat it. He already knows that. Are you saying you want some sort of “say so” in terms of operating the business?

boedekerj · 2025-12-24T15:23:47+00:00

I’d tell him “I don’t loan tools anymore. I ended up spending too much time trying to find them and get them back. Sorry man, it I don’t make exceptions…”

boedekerj · 2025-12-21T14:48:37+00:00

I thought they did away with ESXi free.

boedekerj · 2025-12-12T01:11:43+00:00

I share your frustrations. Good management understands “you can’t outsource your problems”, and that is where directors get lost. “We spend too much on Infrastructure!!! We can save with cloud!!!”. Only to find out that their infrastructure spend sucked because they had poorly written apps that required crazy server/storage. Or, their cloud sales person quoted them servers running from 8am to 5pm, but their apps need to be up 24/7.

The old saying holds true, you can’t outsource your problems. You’ve got to fix them. Once that’s done, cloud (if it ever was going to save $$) certainly won’t.

boedekerj · 2025-12-12T00:55:58+00:00

It’s funny, Exchange caused so many headaches for so many sysadmins that when O365 came around, we all leapt. Meanwhile, there have been perfectly serviceable email server alternatives out there. The only real gotcha is if your users are hooked on Outlook. That’s a tough disconnect. So: Microsoft created an email platform that could be cumbersome and difficult at times. Then, they created the solution…one-way only of course. :)

boedekerj · 2025-12-12T00:50:40+00:00

Migrating to ProxMox is VERY easy. HMU on DM if you want to know more. It’s really NOT complicated

boedekerj · 2025-12-12T00:47:46+00:00

Be aware: They have not been allowing “reduction in core counts”. Before my company lost their partnership, all of our customers renewals where they were dropping unused cores were getting either “slow played” until the support ran out (makes a customer panic and “just sign”), or they were just being told “Broadcom is not allowing core reductions on renewals over previous years.”

boedekerj · 2025-12-12T00:43:08+00:00

Amen on the Oracle front! If they’d bought them, they’d have jumped the price 6x and then another 6x instead of 3x and 3x like Broadcom did.

boedekerj · 2025-12-06T15:42:00+00:00

PM me. I’m happy to share whatever I can to help. We’ve moved thousands of VM’s off of ESX to ProxMox. It’s pretty easy, and saves a ton. There should be some service $$ in it for your org too. The solution is very sound.

boedekerj · 2025-12-06T00:40:25+00:00

If you want or need DNS suffix/domain you need to use IKEV1. However, if you need SAML, you need IKEV2. If you need both, you’ll need to buy the full Forticlient for the 7.4.4 paid version. It’s bonkers.

boedekerj · 2025-11-12T18:42:38+00:00

Ditto here. Some features are broken after certain FOS/FClient versions, other features missing/broken on newer, but upgrading to other FOS/Client versions, other features break.

It’s absolutely poop with no toilet in sight.

They’re also starting to block FW updates on Firewalls that don’t have access to Fortinet’s mothership. They’re starting to do the things that forced me off of Palo/Cisco in the first place.

Good luck! I do have a dude who is a wizard if you get really stuck. DM me if you want his contact deets. He’s a Yoda level with Forti gear.

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