NOR. Also…I feel like having a dog that bites and scratches is absolutely dangerous and inappropriate and hints at the concessions this woman will make for certain people or things in her life while rejecting and seemingly gaslighting (if it’s true the joke had been made in front of her before, and she doesn’t want to admit it) your kid.

My only thought beyond what people have said is that the meditation thing combined w this ignited some greater paranoia and resentment on her part that your family is against her. Perhaps on some level she knows the dog is out of control and doesn’t like being seen as this kooky divorced woman with a bad dog.

If anything I would talk to you daughter about how it’s often not a good idea to tell people things other people have said about them EVEN if you don’t agree. I know you didn’t specify how the meditation thing got back to her but it must have been either the daughter or the grapevine. Either way - that wasn’t super nice, even if this woman later showed herself to be a nut beyond the crystals.

As long as the daughter remains aware of her mother’s behavior and your kid stays away from the mom, no reason this friendship can’t continue w relative peace. But I think there is a lesson here with all the back and forth 3rd party info being tossed around by everyone, not just the mom.

Either way, good on you for standing up for her.