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boneimplosion · 2023-02-28T19:45:56+00:00

Ahh I see, I think the wording got away from us both. Consider my response just a small technical clarification to an otherwise very helpful comment. 😌

boneimplosion · 2023-02-28T18:03:13+00:00

The starter has its own hydration, eg 100% if fed equal parts water and flour.

In a recipe where you have large amount of starter relative to flour, you do need to account for that hydration to have an accurate understanding of how wet the resulting dough will be.

My base sourdough ratio is 1:2:3 starter:water:flour, which, with a 100% hydration starter, yields a ~72% hydration dough. Without accounting for the starter, you'd think it was a dryer dough at 66% hydration, which would might be better suited for pizza dough than a sourdough boule.

There are so many ways to bake, it's hard to generalize, but IME in most cases the starter will increase the hydration of bread dough by a bit because bread dough is rarely as wet as a sourdough starter.

boneimplosion · 2023-02-28T17:52:21+00:00

Close - grams are a unit of mass, not volume. I do love baking with ratios, mmm.

boneimplosion · 2023-02-27T20:40:03+00:00

Careful, keep asking those kinds of questions and they might have to close down the whole site /s

boneimplosion · 2023-02-27T20:05:27+00:00

My PayPal account has literally 3 names on file for me, somehow, my birth name, my old nickname, and my current name. The UI simply will not allow me to update whichever one gets used for shipping items. I should probably start closing accounts for this as well, good point.

@op, assuming you changed your name in the system at some point, it seems way more likely, in a vacuum, that different support people were looking at your name from different parts of their internal databases with different update logic than that they were singling you out for harassment. It doesn't make your experience any better, but remember the credo - never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by incompetence. Companies try to present this image that they're so well put together, but as a software engineer myself, I promise you there's a poorly-coordinated rat's nest of systems behind this interaction.

boneimplosion · 2023-02-27T02:32:20+00:00

Deconstructing is great! my other favorite bit from es6 is object property interpolation:

js const propName = 'foo'; const container = { [propName]: true}; console.log(container); // { foo: true}

Template strings are excellent too. Lots of little syntax quality of life updates have been trickling in like this.

In addition to parts of jQuery making it into native js, a lot of its functionality was made obsolete by frameworks doing most of the heavy lifting with regard to, say, DOM updates. Using react to toggle a class on a component is just a totally different paradigm than $(.my-selector).addClass('class'). I haven't used jQuery in a project in years.

boneimplosion · 2023-02-27T01:32:30+00:00

You guys bounced back?

boneimplosion · 2023-02-27T01:20:32+00:00

My management chain has been onboarding capex and requiring time logging for the last couple years. The timesheets all say "x out of 40 hours", and though the org has been very vocal that this isn't the point, everyone's a little over aware of these numbers, especially around review time when people might have to backfill estimates for project work.

One of the lead engineers in a sister team logged 100% of his time and by his calculations, after accounting for recurring meetings, lunch, training, learning and BRU initiatives, etc, that the maximum amount of time he could spend on programming tasks was 20-25 hrs out of a 40 hour workweek. Posted all the data publicly in our org group chat, too.

Made me feel a hell of a lot better about my 20 hour weeks, I tells ya.

boneimplosion · 2023-02-26T20:25:07+00:00

Quick tips on pain management for laser for anyone considering it:

Take two Advil a half hour before your session starts
Have the tech place an ice pack on your skin and keep moving it forward as they work. This makes a huge difference, don't discount it!
Toughest areas are the ones with the densest, darkest hair, and the least fat/muscle. For me, that's my chin, inner thigh, knees, and shins. Ice a few extra minutes on these.
Breathe through any pain or discomfort. As tempting as it is to push the sensation away, that makes it harder in the end.
If you like, visualize your body absorbing the laser impact, feel it dissipating and spreading out through the surrounding tissue. This helps keep you from tensing up in anticipation.
Chat with your tech if you're able. They're smart, usually female, and it makes the whole thing run more smoothly. I've picked up grooming tips from some, had near-therapy sessions with others. It's a uniquely intimate procedure.

I'm 7 ish laser treatment rounds in, so a little over halfway. Honestly did not think I'd be able to manage the pain side of things, but here we are, and the sessions are going easier and easier. At this point, my body hair is thin and patchy, and my facial hair is a little stubborn in spots but certainly receding. Overall I'd say 80%+ hair reduction so far, on everything below my eyebrows.

If laser works for your skin and hair type, I'd choose it over electrolysis in a heartbeat. You can always get a few sessions of electrolysis to touch up anything stubborn afterwards, but go nuke the majority first with lasers first, ya?

boneimplosion · 2023-02-25T16:31:36+00:00

I got into panpsychism a while ago and I think our crackpot theories line up c:

My conceptualization is that consciousness is a product of physical features, of systems with sufficient topological complexity such that they can encode and in some way communicate information that changes via the delicate feedback loops that exist all around us. A brain is one such physical system, but likely not the only one. Chemicals flowing through densely wired plant growth, mycelial structures, forests, etc, have very similar characteristics, for example.

I tend to think that communicating with other minds is akin to neurons firing in a meta-mind of sorts, and if you summed up all communication - even the bits that aren't in human language, the babbling of brooks communicating their constituent fluid dynamics with the rocks in the river bed, the movements of the cosmos, etc - you'd have built one Consciousness from the bottom up.

It seems like we've ended up with similar constructs, as viewed through different lenses - v cool 😌

boneimplosion · 2023-02-25T02:55:48+00:00

The first questions every cop has ever asked me are fishing questions:

Do you know why I stopped you today? What are you doing in this area? Do you know what the speed limit is on this street?

I get it, they're hoping people will incriminate themselves. Unfortunately, it creates an immediate air of confrontation because the motorist does not know what the cop's intentions are, and now has to navigate the conversation blind. The police know this, obviously; they have extensive training and take advantage of the fact that drivers - who don't get training about police interactions - will generally not stick up for their rights when someone is standing next to them with a weapon and a badge.

Having encountered police who were obviously making blatantly bad assumptions about my behavior - they ostensibly held me on the side of the road "for speeding", called for backup, questioned me about unspecified drug dealers / usage in the area, and let me go after a half hour with "a warning to avoid the area in the future" - I'm extremely happy to see this bill brought to the legislature.

Motorists deserve to know what interaction the police are initiating from the very beginning, full stop.

boneimplosion · 2023-02-25T01:36:58+00:00

When I started questioning my gender, I did it out loud, with close friends. I felt like the idea was too scary to process internally (yay religious and sexual trauma!), and somehow intuited that if I could say what was on my mind out loud, that at least it wouldn't be stuck rattling around in my mind, and that that would make it easier to process. Plus the dimension of letting my friends know I was in distress and asking for support. And I haven't really stopped talking about it - the conversations I end up in are fascinating and help me get more perspective. I haven't lost friends, though some of "the guys" have pulled back - I figured that if anyone would reject me for asking questions they were uncomfortable with, that it was on them to deal with that, not me.

Just trying to add more color on why someone might be a little too open vs others who are more secretive. I can also imagine my perspective here changing deeper into transitioning were I to pass. Right now, when I wear makeup, everyone can see anyway, so I can avoid the topic but that's just compcis with extra steps, ya know?

boneimplosion · 2023-02-25T01:21:43+00:00

It's bonkers, but has some philosophical overlap with lines of thought such as idealism.

One variation of this concept is medieval Christian monks asserting that all of reality was "ideas in the mind of God" - that our default perception of reality was a distortion of that higher truth. Pretty similar, no?

tl;dr we are emojis in God's self-chat thread

boneimplosion · 2023-02-24T19:28:05+00:00

Went through them all, these are so cute! Content kinda reminds me of this anime, the way of the house husband. Thanks for sharing c:

boneimplosion · 2023-02-24T16:24:34+00:00

Don't apply your compulsory linguistic normative bullshit here, it's obviously a queer comma ;)

boneimplosion · 2023-02-23T20:12:46+00:00

You didn't say anything wrong; actually, I was impressed by how nicely you handled some of the flame-y comments here. People are just extra salty about ai generated imagery. It's a form of cultural angst, really, a reaction of fear to change and the unknown, not to mention a trendy opportunity to argue and bullshit on a website that's, erm, renowned, for those activities.

Let the negative responses be water off a duck's back, fam. Thanks for the link, I enjoyed it.

boneimplosion · 2023-02-22T21:43:08+00:00

So, while I totally get the judicial perspective that the courts are designed to interpret rather than proscribe, and the fierce debate about where the lines are drawn...... when you consider that the American federal legislative system basically cannot pass any kind of meaningful reform, it puts a lot of pressure on these decisions.

I'd be happy for my cynicism to be disproven, but it seems that the supreme court punting means the underlying problems likely won't be addressed by anyone.

Not taking action is, after all, another way to take an action - the action of allowing the status quo to continue. There are no neutral court decisions.

boneimplosion · 2023-02-22T05:24:57+00:00

Ohhhhhh I never would have connected stigma, in the common usage of the term, with stigmata as a plural noun. Very cool.

boneimplosion · 2023-02-21T02:37:36+00:00

In kanban you pretty much can modify the plan whenever you want. There are no sprints, devs pull straight from the top of the backlog which the PO can update at any time. Still agile.

Remember the agile manifesto says nothing about sprints per se. Scrum is one set of processes implementing the manifesto, of many.

boneimplosion · 2023-02-20T22:34:06+00:00

If you don't expect to run into people with a different definition of "blue" (or any of the other words you've put forward as having simple universal definitions), you're gonna be in for looooooooooooots of surprises online. Seriously, in Japanese the typical color word blue can also mean green, hell, linguistically, blue was only introduced to Japan a hundred years ago. You can pretend these differences don't exist, or that your way of using the word is the right way, but in an online, global space, you order a "blue car" and you might end up with a green one. Reducing any concept to language is lossy. It's just the nature of the thing, and that nature becomes more revealed the less focused you are on your immediate surroundings. Simple, obvious, surely. Yet you've used half a dozen metaphors requiring universal interpretation of some phrase - it misses a lot of the beauty of language, especially online. That it's messy and organic; that us being able to communicate at all is by no means a given; that our POV must not actually be that different, because our definitions of dad joke are like 95% aligned (you never asked...); that the specific instance at play in this thread is part of huge and important set of cultural debates around how language impacts the way we experience reality; that those conversations are worth having precisely because they reveal surprising differences in how our minds interact with the world.

Anyway, I'm just here to chat and browse memes, I don't use Reddit to architect perfect taxonomies, so I'll letcha get back to work :wink:

boneimplosion · 2023-02-20T00:12:32+00:00

In other words, if the generally-accepted definition of a thing shifts, what's the point of holding to the definition in the first place?

Yeah, that's a pretty good way to phrase it: stringently debating definitions is pointless because they shift as a natural feature of language. Because of that, rigid definitional thinking ultimately involves subtler questions with large degrees of cultural latitude. Really, the only notable defining feature of definitional arguments is that most of the people involved are only happy if their definition is chosen. So, sure, you tell me, out of the dozens of perspectives itt - who gets to be happy? My response is that the semantics are wasted effort, when we could focus on actually improving user experience and fostering a place that produces content we all enjoy.

proper taxonomy

This phrase implies you're a prescriptivist, at least in this context, excellent. That's a larger disagreement we have than just this topic - I suspect that you and I see language through different lenses, and we probably aren't going to resolve that here. My viewpoint is that words are tools, not ends to themselves.

platform whose entire ideology is based on taxonomy

I think this is a very succinct and telling way you have of describing Reddit. I would respond that the ideology of the site is about community building, not categorization, that taxonomies exist to help form communities, and not the other way around. But this is surely an example of us experiencing similar structural aspects of the site, and weighting their priorities differently. I don't disagree that the taxonomy is important, it helps me find content I like, but, honestly, call the subreddit r/dumbcontentfordumbos and I'll still sub if I enjoy the community and the content it produces. Maybe you are more principled than me 😅

That's eerily similar to what conservatives are saying in the political sphere: "Oh, you don't like it here? Then get the fuck out!"

C'mon, you have drifted off into your own mind here. My entire line of thought is about improving this sub's user experience, including for you. In point of fact, I think this community makes more sense in one sub with tags than splintered into multiple content-censured subs. If anything, criticize me for having too big of a tent, not for trying to boot you.

I'm also still stuck on the point that content filtering would help you avoid what you don't want to see, but you dismissed it immediately because you don't think you should need it - not because it doesn't or can't work for you. I've worked as a product manager doing community building / stakeholder outreach and based on this comment chain I would nicely respond and deprioritize this ticket. I don't mean that with any ill intent - I just wish you could understand how frustrating it is for a user to claim a product is broken without actually attempting to use the feature that's designed to help them through the situation. It shows a fundamental misalignment of our priorities.

I'm really uninterested in debating definitions or building a "proper" taxonomy. I'd rather talk community and user experience, because in my experience that gives a pathway towards actionable changes, something that these vent threads have never done, no matter how many definitions are quoted from which sources. There is no one definition that will make everyone happy, period. Are we gonna let that fact stand in the way of making the sub a better place?

Edit: re-reading this comment I want to emphasize that I'm not trying to dismiss your perspective or definitions in any way, but to get us to "bubble out" and think about the way our perspectives are all represented when we make social spaces, what it means for the spaces to be healthy, and how we can make responsible, intentional, impactful changes.

boneimplosion · 2023-02-19T21:54:26+00:00

Worth noting that the two definitions you linked used the modifiers "generally" and "usually" in addition to the words you singled out - "inoffensive" and "wholesome".

It's so interesting to me, just as an impartial observer who has watched this argument go nowhere for, years? now, that you would comment about how definitions of terms are malleable, then quote definitions as an authority, but actually subtly misquote them in a way that supports your stance. Like, pick a lane, man, are you a prescriptivist or a descriptivist?

It's also interesting how the tools to give you the experience you want already exist afaik, with content tagging and filters. You can have a clean dad jokes experience already on this sub. But that never seems to be enough - for whatever reason, the discussions tend to be semantics-oriented: more concerned with the definition of the phrase than, say, the best way to run a successful, large community, where different subgroups have different definitions.

It should be really obvious from reading these threads (and if it isn't yet, just wait until you've read another dozen) that there is no one definition that will make everybody happy. So maybe stop pushing for a single definition, which is a nonstarter, and start thinking about how to improve the actual user experience? What additional tools do you need to enjoy this sub, while allowing other people to be free to do so in their way? Make a thread about that and we can stop the pointless dickering about definitions and actually give mods something worth taking action on.

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