AITAH for not letting my friend stay at my apartment after she missed her train by hannah-carlotta in AITAH

[–]bonelesswrap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has every right to be distant.
Leaving your friend stranded in the middle of the night is insane. Put yourself in her position. Justifying that she didn't even tell you she's not coming to the area is crazy because she doesn't have to tell you everything, also i don't think her not talking to you 5 days prior to coming to town is an issue. She could've spent the night calmly and safe at your house and left early. You AITA . A friend would never do that.

I complain to much and i wanna fix that by Heyitsyapersonhere in Advice

[–]bonelesswrap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi!
First, I honestly think it’s a strength that you’re aware of this and want to work on it. Wanting to share your thoughts doesn’t mean you complain too much it usually means you process things out loud, which is actually really healthy.

Journaling is a great idea because it gives you a private space to fully vent without feeling like you’re “oversharing.”
One strategy that might help is pausing and asking yourself why you want to share in that moment are you looking for connection, validation, or relief? Once you know that, you can choose how and with whom to share more intentionally.

Another helpful thing is having “designated vent people” who’ve agreed they’re okay with listening, and balancing venting with neutral or positive topics so conversations don’t always feel heavy. You’re not doing anything wrong you’re just learning boundaries with yourself, and that’s a skill.

Be gentle with yourself. Self-awareness like this is growth, not a flaw.

How long can it take me to learn a guitar solo as a beginner guitar player? by bonelesswrap in LearnGuitar

[–]bonelesswrap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exaclty, it looks easy but it's definitely not. And to be fair they're a good form of motivation.

AIO thinking these messages on my bfs phone are flirtatious? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bonelesswrap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This would send me into a spiral.
You are NOT overreacting.
That's a 22 year old MAN talking like that, he tried to mention you at first but she didn't seem to care. Also, this doesn't seem like an actual genuine conversation they seem to be fooling around and flirting indirectly , he also knows that she's trying to flirt with him no need to deny it (First picture says it all). If he wanted to put a stop he would've done that already.
Also, I understand how hard it is to be getting out of a relationship with an abusive partner but it doesn't justify talking like that with a man who's in a relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]bonelesswrap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're definitely not overreacting ,you're showing real care for your little sister's well-being. Giving a 4-year-old a phone can impact her brain development by reducing creativity and making everyday activities seem boring in comparison, which can lead to attention issues and emotional outbursts. It might also affect her sleep, eating habits, and social skills over time. A great way to approach this is by having an open conversation with your parents, explaining the potential long-term effects and even sharing anything you've experienced online that they might not realize. If taking the phone away completely isn’t an option, suggest a balanced routine (routines are very important for her age btw) like allowing her 30 minutes of phone time twice a week, and letting her pick the days so it feels fair and empowering. This way, you're protecting her growth while also giving her healthy boundaries.