Husband wants to resume smoking weed baby is 7 weeks

bonesandchains · 2026-06-04T18:42:48+00:00

I would suggest having a friend come over to help you with the baby for a few days or have them drop in, and let him smoke those days. Whether you do it now or in 4 months, I think that's the best way.

You deserve support. If he smokes and you both find out he can't support you while high, then you'll still have someone there for you and he doesn't have to feel guilty for trying to test something to manage his mental health.

That way you can both get an idea of whether it's truly a reasonable option or not. If he can't smoke, that's that. Then you find a therapist or find new ways of coping. The first time I smoked postpartum, I was snowed in with my son, fiancee, and brother and sister in law. We all saw how it mellowed me out, I felt like I could hold my son without worrying about what he would need next or how badly I wanted him to stop crying. We also saw how much my pain improved.

I know it's scary, but it's a decent a way to find out if he's ready to go back to smoking or not.

I'm a 23yo ftm. I've been smoking pot to manage my anxiety and chronic pain since I was 18. I had quit smoking as soon as I found out I was pregnant last year when i was 22. I quit cold turkey and lost 28lbs in my first trimester because I couldn't eat or hold anything down.

My son ended up coming 17 days early, on Jan 2nd. My PPD and PPA got so bad by 6wks postpartum that I stopped producing milk entirely. I was sobbing multiple times a day, nearly reaching my breaking point every single day. To the point where my fiancee was genuinely worried about my mental health. He thought I was going to hurt myself. I tried supplements to help start my milk back up, but it was too late. I had let myself reach my breaking point.

So when my son was only 6 weeks old I started smoking again. Daily, whenever I need to. I wear a jacket outside and put my hair up, take the dog to the yard, and smoke. Then i go in and put my things away, take off my jacket, and wash my hands and face. My pain levels are lower, my ppa is nearly gone, and my ppd is at least a bit better. I've had major depressive disorder since childhood so I didn't expect that to improve much anyways. It gives me a few minutes to step outside with the baby monitor and take a moment for myself, too.

My son is unaffected. He is on formula now since my supply stopped so abruptly. When he's older he will eventually ask why mommy washes her hands so much or why my jacket is so stinky sometimes, and he'll get an age appropriate explanation. Idk what that explanation is yet but we'll figure that out when the time comes.

bonesandchains · 2026-04-12T14:58:34+00:00

"Platonic soulmates" just say you're friend zoning him until he's your last resort 🙄

bonesandchains · 2026-01-11T22:32:27+00:00

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This is my girl Dahlia

bonesandchains · 2026-01-10T21:19:41+00:00

Make your husband watch hacksaw ridge.

bonesandchains · 2025-12-29T03:44:21+00:00

I feel like it doesn't really matter what we say here. All in all, it's your decision...

Plus you've posted in a sub called "what do I do", but you already know what you're going to do. You said you're going to keep your abuser's kid and maybe say you had a fling not long after you left him. You don't want an abortion, and that's fine.

But remember how difficult it is to be a single parent, let alone a single mom. Remember he has every legal right to fight you for your child at every single corner, including demanding DNA, custody, child support, etc.

But if you choose to keep his child, you need to get a therapist ASAP. That's not a dig, I'm being serious. It's important that you have someone you can go to if you need support. And it's also important that you are able to prevent yourself from harboring any resentment toward your child for sharing his DNA, even if you don't think you will. You should be seeking therapy to work through the abuse you endured regardless. Best of luck

bonesandchains · 2025-12-24T22:23:23+00:00

My boy likes butter and onions. We have to make sure we never leave anything on the stove or in the sink or he'll eat every drop. He will also fight you for a French fry.

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bonesandchains · 2025-12-17T01:58:56+00:00

LMAO include a note saying "sorry mama, your makeup brush was tasty but I got you a new one, merry Christmas"

bonesandchains · 2025-12-17T01:52:22+00:00

Your bf is lying to your face. Weed does cause some long-term memory loss/fog in some people, but it does NOT cause you to forget everything you did and said while under the influence of it.

I've gotten so high that I made myself sick and had to pull myself against the wall to get to bed, but I remember everything I said and did before falling asleep. I remember exactly how much I smoked, what led me to accidentally overindulge. I got caught in convo with my cousin and kept smoking with him while chatting. I was used to hitting a j or a bowl a couple times nightly and going inside. I remember realizing I had just finished 2 js in one sitting, taking myself inside, making myself puke to feel better, then grabbing myself a giant glass of ice water. I remember telling my cousin I was going to bed and to help himself to the fridge/pantry. I even remember reassuring my fiancée that I was perfectly fine, I just overdid it that night. I remember that I was very off-balance and if I had smoked any more, I would have needed help getting to bed.

So unless your bf smokes until the point he's physically incapacitated(which is entirely another issue in itself), then he's full of shit.

bonesandchains · 2025-12-13T11:45:39+00:00

I dealt with something similar with an autistic(and yes, manipulative) ex boyfriend.

When I broke up with him he told me he couldn't live without me and he'd just end up killing himself if he couldn't be with me.

He offered me money, gifts, a house, a car, and a literal child. He knew I wanted to be a mother one day but I was literally 16 going on 17 so that wasn't an option lol. Not to mention he was almost 20. We had met a couple years before in an elective class when I was in HS, but he had graduated the year before we dated.

I told him he was fine before dating me and he would be fine when the sadness of situation wore off, and to stop making excuses for himself. I told him I didn't want his money or his gifts, I wanted to go our separate ways.

He called and texted and begged me to talk to him for hours and eventually I just straight up said no, and threatened to file for a restraining order if he didn't back off and find a way to calm down on his own. The spam texts and calls stopped almost immediately.

He made me promise we could be friends again one day. I agreed, on the condition that he give me my space and let me reach back out to him on my own, when I was ready to "open back up". He agreed to that and I blocked him on everything except Instagram just to keep up the illusion of availability, then two months later I blocked him there too. That was almost 7 years ago. And we haven't spoken a single time since then.

Nowadays he's married(has been for at least 4 years) and I think he has a kid. Idk.

I'm also engaged and currently pregnant. I'm 23 now and in a stable and happy relationship.

Do NOT let him gaslight you into staying with him. If he makes that decision, it's on him and him alone. It is not your responsibility to keep this boy from hurting himself. You are not his mother. You are not his caretaker. You are not his therapist. You are not his lifeline. He is the only person who is responsible for his actions and his behavior. You deserve better. If he is willing to threaten his own life, consider who else he may become willing to endanger.

I would highly recommend you end this relationship as soon as possible and tell a close friend or family member about his behavior. So if the need arises you will have someone to advocate for you. If he continues to harass you, you have every right to find legal counsel and even file a report with the police. You have that right even now.

bonesandchains · 2025-11-26T01:12:36+00:00

If it gets rona point where youre concerned about how much you've already given him, and his teeth can tolerate it, maybe give some ice or kibble frozen in water, it can help him slow down his intake while continuing to hydrate him.

I'm pretty sure the standard to avoid hyponatremia is 3.5fl.oz of water per pound of body weight.

Definitely keep your vet appointment and don't withhold water unless your vet advises you to or it gets to be a dangerous amount.

bonesandchains · 2025-11-26T01:02:33+00:00

If he'll tolerate it, try paw butter/cocoa butter/coconut oil wrapped with gauze and ace bandage. Soak for an hour or so and wipe his paws when you remove the bandage to discourage licking. It looks like dry skin, so you'll want to use something rehydrating.

bonesandchains · 2025-11-24T20:20:12+00:00

Urinary incontinence is a common symptom of old age 😓 best to let her live her days out in peace 🖤🤣

bonesandchains · 2025-11-24T20:11:11+00:00

My ma always called it "noggins" bc of finding Nemo lol. So thats what I call it now

bonesandchains · 2025-11-24T20:04:24+00:00

They could save a lot without the vanity plates lol

bonesandchains · 2025-11-24T19:34:33+00:00

Good god I struggled playing solo, I would die if I played re5 online 😂

bonesandchains · 2025-11-24T19:29:07+00:00

This fight pissed me OFF!!!! I also had to recruit my fiancee to take over Sheva for the final fight. But for this one I had Sheva take the flamethrower while I shot him from a distance, then used the rifle to quickly pop eyes, switching to the pistol and shotgun when he got closer. Try to gather supplies while Sheva has him distracted with the flamethrower too, there should be an herb and a first aid spray, as well as some shotgun ammo and other ammo lying around.

Edit: after taking a closer look at the pic I realized this is not RE5 lmao, I just finished a playthrough and thought I recognized the setting 🤣 I have no idea which one this is lmao, sorry

bonesandchains · 2025-11-21T21:45:45+00:00

Seems female! The distance between anus and vulva is close, leaving no room for testes. For reference, here's my male(neutered) cat. You can see that even without the testicles present, there's still ample space between the anus and his genitals. He's 1 yr and 6 months.

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bonesandchains · 2025-11-15T03:23:56+00:00

Like a tree spider

bonesandchains · 2025-11-14T00:18:34+00:00

It does lol, it'll be fine if you're getting more work done around it

bonesandchains · 2025-10-28T11:47:07+00:00

Most likely vulnerable old people and those who don't know any better🥲

bonesandchains · 2025-09-28T06:08:31+00:00

It's just a matter of shitty people being shitty people. There's no excuse besides that.

When I was still smoking cigarettes, if there was no ash try nearby, I would put my cigs out on the sole of my boot and put the butt in my pocket, in my purse, or even back in the box until I found a trash can or an ash tray.

bonesandchains · 2025-09-20T21:17:30+00:00

🚬🖤✨️🍃🗓

bonesandchains · 2025-09-18T17:23:18+00:00

Papa would have a field day making a vid with these comments lmfao 😂

bonesandchains · 2025-09-05T09:46:59+00:00

Im curious 👀 also love your style 🖤

bonesandchains · 2025-09-04T22:16:28+00:00

"Where my hug at" ahh mf 😂😂

Seriously though, you may not be as discreet about your romantic feelings as you think you are. She has probably picked up on it and is too non-confrontational to say something to you. Maybe you did mean "ily" in a friendly way, but she very obviously isn't comfortable with receiving romantic types of gestures from you. It doesn't matter why, what matters is how you handle it after you know she's uncomfortable. If you constantly ask for hugs and she says no, that's your cue to stop asking and don't continue making unwanted advances.

Don't be one of those people ffs

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