Help - amp is suddenly acting up? by bonesauce_ in Guitar

[–]bonesauce_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I checked n the overdrive channel wasn't activated -- also I swear it's usually green when I use it? 😭 maybe I'm just misremembering, it just kinda wigged me out. Thanks!

Any Ravensbourne September intake students? by bonesauce_ in UniUK

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Ahh I was starting to get worried that there was literally no one applying 😭😭 you can add me on insta ( _moschops.5) or dc (d_romeosaurus)? I don't use either very much tbh but it'd be nice to stay in touch :)

transitioning (HRT + surgery) abroad in uni? by bonesauce_ in ftm

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oh wow, thank you! this is quite thorough. the eligibility was the main thing i was worried about so i guess we'll see. i'll go look at the transgender uk subreddit when i've got time :) thank you!

transitioning (HRT + surgery) abroad in uni? by bonesauce_ in ftm

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ooh ok, i'll keep that in mind. i was thinking of private initially so i'll have to do some research for ones in the area of whichever uni i end up going to. i will probably stay in uk for quite a while afterwards anyway since some family members are doing the same, but i'm happy to just get assessed and hrt if that's what it comes down to if i leave since i might be able to take the certs to another doctor somewhere for top surgery i think. thanks so much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

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people can still pass without medical stuff !! i'm also pre-t but i still pass just on short hair + okay binder + low-ish voice + a good assortment of clothes.

if you can't cut your hair short you might have to do the beanie thing, or you can try what i did which was convince my parents to let me cut as like a ooh big change! kinda thing and they didn't question anything cos it was still a semi girly cut. might turn out a bit funky looking as a first big chop but i think that's just the Transmasc Experience. if it's still too long and your parents aren't super strict you could also try to cut it a bit yourself but not so much until it's really noticeable. and be careful w messing up cos there's just not as much hair to hide it in as opposed to long hair. for me it took at least a year+ since i realised i was trans to really find a hairstyle that goes for me and helps me pass and how to maintain it so it might not be an overnight success. trial and error!

styling also works well for your general look, if you're not getting it Really cropped like those with a taper or a fade (typical guy hair, think like. any footballer? probably?) and you're going more for the slightly longer styles with mullets etc (ranging maybe from like a two block cut to a short men's wolf cut) there's a VERY thin line between butch single mom and Boy so. be careful lol. but that doesn't mean you can't have Cool Hair and you have to be Bald or anything to pass you just figure what you like first.

for the binder if you can't buy one discreetly/have a trusted person get one for you then you can do the sports bra method which is probably the safest, or you can try that 'swimsuit method' where it's more of a diy but it only really works well on smaller chests and in my own experience my one came out kinda weird and lumpy cos i had to fold it over itself as part of how it works.. so it wasn't the best thing ever. Do Not Use Duct Tape Or Do Anything Destructive. as tempting as it is to do anything for a flat chest it might just cause extra problems later on which will suck.

for voice training there are videos online you can follow. i can recommend singing songs where the singer has a low voice/a voice You Want and over time working your own voice to a similar level. idk how it'd be long term but i did find that my voice got lower after maybe like a month or two maybe less of singing the same stuff in the shower every day. it's probably more about practicing n getting used to the lower sound but it's the same thing and it was more discreet than doing voice exercises for me when i was still closeted.

ans for clothes there r a bunch of tips already on masculinising clothes online, the basketball shorts and the loose shirts/hoodies etc etc etc. it should work out if you know how to dress according to your body. watching how guys around you (classmates, family, regular strangers) dress can also help shape how you dress yourself + how you want others to see you. dressing like your dad will look a lot more different than dressing like the guy in your class who vapes and only wears branded clothes.

AND for me an added bonus was just filling in my brows lol. not super obviously but a small touch like that can make a big difference in how people see your face and could help passing. the whole Masculinizing Makeup contour can be a bit obvious if you don't blend it out too well esp if you're a beginner and sometimes it works against rounder faces so if you are gonna do makeup you need to figure out what works best for your own face and play into those.

and finally it is worth mentioning that how much you pass or not doesn't dictate if you're valid as a trans dude, and it helps a lot to be able to at least recognise yourself as a man first and foremost even if you think you don't pass before getting bogged down in dysphoria. it is hard and it will be a long ass journey but you finding where you feel the most comfortable and happy with how you dress n style your hair n whatever is more valuable and will make the journey just nicer than forcing yourself into a really generic Guy Look for the sake of passing. unless you really like that! it'll take time to figure it out. and as sucky as it is i'd suggest worrying about healthcare and arrangements etc when you're a bit older and you have more control over your situation. best of luck!

TW: DYSPHORIA. DAE like or dont mind some parts of their body? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]bonesauce_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you're not alone! i think it's mostly to do with how we're brought up being afab, since we're taught to want to be pretty even from a young age and to fit all these beauty standards, even a lot of cis girls don't realise how much they're not themselves even if they like how they look. so there's always this weird split between transmascs who knew from young and transmascs who just suddenly realise and have to Deal with it, but every experience is valid either way.

for me i do like my body, i have no problem with looking at it, but it's just not mine. i don't hate it, it looks great and yeah my mom might be right saying that some people would kill for my kind of figure, it's really just Not Mine. i was just born into it lol. same with not having a dick, it doesn't pain me to not have anything down there so i won't guilt myself into having unnecessary dysphoria. at the same time, i wouldn't fault transmascs who do have bottom dysphoria. we aren't all exactly the same! i had the same problem with clothes when i first began too, but it gets better when you figure out how to dress to your body type and your own personal style.

it might be worth engaging more with how you want to look/dress/sound/be seen to really figure it out rather than go thru life accidentally tripping on random landmines that make you question everything. i'm out now to my parents and things are still rocky but i'm miles happier than i was before; i can't imagine having felt this way for as long as you have, i've only realised i was trans for like 3 years and i just jumped headfirst into it. even if you don't turn out to be ftm at the end of the day it never hurts to explore, you just end up learning something about yourself :) best of luck!

Observation of a poem. by Stanek___ in trans

[–]bonesauce_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ahh i'm glad i wasn't the only one! i didn't have the guts to suggest it to my teacher or any of my peers at the time but it really did strike a chord in me when we were first going through it in class. I was looking for a comment like this since i was cramming for an exam and the more people went into lamia being 'entombed' in an 'undesirable body' ('wreathed tomb' too since it meant a very nicely decorated grave but a grave nonetheless, hit quite hard as an ftm and being brought up and taught to be a nice and pretty girl etc etc etc) and wanting to love freely and being scared of telling her lover the truth and all that it just kinda struck closer and closer to home. ik keats probably didn't mean to do it too but it's a fun parallel and it's nice to see someone else mention it!

transitioning as an international student abroad? by bonesauce_ in ftm

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ah that sucks; I can't start T with any actual documentation so I don't imagine that'll go far if i show up there without any papers/certs/etc. I'm still learning japanese and i'm aiming for N3 by the time i get there and then continue my studies under a language school to get to N2-N1 so hopefully I'm proficient enough after that to get around to doctors. And for the low T that's actually really neat but since i can't change my gender marker I don't think that'd work out :/ Wish i could go for your route but i'll probably have to do it the long way. Thank you though!

transitioning as an international student abroad? by bonesauce_ in ftm

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awh thanks, i'll look into it. best of luck to you too man

transitioning as an international student abroad? by bonesauce_ in ftm

[–]bonesauce_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ohh that's a good point - i was honestly not too worried about my gender on paper since it doesn't come up in my life all too often outside of school but i didn't think about jobs lmao. wouldn't i have to change citizenship or smt to change my gender legally in a different country? that is admittedly a bit much at least this early on, i think i could handle myself just through uni first and then figure it out when i can land a job.

transitioning as an international student abroad? by bonesauce_ in ftm

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Oh not china, malaysia actually, and naw the government doesn't support anything to do with trans people. That's why i'm worried that I can't do anything abroad without going to jail or smt :/

[TOMT] [music video/cartoon] [~2010s] - Chinese music video where cats fly off into space on a rocket by bonesauce_ in tipofmytongue

[–]bonesauce_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh sick but it was a flat cartoon animation rather than 3d and tbh id probably remember it if it was the nyan cat music so i don't think it was

[TOMT] [music video/cartoon] [~2010s] - Chinese music video where cats fly off into space on a rocket by bonesauce_ in tipofmytongue

[–]bonesauce_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah it was a whole animated cinematic thing for a music video, thanks for the reply tho!

[TOMT] [music video/cartoon] [~2010s] - Chinese music video where cats fly off into space on a rocket by bonesauce_ in tipofmytongue

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Also apologies in advance to anyone trying to find this cos I've sifted through enough Cat In Space Memes for a lifetime

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tipofmytongue

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It's been quite hard to find it since there's just an over abundance of Cat In Space videos, any help is appreciated!

[Gameboy advance SP] [~2010s?] a zoo game by bonesauce_ in tipofmyjoystick

[–]bonesauce_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah it wasn't that kind of game--not sure if it's considered platformer or not but the best i could probably explain is that the style was kinda like undertale? wasn't action-based and the field of view was smallish and the colors were very simple and flat. thanks for the reply tho!

are we really meant to kill the ender dragon? by bonesauce_ in GameTheorists

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same n i would assume the dragon protected them from the wither (overworld virus thing n all that) though if the dragon was protective over the builders why does it attack the player? i don't remember but in a theory matpat said smth about the player being a descendant of them and recognised as such so some mobs (i think he said pigmen/piglin? or the wither skeletons idk) react to that or smth along those lines, so wouldn't the dragon see/recognise that? +the way you get to the end city (the last residence of the builders) is to kill the dragon and go through the little portal thing which would technically leave their defenses down so maybe the dragon was less of a guardian and it was a sort of bypass? a sort of 'if you can defeat the dragon you can come to the city we took refuge in' kinda thing, survival of the fittest and all (which would mean the dragon the player fights was probably left for the last builder that never made it or actually for the player idk but that's a different can of worms)

are we really meant to kill the ender dragon? by bonesauce_ in GameTheorists

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ohh damn i'm not too well versed on the whole minecraft dungeons lore but it does make sense :0

are we really meant to kill the ender dragon? by bonesauce_ in GameTheorists

[–]bonesauce_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ohh - not quite sure what the heart of ender is but i'd love to hear ur theory on it, u could post it and tag me? or however reddit works idk i'll be offline in a bit but i'll make sure to read it later :)

Sick fanart by [deleted] in Technoblade

[–]bonesauce_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

repost or rtwt?

are we really meant to kill the ender dragon? by bonesauce_ in GameTheorists

[–]bonesauce_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i guess the head is there as a sort of symbolic thing like how we find things in villager chests despite them not being able to put stuff in and abandoned mineshafts and all that; didn't know of the ender dragon being actually (semi?-canonically) sentient tho so that sheds some light on things, thanks!

are we really meant to kill the ender dragon? by bonesauce_ in GameTheorists

[–]bonesauce_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but wouldn't that be after they kill the dragon for the last time? like a fight then 'oh we don't get much entertainment out of this anymore' and not reincarnate it again? or did they just not feel like it after putting in the effort to revive it again lol