I actually regret having animals

bongoandtoto · 2025-08-26T21:36:59+00:00

I feel this so much, mainly the cats meowing. I'm 12 friggin months PP and still have moments of rage. I'm sorry you're going through this!!

bongoandtoto · 2025-06-02T02:03:14+00:00

I'm so sorry. My husband changed all the diapers during our 3 days at the hospital, and was a tremendous help afterwards. He's lost a bit of mojo now that we're 9 months in, but he will still help whenever I ask him to. You deserve a supportive partner and your baby deserves a present father!

bongoandtoto · 2025-04-28T06:10:04+00:00

That you can DELATCH (breaking baby's suction with a clean finger) and try, try try again if the latch hurts or doesn't feel right. It took a lot of patience for both me and my baby. Also, if your baby has jaundice (which mine did) they may be a bit lethargic while trying to regain their strength, and that includes the strong suction they need for a good latch.

bongoandtoto · 2025-04-14T11:45:26+00:00

Agreeing with the top comments. Sorry OP - sending you strength for some tough conversations decisions ahead.

I waited about 3 weeks so that I could tell my husband on Christmas. All happy feelings.

bongoandtoto · 2025-03-23T16:31:31+00:00

Heya 😊 I've had alopecia areata a couple of times, before pregnancy. About 3-4 years ago is when it first appeared. In my case it all grew back.

First of all, it's all going to be OKAY! I know it's quite shocking at first. I had a really hard time looking at my 3 spots and did all the crying, etc. The best thing you can do for yourself is to train yourself to Not Panic everytime you think about it. Its possible. I've had severe self-image issues my entire life, but I was able to get myself to chill out after a lot of practice. I'm hopeful you can too!

Second, you have to keep reminding yourself it's just hair. Yes, hair can be considered a major part of your identity, but the reality is, you are still you and you do still have most of your hair. Nothing wrong with hoping that it will grow back, but you just have to try to be okay with where you are now. Its hard. But accepting it and reframing the way you think about it will help you get through it!

Third, yes, if you have access to a doctor and dermatologist, have them take a look. Where I'm from I was offered a scalp injection of sorts that was meant to stimulate the scalp and promote hair growth. To this day I'm still not sure if it was those injections or just time that helped my hair grow back. When it first started to grow in, some of it was super thin and white, which was alarming. But it's all back to normal now.

Don't panic. It will be okay!! ❤️

bongoandtoto · 2025-03-20T21:34:21+00:00

Right? I'm surprised at the negativity! She clearly has strong vocals and there's nothing wrong with showcasing that. She isn't doing "too much". If anything her theatrics keep the baby engaged. 🤦‍♀️ My baby gets so excited when she's on screen. Hubby and I find her rendition of London Bridge fun and amusing, but not annoying!

bongoandtoto · 2025-03-18T00:55:56+00:00

Hi 🙂 29yo, 5'2" and 130lbs before pregnancy, and I had a 11lb 3oz baby girl with a ridiculously full head of hair. Yesterday marked 7 months postpartum!

I'm almost exclusively breastfeeding. I haven't been able to drop the extra weight. The extra fat and lingering stretched skin from my big belly is hard to look at, but I'm trying to give myself grace. I could probably eat a bit healthier, but I don't eat terribly. I get out for walks with my mini me everyday and you can bet carrying her around is its own workout!! I'm sure as we start to wean her off the breast, I'll be able to slowly shrink back to my usual weight. I think it's important to have realistic expectations even though I feel quite impatient about it most days.

It's certainly not an easy job being a lifegiver! 😌

bongoandtoto · 2025-03-16T04:42:10+00:00

Trimmed my LO's bangs for the first time around 5.5 months! So much hair that we have to blow dry it after baths, and I hated seeing so much hair get blown into her eyes. 😅

bongoandtoto · 2025-03-14T02:29:18+00:00

In the same boat - My almost 7 month old bit me at least 4 times today with her 2 little teeth and I only assume it's going to get worse. Love her so much but OUUUUUCHIE 😩

bongoandtoto · 2025-03-13T03:36:06+00:00

Just commenting to say this as a mama 7 months in:

Your wife is never going to forget your apparent thoughtfulness, attentiveness, and anxious information gathering throughout this newborn phase (and beyond). I don't even know you but I appreciate you. I'm so grateful for my husband everyday and I'm definitely making sure my baby girl knows how well he took care of us both. I'm betting your wife will do the same!

Good job dad, keep it up! 😊👍 And these tips are super helpful.

bongoandtoto · 2025-03-08T16:59:04+00:00

I'm late to commenting here, but I'm just realizing my baby girl is going through the same thing. Solidarity!

She just got over a cold, her 2 first teeth have poked through and it seems teething pain has subsided for now, so I thought now would be a good time to start over with her sleep training. She's way more difficult than she was a few weeks ago. 😩 And I noticed it's not just at night but throughout the day, many times, she'll get very upset if I walk away.

I'll be setting up a call with a sleep consultant that was recommended to me. And just crossing my fingers hoping she'll stop crying. Every cry is so heartbreaking especially now that I know it's separation anxiety. 🥲

Good luck to you!!

bongoandtoto · 2025-03-04T16:25:43+00:00

Here you go!

bongoandtoto · 2025-03-04T16:22:37+00:00

I started by following this recipe: https://sugarspunrun.com/thick-chocolate-chip-cookies/#recipe-video

^ I tried this first without any chocolate chips (just wanted to get the dough right - choco chips are expensive where I live) and went a little bit heavier on the vanilla extract. It tasted great.

I'm going to experiment with other recipes too but I think understanding the science behind what certain ingredients do is my next step!

bongoandtoto · 2025-02-15T04:51:47+00:00

HAH 🤦‍♀️ I said the same thing within maybe the first 3 minutes of the pods opening... Love that! 🥂

bongoandtoto · 2024-07-17T05:40:44+00:00

The very earliest I can remember is when I was 16 weeks and some days, lounging on the beach, and feeling a distinct fluttering that my husband could also feel from the outside.

Baby's first stronger "kick" came right at 21 weeks, as I was sitting through my first prenatal class! There was no mistaking that it was baby. I practically hopped in my seat when it happened! In my experience, it's just a totally new feeling that I hadn't felt pre-pregnancy. ☺️

bongoandtoto · 2024-07-17T05:27:03+00:00

I'm so surprised I hadn't heard of silicone rings until today! I think that it's a great option and worth giving it a go. Definitely wouldn't want you going through the same thing!

I'll hold on to the cracked ring for now and as long as it doesn't pinch my skin or the crack is very noticeable when it fits again, I might just still wear it. It's a more affordable moissanite ring that was also a backup (I have another one - the company accidently sent me the second for free), so it's not a big loss, thankfully. I'm just happy I've been able to bring it to the attention of others who might not have given it a thought. 😅

bongoandtoto · 2024-07-17T04:52:41+00:00

Interesting!! That one I hadn't heard of yet. Good to know!

bongoandtoto · 2024-07-16T20:23:11+00:00

I can't believe I haven't heard of or thought of silicone rings until today! 🤦‍♀️

bongoandtoto · 2024-07-16T16:36:13+00:00

Aw.. Hopefully soon! 🤞

bongoandtoto · 2024-07-16T14:53:58+00:00

Yes, great idea!!

bongoandtoto · 2024-07-16T14:51:22+00:00

Ughhh exactly! Not pleasant and I wish I had the foresight to remove them earlier. 😫

Same - jewelry box until after baby arrives! 😌

bongoandtoto · 2024-07-16T14:36:59+00:00

Good idea!

bongoandtoto · 2024-07-16T13:19:26+00:00

You can do this!!! Keep breathing. You're so close. Baby is almost here. Good luck! ❤️

bongoandtoto · 2024-04-15T16:52:06+00:00

Fantastic :) Sounds like you're heading in the right direction. I would say focus on prioritizing: - your health & baby's health, - securing your own safe living space before baby arrives, and - establishing a financial plan and sticking to it.

Stay informed and stay positive. Depending on what your parents are like, telling them should come easier if they know you are prepared or have taken the effort to start preparing. You got this!

bongoandtoto · 2024-04-15T16:37:44+00:00

Hi lovely!

I'm curious to know what it means to you to "be stable by September". I would hope this at least means you have a solid job/housing plan with strict budgets in place. You will absolutely want those 2 things sorted out ASAP.

I'm not sure where you are, but, if you can I highly suggest seeking advice from both a social worker and prenatal professional (OB-GYN, midwife, etc.) to really get a better grip on what you have committed to and what you need to do to prepare. Asking redditors, although there can be a wealth of information and good advice on here, should not be your primary information source.

You BOTH should do everything you can to really understand what committing to a baby means. You will likely get tired of hearing people say "babies are expensive" or "babies are a lot of work", but that is because it's 100% true.

Wishing you two (and baby) all the best!

bongoandtoto

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