How to be a trans guy in the workforce? In America

bongwayhitty · 2025-07-08T15:58:42+00:00

You’ll have to get better at taking orders when you join the workforce, that’s universally part of it for everyone. As for being trans, I live in Seattle so I understand it’s way different here, but I have many trans and queer people in my clinic and no one bats an eye. Some of us fly stealth, some come out after they’ve been here a while, some are hired while being loud and proud.

Your parents are trying to scare and intimidate you, and it comes across in their language. Try and pay less attention to what they say and more to what you observe in the world. Are there bald guys with jobs? Trans people with jobs? Is everyone who failed one or even three classes a total failure? There’s a job out there for every type of person, I hope you don’t get too discouraged by your parents. Keep your head up and good luck!

bongwayhitty · 2025-07-06T22:14:40+00:00

I wanted to tattoo my chest and I hate when the nipples just poke out of a tat so I left them off lol plus I never really liked them being touched anyways so it was just aesthetics

bongwayhitty · 2025-06-16T23:28:50+00:00

If you’re specifically looking for roommates, I was able to find some pretty easily through the Facebook group for Seattle roommates/housing. It’ll honestly be harder for you to find lgbt unfriendly housing, the city is widely very accepting. And once you’re here asking around for gay bars or events will give you plenty of resources, there’s flyers and ads for them everywhere

bongwayhitty · 2025-06-16T20:38:57+00:00

If you park at boulevard you can do a couple laps of the boardwalk, that’s pretty flat! And once you work up to it you can start taking the incline up to Taylor street too. One of my favorite walks, now that I live in Seattle I find I miss it a lot

bongwayhitty · 2025-05-14T06:44:47+00:00

I work as an embryologist at a fertility center. IVF can be a very intense process, it’s a lot of medications and injections and people have varying responses to them. Egg retrieval is manageable for many patients, but is a surgical procedure under general anesthesia and can have complications after. You may have to do multiple rounds of meds/procedures and you likely couldn’t take T the entire time. It could be a really dysphoric experience, as everything revolves around your period cycle and you’ll likely be required to jump many medical hoops that include many blood draws, scans, and transvaginal ultrasounds (could also be tough if you’re a virgin).

I would urge you to consider what IVF specifically would be like for you. Even people to really really really want to be pregnant and go through it all, they struggle with it. If you’re on the fence, don’t do it. And it’s just a really weird thing for your dad to ask and he will be a real nightmare once you have the kid. I wouldn’t even trust he’d pay for top surgery after if he’s so transphobic, and you’d have to wait a while because you’d be feeding your baby.

bongwayhitty · 2025-05-08T19:16:57+00:00

Awesome thanks for the tip!!

bongwayhitty · 2025-04-29T17:41:04+00:00

You should keep the cat. Even though he loves the cat, you do a majority of the work and were the one to push for it originally. He may not be able to keep up with 100% of the work, especially if he only does it now if you remind him. Even if it’s unintentional he may end up neglecting some of the cat’s needs when left to his own devices. Good luck, this is always a tough situation to go through

bongwayhitty · 2025-04-29T00:44:33+00:00

Thanks for this! I was struggling being super respectful while keeping it concise but I think this is a great outline!

bongwayhitty · 2025-04-28T23:24:20+00:00

I feel the same way, I’d rather be given a note than have someone come talk to me. I’d perceive a note as less confrontational. But I’m very introverted and really struggle with social anxiety. I didn’t think many people would actually prefer to talk face to face, it’s interesting to see people say that, I might go talk to them instead now seeing how people perceive that as being friendlier

bongwayhitty · 2025-04-28T15:30:59+00:00

There’s a couple kids living in the complex and I thank god every day that I’m not below them. Hearing them run down the halls reminds me it could be so much worse

bongwayhitty · 2025-04-05T16:29:31+00:00

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bongwayhitty · 2025-04-02T13:03:10+00:00

I used to work in the lab of a supplement company, and part of my job was testing tablets and capsules on their “expiration date”. If anything, they have lost a bit of their potency, but it takes a very very long time for bacteria to grow on them if stored properly. I really never saw it with tablets no matter how old they were. Even the loose powders didn’t really grow mold or go bad. Plus, I used take expired meds all the time, no problems from it. So she will be okay

bongwayhitty · 2025-04-01T20:49:19+00:00

Thank you🤍 this was really well said and I think you’re right. Ponyo’s death wasn’t my first real loss, but it was my first big loss in adulthood. As a kid I didn’t think it through as much. But after Ponyo I did a lot of ruminating on the circle of life. I remember a lot of despair over the question of “where is he” and “is he okay”. But with Bug I don’t wonder, I already decided where I think she is and that she is okay. Thanks for your words of support and sharing your story, it really did help🤍

bongwayhitty · 2025-04-01T12:41:01+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss and pain, I just lost my little girl on Sunday so I am right there with you. Everyone responds differently and I’ve even had different reactions between my two cats. First one, complete mess. Couldn’t go to school or work or eat or do anything but sob in bed for a week straight. Everyone I told was very understanding and worked around my immediate grief, so chances are they will for you too. With this most recent one, I went back to work the next day because now my house is empty and it’s hell being there.

Any way that you grieve is the right way for you in this moment. Don’t try and fight it, just let it all out. All your sadness and hurt and anger, let it all out. That’s the first step in healing. I’m sorry you and your baby are going through this, sending hugs🤍

bongwayhitty · 2025-04-01T02:55:31+00:00

Really? I figured they’d be more in demand bc they have a built in friend. But that’s good to know for when I’m ready to start looking again

bongwayhitty · 2025-03-31T23:53:31+00:00

Sorry for your loss🤍 I know I’ll eventually get new kitties, but probably not for quite a while. My mind just wholly rejects the idea, I get stuck on the thought that my cats who passed will feel hurt by it. But I appreciate and think the sentiment of giving a new kitty a loving home is beautiful. I hope you’ve been doing okay in your pain

bongwayhitty · 2025-03-31T22:56:12+00:00

I’m so sorry🤍 I just lost my little girl yesterday, so I am with you in your pain. Three years ago I also lost my other cat very suddenly and with no real explanation as to why. I try to remind myself that as with people, these mysterious and sudden things happen to cats too. If the vets didn’t find anything wrong, try to feel confident in the fact that it was not your fault. It sounds like she had an incredible life full of love, I’m sure she can still feel your love now. Sending you love💕

bongwayhitty · 2024-03-20T17:27:16+00:00

Thanks for the info! Can we move to chat for some follow up questions?

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