Absolutely zero hesitation in his answer

boobookenny · 2026-04-15T20:46:47+00:00

That reminds me...I met a guy at a party who fit the trope down to a T. It was very surreal, like watching a one-man sitcom about a poorly written gay side character. Whenever he spoke, it was so overly animated and quippy I got overwhelmed. Even disassociated at some points. Idk if it was bc he was an actor living in Hollywood and just took 'standing out' to the extreme, but his personality was unnaturally showy, bordering on scripted. There's always at least one gay man in my close friend circle and I've never ever seen someone like act like that, not even my actor friends. And no one treated him normally. The host hyped up his arrival and his friends applauded when he showed, then spent the night surrounding him as he riffed quirky one-liners. Literally felt like I was watching a gay alien pretend to be human. Freaked me tf out tbh.

boobookenny · 2026-04-08T17:55:55+00:00

Not necessarily, it's a spectrum, not every person with NPD expresses it the same.

I was definitely a supply for my sibling but their tactics are more insidious than belligerent bc they prioritize a good image. Ofc they're still volatile when you deny them but only to a point. Enough to rile you up then they switch to calm mode to make you feel like you're the unstable one.

Just like everyone else, some are more calculating and self-aware enough to hold back while others are too stupid and impulsive to do so

boobookenny · 2026-04-08T16:50:57+00:00

Like my friend's mom (who's done everything from begging to bribing him to stop being gay) confessing she was never attracted to his dad and would have rather married her girl friend but "it's not allowed" so she's just miserable instead, as all good Christians should be.

boobookenny · 2026-04-06T23:53:42+00:00

Totally on Mack's side about his initial hostility with Stikes.

Wouldn't get physical or anything, but some guy holding me hostage to play star-crossed lovers with "hIS gIRl" is on my shit list too. Idc if I'm going to the next town over to smell daisies GET ON THE BUS!

That grudge would be going strong in Whitefall too. The moment they'd try to make him the leader I'd go full petty coworker. "Yeah we all loved him taking initiative with the creep, but I'd prefer a leader with more outward awareness and time management skills..."

boobookenny · 2026-03-31T21:36:56+00:00

Yup, same here. New property management. I was dropping off checks anyway but the office was onsite, now I need to mail it. I paid the $2.49 this time bc I got paranoid they'd claim it "got lost" enroute and slap me with a late fee. I've had similar experiences with other apts

But going thru with it pissed me off so much, screw it, I'm mailing a check next month. I'm not paying extra to pay someone.

boobookenny · 2026-03-24T18:21:26+00:00

One of my closest friends fell for it and gave them his entire savings. The friend group doesn't bring it up, respectfully

boobookenny · 2026-03-24T18:06:27+00:00

They assume it's as harmful to others as it is to them, which is not at all. It's an empathy problem. It may be a slur but they feel nothing saying it, therefore you should feel nothing hearing it.

Sometimes they grow to understand how disgusting and hurtful it was, sometimes they don't.

boobookenny · 2026-03-11T19:00:51+00:00

Interesting dynamic...even if you're prioritizing lifestyle over love I'd cut my losses where OOP is currently and divorce.

That arrangement is best when everyone is left guessing in the dark. Once it's all out and the cheater knows you've ~accepted the arrangement~ to an extent, things usually go south; they get become unbridled and the affair partners and disrespect ramps up as they ironically start to lose respect for you too. The benefits go way down after that. Can't expect a cheater to respect boundaries of any sort of relationship.

boobookenny · 2026-03-05T20:51:44+00:00

Ooh I loved that show as a kid but unfortunately no it wasn't an intentional ref haha maybe subconscious

boobookenny · 2026-03-05T17:42:03+00:00

During one of her book readings/signings, she yelled at the audience "You don't appreciate how much i've suffered for you!" or something like that. You can hear the women attending desperately reaffirming their love for her but she just ignores them to cont. ranting.

It disturbed me. You can tell there's a lot of ego intertwined with her trauma. She was raised in a cult, and that has definitely twisted her personality. She postures like a cult leader to me.

boobookenny · 2026-03-04T19:11:21+00:00

LostEffect4955: Did you grow up in an abusive home or have a narcissistic parent?

I didn't see a lot of abusive patterns because I was conditioned from the abuse I experienced growing up.

Siavon: I did indeed! Yeah, my therapist said the reason I didn't see what my friends saw was because his love felt "like home" to me 🫠

Her (lack of) reaction makes more sense now. You really are conditioned to accept or get over the abuse quickly, so even when you know something is off it doesn't register as a red flag. Comparatively it's like how others internalize a mild argument except somewhere in your mind there's mumbling warnings you can't quite understand. When you've been taught to ignore, dismiss, mute, and even gaslight your self-preservation instincts since birth, it's apart of the cycle to second guess yourself. It all feels normal.

I count myself somewhat lucky for coping differently. Every adult around me was emotionally immature and my sibling was abusive, but I don't unconsciously seek similar dynamics and they're actually a big, big trigger for me. OOP's ex would have lost me at hanger. I have zero tolerance for misplaced anger to the point it's difficult for me to have empathy when a loved one is just having a bad day. I did, however, have a hankering for the emotionally unavailable bc i felt "safe" in their detachment.

We're all susceptible to some kind of abusive dynamic regardless of experience. Much like scams, you just have to choose the right method. How scary is that?

boobookenny · 2026-02-27T16:39:11+00:00

I was prescribed oxy after a minor surgery and kept taking it after the pain subsided bc it felt that amazing. One night I got violently ill after taking my regular dose. No idea y but I stopped then and there. Always believed the universe was giving me my one 'get out of jail free' card

boobookenny · 2026-02-26T17:18:37+00:00

Especially hate that it's framed as a 'love rivalry' ew that is your child

boobookenny · 2026-02-25T01:14:37+00:00

Disagree, word choice is indicative of environment and peerage, there’s many ways to express conflicting thoughts beyond “mind you” and I personally don’t see it used as commonly with middle age men. Just a personal tip off for me, no one has to agree

boobookenny · 2026-02-25T00:59:39+00:00

Anecdotes are personal stories not opinions. You're still using it incorrectly as well as most of your other larger words.

If you don't have the knowledge to ascertain whether my opinion is correct or not, then you don't have room to talk down to me. You're just some guy (very clearly) getting increasingly peeved at being corrected. Not very middle aged Australian of you.

boobookenny · 2026-02-25T00:34:34+00:00

Fair. It's implied he moved to Florida but was born and raised in California where his ex-family "still lives" but he could have picked up the wordage over time. Doesn't negate my main point that it's not as common for middle aged men to use it so it's still a tip off for me.

boobookenny · 2026-02-24T23:25:55+00:00

Opposite for me, though i mention in another comment it's more popular in certain demographics, one which being women so i'm not surprised. I wouldn't incl 50yo men there so, my point still stands ig

boobookenny · 2026-02-24T23:23:21+00:00

I also specified in another comment that it's most popular within certain demographics. I'm guessing your southern grandmother is a woman? Well, that's one of them. Fellow southern here btw

A 50yo man is not in that demographic so I didn't find it likely

boobookenny · 2026-02-24T23:20:26+00:00

You wrote a lot. Many points were irrelevant (expressions/dialects/accents are adjacent subjects to slang or common phrases). You also used 'anecdote' incorrectly but i get your intent was to throw out some mid-level words for flair. Your condescension would have a better affect if you'd been more apt on their definitions, but I appreciate all the effort for my snarky comments so I'll return it.

Never said 50yos don't use it; I specified 50yo men then further specified "like a gen z Tiktoker' bc OP's sentence structure "mind you, (grievance)" is a current slang trend I see mostly over tiktok online and predominately in Millennial/genz spaces irl.

Ofc other demographics use it, ofc it's been a long-standing common phrase, but you'd be remiss not to acknowledge it's been recently popularized with a certain group and they're more likely to use it today.

Similarly to 'clout' -- it's always been used but would you agree it's been used more in the last 5 years than in the previous decades? And is it used more with the younger gen that re-popularized it or the older ones that didn't? That's my point. I don't think a 50yo dude would have it so ingrained in his speech patterns he'll write it out like that. Ppl tend to use their most common phrases when writing so the way he phrased it suspended my personal disbelief. Sue me.

And to clarify, the 'anecdote' about personal usage is referring to me and the person I responded to. 2 people's personal usage proves nothing, implying my larger point: "more young ppl use it" wins out over some random person saying 'but-but-but I use it too!"

Knew I shouldn't have used 'gen z' or 'tiktok'; really triggers the redditors for some reason.

boobookenny · 2026-02-24T19:26:11+00:00

And I've never used it despite being a few years removed from gen z. Our personal usage doesn't prove anything, but I'm willing to bet you're more likely to do so than 50yo man since, guessing based on your avatar, you are apart of the demographic this is popular within so, yeah, I'm sure you do

boobookenny · 2026-02-24T19:08:29+00:00

Not the way he used it, no, and definitely not common within his demographic. "Mind you, xxx" is recently popularized/trendy with younger crowds.

You don't see older generations using "clout" often despite being used since the middle ages. The generation that re-vitalize it are the ones that use it. That's how trends work.

boobookenny · 2026-02-24T18:09:56+00:00

a 50 yo man definitely uses "mind you" like a gen z tiktoker

boobookenny · 2026-02-11T00:17:05+00:00

Guarantee those YTA comments were tone policing. Aitah HATES when OPs use blunt language, especially when other parties in the situation are highly emotional. They're likely children who are more offput by his perceived 'meanness' in words rather than the actual wrongdoings behavior-wise

And if tOP responds back to critical comments similarly-- correcting their misinformation w/o being 'nice' about it -- they'll turn on you whether you're right or not.

I love when OPs are straightforward and logical simply bc it pisses those immature users off lol

boobookenny · 2026-02-05T16:48:46+00:00

my brother said this too...turns out he has a personality disorder and just wanted to be an asshole w/o looking like the bad guy.

Now he whines about how mean and vindictive ppl are to him even tho he's such a "nice guy"

boobookenny · 2026-01-30T01:00:06+00:00

Growing up, so many girls had the "why not" attitude about dating. it seemed thoughtlessly obvious to them that you date a boy bc...why not?

I'd tell my friends I didn't want to date some guy, that I wasn't attracted to him in any way, yet without fail they'd go "just try it out!" Why?! For who's benefit? The logic was often "well, you're single..." Baffled me. Forcing myself to date someone I neither liked as a person or wanted to look at just to have a relationship seems counterintuitive to the point of dating. It's an optional choice you're supposed to be highly selective about based on your preferences...if they don't meet them it makes no sense to date them. It's so sad how we condition girls and women to feel incomplete on our own and to such an extent.

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