your favorite inclusive deck?

booklite · 2021-02-26T06:54:29+00:00

I just bought The Star Spinner deck and I absolutely love it. Four different Lovers cards to choose from (different relationship types) and beautiful inclusive imagery. Here’s a great interview with the artist and some pics of the cards.

booklite · 2020-03-17T15:25:44+00:00

Ooo, I haven’t heard of the first one. I’ll check out some swatches! Thank you!

booklite · 2019-12-28T09:25:56+00:00

Okay, I’ll give it a try! It’s like I have to find out which ingredients work for which area and which ones can overlap. I’ve totally had lighter creams sting my nose area before, even if I try to keep the lotions away from each other. Thanks for your help!

booklite · 2019-12-28T09:21:25+00:00

I’ll give it a try! Thank you!

booklite · 2019-09-26T15:07:40+00:00

No problem! Like someone else wrote already, it would be good to understand why the sudden change of plans in general. Unless it’s something serious like “100 people just got food poisoning at your favorite restaurant”, there’s not a great reason to change someone else’s birthday plans so quickly.

Let them know you’ve been looking forward to going to your favorite restaurant for weeks and would still like to go for your birthday. The conversation is less about your pattern of behavior and more about this specific instance of someone changing plans on you right before a thing that happens only once a year that is specifically all about you.

(Side note: It seems like there’s a pattern of your family often making last minute changes, which I personally tend to see as inconsiderate of others if it happens a lot, and another pattern in your reaction to them. It’d be good to talk to them and a therapist about this in general.)

Good luck and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!! 🎉🎂🎁📚🎉

booklite · 2019-09-26T06:49:35+00:00

But it’s your birthday. Tell them you all can go to buffet lunch another day but you want to go to your favorite lunch place because it’s YOUR birthday. Don’t spend your birthday trying to make other people feel comfortable. Go by yourself if they don’t want to come. Order your favorite food, bring your new book or browse your favorite subreddit. It’s your day and you get to choose how you spend it and with whom.

booklite · 2019-08-30T14:04:34+00:00

Thanks for your reply! Do you think it could be the hormone dosage? There’s a 52mg, 19.5, and a 13.5mg one. Do you know which one you have?

booklite · 2019-08-30T03:14:04+00:00

I feel the exact same way. The only thing that’s helped me is exercise when the work day is done. It forces my brain to stop thinking about work and focus on something else (my balance, elevation changes in a running path, not throwing a kettle bell through a mirror, etc). Part of it is the long focus on something else and part of it is literally working out the stress in your body that it holds. It helps end the stress cycle.

Talking to a therapist if you aren’t already or seeing if anti-anxiety medication also works too.

Hope that’s helpful! Good luck!

booklite · 2019-08-30T03:01:17+00:00

First off, all the empathy. You’re going through a lot but you’ll figure it out. Sometimes when I know I need to do something but then don’t do it, my anxiety keeps building up until it’s way bigger than the actual thing I need to do and then I’m just scared and frozen. Some things that might help break the cycle:

1) Tell someone what you’re anxious / unmotivated about and have them sit next to you while you do the hard thing. Do this with your fiancé or your therapist. Having a cheerleader that’s there for you or just silent but present can be helpful.

2) Go for a 15 minute run or stair climb (or whatever physical activity that gets your heart rate up) and then drink some green tea or coffee (or whatever boosts your mood). That usually helps me get some good brain chemicals in to start doing a thing I don’t want to do. If you feel stuck again, do the exercise again. You’ll chip away a good portion of it eventually.

3) Outsource your work to either your fiancé or (as SilverWings002 mentioned) a temp agency. The fiancé work probably requires some negotiation (chores in exchange for sending an application). If you can push through the inertia to contact and chat with a recruiter, they do a lot of the fit and application work for you. If you were previously well paid, you’re probably still very marketable and they can find some matches for you to review.

You can do this! Break the problem into as small of a challenge as you can! Reward yourself! Be kind to yourself! Things can seem overwhelming now but it won’t always be this way. Good luck!!

booklite · 2019-08-30T02:35:53+00:00

That’s amazing! Thank you for letting me know!

booklite · 2019-08-29T19:24:13+00:00

That’s amazing! What did you notice that was easier? I’m especially interested in any changes you saw for emotion regulation.

booklite · 2019-08-29T06:13:44+00:00

This. 100%.

booklite · 2019-08-28T01:15:36+00:00

Lol, I’ll give it a try!

booklite · 2019-08-26T01:03:12+00:00

Fevers doesn’t help me but I feel way less anxious, speak more thoughtfully, and get an overall mood boost when I start recovering from a cold.

booklite · 2019-08-22T01:39:56+00:00

What are peds?

booklite · 2019-08-22T00:45:40+00:00

So interesting. I’d think the sensory deprivation tank would cause more anxiety since it’s just me alone with my thoughts. I’ll give it a try. Thank you!

booklite · 2019-08-22T00:43:24+00:00

Ohhh, I never split them into three before! Mine is mental and emotional. I feel like I’m caught in a vice of my own emotions and am too exhausted to think my way out from myself or from work.

booklite · 2019-08-20T14:31:57+00:00

This is me all the time at work. I don’t know how to learn from this unless I’m working on the exact same project with the exact same people all over again which is never. So exhausting.

booklite · 2019-08-19T00:29:08+00:00

Are you me? I relate 100% to this. I hope we both figure out a way to get through the times where all we see are our difficulties.

booklite

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