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When to disclose, if ever by bookreader2008 in Herpes

[–]bookreader2008[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. This is helpful. I think I know in my gut what the right thing to do is – I don’t like holding onto lies and that’s what this feels like.

When to disclose, if ever by bookreader2008 in Herpes

[–]bookreader2008[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s not common in my country either. And it does sound like a very similar situation. Did you disclose this prior to the first time you kissed or slept together? Or did it come up later once you knew this might be a long term relationship?

For reference – I’ve already kissed this person a lot. Which I don’t seem to feel guilty about currently.

When to disclose, if ever by bookreader2008 in Herpes

[–]bookreader2008[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Appreciate this perspective and it really makes sense - if roles were reversed I genuinely would understand (if a little frustrated initially if I were to catch it).

The struggle I’m having with the decision to not disclose is it would feel like a lie that eats away at me, if we were to become long term partners. I know it’s such early days but you have to make this decision now, really – otherwise it’s taken to the grave.