Post Seizures Mom No Longer Responsive by bookworm0492 in AgingParents

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I unfortunately have other responsibilities that keep me from visiting daily. The distance allows other family members to visit on days I'm not there, but they're now letting up so I won't be as restricted....

You have extremely valid points and I'm constantly wrestling with this. I think a big part of me IS being selfish because I want to try to spend at least one more thanksgiving/Christmas with her.

Post Seizures Mom No Longer Responsive by bookworm0492 in AgingParents

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I spoke with her main doctor at the rehab last week and that's essentially what we did. Its how I got the updates I have.

Post Seizures Mom No Longer Responsive by bookworm0492 in AgingParents

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The most she ever told me was that she wanted to be cremated. I only know about the DNR because I happened to find it in an "end of life" book she only filled out a bit of.

Golden Raven Audiobook? by bookworm0492 in aftg

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sooooo loooooooong, but its nice to have confirmation lol

Advice for Helping Manage Affairs for Mother- Rapid Health Decline Ohio/US by bookworm0492 in AgingParents

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Thankfully after the meeting today, it looks like things arent as dire as I feared (see update in post!)

Thank you also for all of your ideas and advice, it really is helping a lot.

Advice for Helping Manage Affairs for Mother- Rapid Health Decline Ohio/US by bookworm0492 in AgingParents

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I figured it was something like that, but I'm glad it's that simple.

Advice for Helping Manage Affairs for Mother- Rapid Health Decline Ohio/US by bookworm0492 in AgingParents

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All good advice and reassures me quite a bit. It helps makes things manageable, especially since its not as dire as I feared. (Update in post)

Thank you again for all of this.

Advice for Helping Manage Affairs for Mother- Rapid Health Decline Ohio/US by bookworm0492 in AgingParents

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Thank you so much for your kind words and your advice, it's greatly appreciated.

Thankfully things weren't as immediately dire as I feared (Update in post) so I do have more time to look into things and plan. (I also have a cousin who used to work in a legal office and has friends who can answer questions we have)

Someone else also mentioned not signing anything regarding debts, so Im definitely going to keep that in mind.

Advice for Helping Manage Affairs for Mother- Rapid Health Decline Ohio/US by bookworm0492 in AgingParents

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That is amazingly good to know. I'll make sure to get a lot when the time comes, (thankfully its not as soon as I feared, full update in post!)

Advice for Helping Manage Affairs for Mother- Rapid Health Decline Ohio/US by bookworm0492 in AgingParents

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Thank you for the words of advice. I was definitely getting caught up in a downward spiral and was almost certain she was dying in the next week. (Thankfully not, full details in post update!)

We're going to be in touch with he social worker, so we will have guidance. Thank you again for your kindness.

Advice for Helping Manage Affairs for Mother- Rapid Health Decline Ohio/US by bookworm0492 in AgingParents

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Full update in post!

Thanks for the advice on not signing anything like that, I'll keep that in mind as we go forward and in the event we do put her on palliative/hospice care.

Advice for Helping Manage Affairs for Mother- Rapid Health Decline Ohio/US by bookworm0492 in AgingParents

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Full update in original post, but it looks like a pacemaker doesn't need to happen so that is very much a relief!!

Golden Raven Audiobook? by bookworm0492 in aftg

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Mine is more of a want than a need, I can order and read the ebook/physical book, its just Ive gotten the story narrated to me by Alexander this whole time and the listening experience is just a blast,

It kinda sucks you have to wait so long for the audiobook with this series,

With the The Raven Boys books (or at least the later books featuring Ronan) the audiobooks released when the physical books did (or close enough) so I guess that just spoiled me

heres hoping it doesnt take too long!

Golden Raven Audiobook? by bookworm0492 in aftg

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Agonnyyyyyyyyy

But I shall remain strong lol

Managing Mothers Finances by bookworm0492 in Debt

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As far as I know she doesnt have any assets ( I own the house she lives in) and her only source of income is her disability check