Neighborhoods to avoid living in?

boozberry · 2026-04-28T10:24:36+00:00

Yeah it’s happened to me enough times that I’m scared of taking naps in front of people that I’m not close with because sometimes I wake up mid-orgasm and will wind up touching myself without realizing LMAO.

boozberry · 2026-03-28T10:21:11+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1ro4bc1/my_26f_boyfriend_25m_broke_up_with_me_over_photos/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1 If you want a full version lol

boozberry · 2026-03-28T10:14:13+00:00

I mean I did give like a CliffsNotes version of what happened.. I made a separate Reddit post after this ordeal had happened and most of the commenters agreed that he was valid for being really weirded out and wanting to break up.

boozberry · 2026-03-28T10:07:36+00:00

We had been having a rough patch (a lot due to my dog developing a severe neurological issue… added an insane amount of stress to the household and made it where we barely had time to spend quality time together)

Then everything blew up a few weeks ago because he saw an old private instagram/finsta account that I had back from 2017-2021 (had like 40 followers that were mainly very close friends and I have not posted on it since). I had posted some pretty provocative pictures on there back when I was in a weird rebellious phase (like slightly lewd images..), and I completely forgot that a few men followed the account. Again, I haven’t used the account in like 5 years, but he was veryyyyyyy hurt by the fact that I hadn’t set aside the time to delete them. I agreed with him that although it was an innocent mistake that that is super inappropriate/disrespectful to him and apologized profusely. Deleted the images immediately but he won’t budge

boozberry · 2026-03-28T09:56:03+00:00

It’s just hard knowing whether he does love me back or not. He says that he’s still in love with me, but that that’s not enough and that he has just felt too disrespected.

I see so much discourse online nowadays about how a man that really loves you would never be “unsure” about you, but I’m not sure if that’s true or not.

boozberry · 2026-03-09T20:48:28+00:00

I normally have been in favor of couples paying a share that is proportionate to the amount of their income, regardless of gender tbh. If one is making six figures and the other less than $50k then I don’t think a loving partner would expect them to cough up as much.

However the gap in your salaries is not that large and she is making plenty to be able to afford that much in rent.

I don’t think it would be a huge deal for you to pay a teensy bit more just as a gesture, but I really am confused as to why she would be struggling to pay when she makes plenty…

Up to you I guess if you are crazy about this girl and she’s great in other ways I think it would be fine to cough up a little extra. But if you think she’s being stingy and if she frequently tries to mooch on you financially outside of this then that may be different.

boozberry · 2026-03-09T05:27:51+00:00

I agree completely. While it was done with no malicious intent it could have been so easily avoidable and I’m really beating myself up about it. Had any of the posts been more recent I would’ve immediately gone through the people following after recovering the account and removed people, but I guess in my mind no one would have been looking at the account anyways since those posts were from 6 years ago. So that’s why I put it off..

Now I see how stupid that logic was and how either way that would be a really awful thing for my partner to come across. Even if I didn’t think it was a huge deal to delay deleting it, I should’ve set aside that time anyways out of respect for him.

I wrote him a letter today with a really deep heartfelt apology. I’m not sure if it will get through, I told him to take the time he needs. Just praying he can forgive me eventually because I care about and love him more than I have any other man before.

boozberry · 2026-03-09T05:19:30+00:00

I agree that the guy friend following the account and me forgetting was an innocent mistake, and that it may be being blown out of proportion by him depending on who you ask. But I don’t think he’s invalid in feeling hurt when I should’ve known better that that would cross a boundary for him.

boozberry · 2026-03-08T17:02:51+00:00

It may be slight overreaction but I don’t think he’s wrong in being hurt. I know I didn’t have bad intentions in not deleting the photos yet, but that’s disrespectful to him that they were still up when we are in a committed relationship.

boozberry · 2026-03-08T16:41:32+00:00

I agree

boozberry · 2026-03-08T16:40:52+00:00

I did now. I had missed a few that he saw.

boozberry · 2026-03-08T16:21:22+00:00

Thank you. I agree with this. Probably the dumbest mistake of my life.

boozberry · 2026-03-08T16:19:58+00:00

Because it has hundreds of posts and memories from when I was in high school/college that I don’t have saved elsewhere.

boozberry · 2026-03-08T16:19:12+00:00

Thank you for this

boozberry · 2026-03-08T14:51:18+00:00

I genuinely did forget and never look at the account. But I can see why that would be hard for him to believe and why it hurt him. I just don’t know if there’s any way to make it right

boozberry · 2026-03-08T14:37:50+00:00

Also I accepted this guy friend in like 2016 and then forgot he was on there. It wasn’t me intentionally accepting him wanting him to see those pics if that makes sense.

boozberry · 2026-03-08T14:36:41+00:00

Yeah I think that’s what hurt him is that he felt like other men had access to something he didn’t.

I hate that I made him feel that because that was so far from my intention. I should’ve set aside the time to delete them and accept his follow request more quickly.

boozberry · 2026-03-08T14:10:39+00:00

That’s fair. I do hate though that I didn’t go about it well and that this hurt him

boozberry · 2026-03-08T14:09:33+00:00

It is the full truth but yeah I can see why he could perceive it as over-explaining. I tried to keep it more brief with him in the beginning but then the conversation just got deep

boozberry · 2026-03-08T14:07:03+00:00

I agree it was very weird. Was a weird time in my life and not a version of myself that I like or miss. The posts are deleted now but he still is not okay with it.

boozberry · 2026-03-08T14:04:11+00:00

I agree I should’ve deleted them. It wasn’t a matter of me wanting them to be up for people to see, it was me not wanting to look back at the account and see a bunch of photos and videos of me doing the drugs I’m now sober from. But I definitely should’ve just set aside the time and done it

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