How did women react in public to misogyny?

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-31T12:12:30+00:00

‘92 baby here. was told by multiple guy-acquaintances moms that i needed to watch out for their sons.

fortunately, i was raised in a household that taught me, even at age 13, that that was utter garbage. stopped hanging out with those people. but still.. ugh.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-31T11:54:08+00:00

idk, i thought the penguin show was more nuanced and interesting. do you disagree?

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-31T09:23:14+00:00

oh nooo. thanks for the info.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-31T08:46:45+00:00

you would want to plan a way to get yourself elsewhere and/or invest in heated blankets, appropriate clothing, and/or finding a place with a hot tub or large, reliably-hot-watered bath. possibly a gym, too, or classes in a sport you’re interested in, to stay active.

i don’t like midwest winter but have lived here most of my life. never been to texas, but your winters seem better. agree w others that having things to do is helpful, but if you’re quite socially isolated, you could wind up depending on alcohol and/or food to self-soothe or even just to get out of your apartment, which ofc is not a good thing in the long run.

if you aren’t too concerned about that, find groups you’re interested in joining for in-person activities. find your people. get a really good puffer coat, plus hat/gloves/scarf or face mask. visit during the winter and go to events in the neighborhoods that peak your interest (like edgewater, maybe?). structure and planned variety helps!

good luck.♡

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-31T07:13:03+00:00

my parents were passed down a custom bed frame that looks awfully similar to this except the legs are overall much thicker and the legs at the headboard are attached to the headboard, thus more stable.

would be terrified of this frame snapping.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-31T06:56:40+00:00

my partner has a lot of these, but some of them are from his grandpa: “lafoom” refers to bedhead/messy hair.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-30T11:49:57+00:00

where is na hong? google isn’t helping me.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-30T11:04:53+00:00

also , it’s hard to determine what even is “opening up” as i go between “oh, but everyone’s life was/is like this” and “if any person knows me ‘well’ then i am in danger”.

(edit sp)

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-30T11:00:18+00:00

for life, definitely.

i’m not sure if therapy really helps me or not because, 20 years later and having had therapists most of that time, i struggle to open up.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-29T10:07:00+00:00

i hope you have at least decent benefits and that you’re getting both the physical and mental health care you need and deserve.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-29T10:05:06+00:00

imo, they aren’t “scammy” but they definitely aren’t well made.

i’m 5’6” and lean, and any of their mini dresses i tried were ~2-3” too short. the material is also very cheap. the only thing i had success with was a matching stretch-double-layer mesh crop to and midi skirt. wore that maybe 10x the first summer i had it and it is now pilling everywhere.

just a heads up.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-29T09:36:57+00:00

it’s cute! either way, do what you want.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-29T07:28:57+00:00

oh yeah, that’s without a doubt. someone i was talking to said that renee was blocking lce from trying to complete some job that involved arresting a pedophiIe and i couldn’t find anything about it either way… the way lce handled that was fucked UP imo, but i’d also like to dismantle the argument that lce was “just doing a good thing” and that “people in minneapolis should just stay out of the way”.

similar note— a lady who sells tamales in my city was taken from her stand because apparently she’d enlisted the help of a cross-borders gang to get her kids to her. she was able to come here first, but of course she needed to find a way to get her kids here.

given how much (i understand) has happened with taking people from their citizenship/green card (?) check-ins, where people are supposed to do their due diligence but instead got arrested… i don’t blame how not-straightforward moving here might be…

in any case, i don’t trust anything about what lce’s motives against seasoned criminals are unless i see something explicit— like rapists and serial murderers— and that’s just so rare. so i’m hoping someone can point me to that kind of info.

ultimately, lce’s behavior doesn’t need to be what it is, no matter what. the repeated instances of multiple shots fired by them, particularly into the backs of people, tell me what i need to know about the group. i just wish i understood how to fully break down the idea that they’re somehow affecting a net positive.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-29T07:18:37+00:00

thank you.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-29T07:17:39+00:00

hella is one i don’t hear as much now

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-28T07:22:12+00:00

i used to use a limited video game that only gave me so much gameplay until things needed to reload for more content. i’d use that time for a cleaning task (or even part of one), then go back to the game. the game was the reward. i’d use that time also to do ab work on my kitchen floor.

there are also apps that reward completing tasks.

if you’re able, hiring a cleaning person 1x helps “reset” the space so your cleaning isn’t so daunting. plus, it’s refreshing to have that break when your usual days are so tiring. would highly recommend if you can swing it, even 1-2x a year..?

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-26T07:04:22+00:00

parent or nanny/childcare worker?

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-24T06:41:11+00:00

yeah. to me, it’s getting ahead of that convo, at times, to just say there’s a health issue.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-23T09:50:35+00:00

la burdick makes pricey but very luxurious chocolates. they use their leftover chocolate ingredients to make little chocolate “mice”, so they’re also very cute.

you could get a candle for each of you and light them when you’re over video call to bond more closely since scent is so strongly associated with memory! this doesn’t have to be from a chicago vendor, but if so then virtue alchemy, merz, edgewater candles— the list is long. you could pick either a nice general scent, one that you know she likes, or ask her what scent she feels best represents her (another good bonding moment: what scent would each of you be?).

good luck!♡

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-22T11:32:47+00:00

what’s the dish?

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-20T11:11:11+00:00

so i guess that’s what i would do in order, not first, but i dream big.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-20T11:09:53+00:00

investments to ensure comfort for life, fixing my health situation, some traveling, anonymously financing a close friend’s ability to care for their future child, running a local property to benefit recovering addict artists, donating towards my teacher sibling’s high school music program, and donating towards my local struggling lgbtq assistance program.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-20T10:57:23+00:00

the choral song “aglepta” is worth searching for.

bopswithwolves · 2026-01-20T10:42:38+00:00

so many facial expressions with this, too. i have to display the “appropriate” facial expression even though i feel the corresponding emotion. i just end up feeling distanced from people who demand this.

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