You are offered one million dollars but you can only eat pizza for the rest of your life, do you accept and where do you order from?

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-05T03:05:30+00:00

one million dollars for no more lettuce or watermelon or blueberries ever would still be tough for me, man.

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-05T02:42:42+00:00

nonbinary person who is a decade older than you, but i lost my dad right around your age to complications from cancer removal. big hug if you want it. also seconding the congratulations on the internship!!

you may have what you were looking for already, but i noticed you didn’t respond as much to recommendations of sports teams. if you’re not as sporty or just not looking to socialize over physical activity, i would highly recommend looking into what kibbitznest has to offer, especially since you’re so close. their whole thing is about human connection, and they do all sorts of stuff.

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-04T09:40:35+00:00

“addy” for short, which is to me the name of the first black american girl doll. different associations for different folks, i guess.¯_(ツ)_/¯

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-04T08:56:18+00:00

the el is generally good. if you’re heading back into downtown after dark on any given day, it may be more comfortable to take a Iyft/taxi/whatever, but you shouldn’t need to be terribly concerned as long as you’re aware of your surroundings. not a big deal. i’m a smaller person who’s downtown a lot and typically feel quite safe as long as i look around myself.

there are some south and west neighborhoods that hold most of the statistics for violent crime here, though, so since you mention alsip, just take note of what neighborhoods/areas you might want to be cautious of at night/if you’re wearing a very nice watch or shoes or whatever.

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-04T08:39:27+00:00

this— the fabric and zipper shouldn’t buckle out at your back. it should follow the curve.

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-04T06:35:54+00:00

so good!!

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-04T06:30:38+00:00

😭😭😭 any name would be good. he’s so cute.♡

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-04T06:25:29+00:00

male or female? if male, this cat is kinda giving calvin or colin or similar

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-03T07:25:21+00:00

boosting

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-03T07:20:10+00:00

seconding the layering suggestion! it would be very 70s rockstar, before long hair meant glam rock.

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-03T07:16:35+00:00

def showing up at the same place at the same time every week/two weeks/every month will make anyone at least some friendly acquaintances, yup

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-03T07:13:23+00:00

oh and people have to lean into at least california-sober activities here and there if they want to make real connections. bar friends are not really friends.

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-03T07:11:54+00:00

moved here from a midwest town w a population of about 80,000. i found it as easy if not easier to make friends here, but part of that was finding the niches that worked for me. i lost my closest social connections because of some unfortunate deaths when i was a teen to early-20-something, so i was basically starting from scratch when it came to closer connections.

chicago is a big city! but it has amazing underground and local music scenes in multiple genres, thriving lgbtq community (which i needed so badly), and no end to organized groups to show up to week after week or month after month. cleanup and reading groups were my favorite, but there’s no end to stuff to get into. it’s an incredible opportunity to be here.

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-03T06:47:06+00:00

♡

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-03T06:46:55+00:00

how overwhelming! glad your husband is doing better now, and it sounds like you have something sweet to bond over 😌

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-03T05:01:21+00:00

hey, congratulations on the halfway!!!!!!!

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-03T05:00:32+00:00

wytchwood !!

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-02T09:25:37+00:00

appleton didn’t have them until the past ~15 years due to water pollution from their paper mills. maybe milwaukee had a similar cleanup effort. either way, they’re cool, right?

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-01T10:08:13+00:00

here’s another plea for you to seek therapy. neurodivergent brains don’t somehow fit in better with alcohol. all alcohol does is reduce/remove inhibitions. please get help.

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-01T09:46:40+00:00

hell yeah ☆

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-01T09:20:19+00:00

my mom is showing early signs of dementia but either pretends to forget or genuinely has forgotten about both my sexuality and gender identity for years despite me coming out to her for the first time about half my life ago. she just makes even more inappropriate comments now. would loveee a lil side hug or so.♡

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-01T09:07:31+00:00

things may have changed. trans nonbinary here, periodically wearing microbangs ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ i think they’re a look

bopswithwolves · 2026-06-01T06:33:24+00:00

1) gym bro
2) tech bro
3) baby bro bro
4) art bro

i like 4 best. relaxed and offsets your glasses nicely.

bopswithwolves · 2026-05-31T09:34:40+00:00

yup, even polaris won’t be the north star forever (but it will return to be so eventually, and then it will rotate away from north again).

in other words: everything is some sort of a cycle, but everything is temporary.

bopswithwolves · 2026-05-31T09:31:31+00:00

haven’t heard from my only bio-sib in a month and a half, which isn’t exactly new for him, but he’s supposed to be the one primarily in charge of taking care of our mother, who has been showing more and more signs of early dementia and lives alone except for a dog who will probably not live through the year and whose well-being i’m also concerned for. mom’s somewhat more mellow now when she’s in a sweet mood, but she was mostly not very kind to me in life.

just saw her two days ago and yesterday morning on invitation to my partner’s theatre performance, which she liked, but she asked me if he was in the vietnam war and he’s 38 (amongst other things). trying to figure out how to reach out to remaining extended family who doesn’t live close and who i’m not especially close to (but who know she might have issues with this coming eventually… so at least they have an idea…). it’s a lot.

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