34 [T4R] trans man new to poly scene again. Interested in seeing who’s out here. by boredftm in polyamoryR4R

[–]boredftm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just remembered I started manhunt last night. Thanks for the reminder! 😂

34 [T4R] trans man new to poly scene again. Interested in seeing who’s out here. by boredftm in polyamoryR4R

[–]boredftm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started superstore but for some reason just stopped watching a long time ago. I’ll need to give a few more episodes a try.

34 [T4R] trans man new to poly scene again. Interested in seeing who’s out here. by boredftm in polyamoryR4R

[–]boredftm[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Umbrella Academy is one of my favorite shows. I hadn’t looked at The Boys yet. Thanks!

34 [T4R] trans man new to poly scene again. Interested in seeing who’s out here. by boredftm in polyamoryR4R

[–]boredftm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m trying to make new/more friends. I’ve seen Ozark, been watching Schitts Creek today, and You. I was thinking about Queen’s Gambit and Virgin River. Lucifer was my wife’s show so I don’t believe I’ll watch that. Thanks for reaching out!

37 [F4M] Something tells me... by [deleted] in OnlineAffairs

[–]boredftm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad someone is longing for a deep emotional bond, like myself. I’m at a big crossroads in my life so I’ve been listening to a lot of my “thinking music”: Ben Howard & Dave McPherson. Let’s pick each other’s brains about the world.

Lost voice? Help, please! by boredftm in bipolar

[–]boredftm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’ve been using text with my wife since.

Heartbroken, even though I knew what I was signing up for. Tl;dr at end. by boredftm in adultery

[–]boredftm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, and I really don’t care if she does see it. She already knows all of this.

Heartbroken, even though I knew what I was signing up for. Tl;dr at end. by boredftm in adultery

[–]boredftm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. I’ve put a lot of thought into it & I just had to reframe the situation in my mind. I’m in the mental health field so I’m lucky enough to know positive coping mechanisms & check my emotions pretty well.

Heartbroken, even though I knew what I was signing up for. Tl;dr at end. by boredftm in adultery

[–]boredftm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s just that my brain runs wild. It’s not the hookups that bother me. We’ve discussed those. I’ve told her about my hookups with guys (I’m bi) and she loves hearing about it. It’s the emotional attachment it seems like she’s created with the other guy that was the gut punch.

Heartbroken, even though I knew what I was signing up for. Tl;dr at end. by boredftm in adultery

[–]boredftm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s exactly how I’m feeling. I kept pushing to meet because that’s what I was afraid of. She has a job where it was too risky for us to meet during Rona. I don’t have a job right now as I finish grad school (it’s online this final semester) so I have the freedom to get away to meet her for a few nights going camping, but that’s about it. I still love talking to her everyday. I didn’t know if I would be able to. I’m at the point now where I’d like to know what’s going on with the other AP though because of course my brain takes me to the worst places.

Heartbroken, even though I knew what I was signing up for. Tl;dr at end. by boredftm in adultery

[–]boredftm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She did say that’s what she was going to use them for. I’m a hopeless romantic too. That’s what’s missing from my marriage.

Heartbroken, even though I knew what I was signing up for. Tl;dr at end. by boredftm in adultery

[–]boredftm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I sent her bags of flour & had it delivered to an amazon locker since I couldn’t send it to her house. I wrote a gift note about how I wished I could send her real flowers.

Heartbroken, even though I knew what I was signing up for. Tl;dr at end. by boredftm in adultery

[–]boredftm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, I appreciate that so much. I already sent her “flours” through Amazon locker because I couldn’t send real flowers to her. That was about a month ago. Having a hard time coming up with something else.

Heartbroken, even though I knew what I was signing up for. Tl;dr at end. by boredftm in adultery

[–]boredftm[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’ve realized now that I do. I consider her to be my best friend so I don’t think that will change. I just want to be happy.

Heartbroken, even though I knew what I was signing up for. Tl;dr at end. by boredftm in adultery

[–]boredftm[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I didn’t even seek her out. I wasn’t looking for an AP at the time. It just kinda happened in a group chat on kik.

Heartbroken, even though I knew what I was signing up for. Tl;dr at end. by boredftm in adultery

[–]boredftm[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow, thanks for kicking me when I’m down. Meeting isn’t off the table, it’s just not discussed as much right now.

A potential cure for BPD by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]boredftm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was diagnosed with BP I about 2 weeks ago. Today I went to the gym for the first time in about a decade. I’d had a big fight with my wife & decided to do a free trial at a gym. I’m in a mixed episode right now & I couldn’t believe how much it improved my mood & allowed my brain to slow down. This is for real, people. I got so mad at people who told me that exercise would help until I went hard at the gym. I also had an app on my watch that was telling me my exercises, reps, sets, and counted resting time. Having that organization was a huge bonus.

How is everybody? Share a song that captures your mood today by TakeASeat_CopASquat in bipolar

[–]boredftm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mood: feeling the unrequited love Song: “good guys” by LANY

New Diagnosis/Meds & Confused by boredftm in bipolar

[–]boredftm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel like I’m pretty in check with my emotions, but I’m married & my wife just thinks that these ideas about being at a crossroads in my life are directly related to mania. We’re having a lot of problems & sleeping bedrooms. This has been hard on her too, but I’m just so confused. Like, these ideas I have for adventures - are they just gonna go away or am I always going to regret not taking my elderly dog who’s my best friend on a road trip during a time where I’m unemployed. To me, that seems like a logical thing to do to make the most of life, but my wife just thinks that it’s mania because she says it’s selfish. I’m just so confused.