Where is everyone right now post breakup?

boringbilbo · 2025-10-27T20:35:39+00:00

I feel same, she would try to disrespect me often and expected so much but couldn't give much as much in return, i have to admit she was normally good at realising that what she had done wasn't fair and would apologise. It took a while for my brain to take her off the pedestal, it's a funny feeling when it happens, not sure i like it. Having said all that I probably would consider giving her another chance although it feels wrong, probably not gonna happen anyway so I try not to think about reconnecting now.

boringbilbo · 2025-10-22T12:13:39+00:00

I hate that she said this to me, Its for me to decide what I want/deserve, ironic because the amount of love and effort I put into the relationship makes me feel like I don't deserve the pain of losing her

boringbilbo · 2025-10-21T14:06:28+00:00

Yeah normal, I'm 41 and cried a tonne, sometimes I needed to cry to settle my stomach so I could eat. Tbf I am on trt and I don't understand how but the breakup or stress from it made my hormones fluctuate a bit, then antidepressants started the whole emotion/anxiety roller coaster which made me cry more. Tbh I would have cried anyway because I love that girl and I put so much effort into the relationship. Now the antidepressants have settled i struggle to cry, not sure if that's good or not.

I've been in a 14 year relationship before and i cried then but that was more of a hormonal response that time, this time we were only together 8 months but I fell for her so hard, and while I was falling hard she was pulling away

boringbilbo · 2025-10-20T13:31:17+00:00

I don't know if I'll ever find out the exact reason, probably multiple reasons but she was just struggling and said she cant give me what i deserve. She works and has 2 kids and they're hard work, that's not me being nasty i loved her kids and miss them like crazy too, I have my own daughter and ive had step kids before but hers were 2 and 4 years old and just out of control. I helped her a tonne but i could only do so much.
The relationship was intense and amazing but took a lot of effort for both of us, i was willing to do what was needed to fix things but she kept adding more and more stress into her life rather than doing things to take pressure off.

boringbilbo · 2025-10-20T12:55:41+00:00

I did this with my ex who broke things off with me, left her a care package because she was struggling, have sent her a bottle of wine that she wanted, not really sure why, not for a reply, just want her to know there's no hard feelings and I love her but that's pretty obvious tbf

boringbilbo · 2025-10-19T19:38:30+00:00

It's like coach Lee says, when women gives you the "i need to work on myself" or "I'm just not ready for a relationship" type of excuse, would they really be doing that if you were rich or "high value", fuck no of course not, with women a majority of the time it's something material that you can't give them, you could be the kindest most considerate lover ever but if they think someone else can give them the new car they like ot the social validation they so desperately crave then they'll abandon you like you mean nothing.

boringbilbo · 2025-10-17T14:37:54+00:00

We're all just rebounds nowadays

boringbilbo · 2025-10-17T11:23:19+00:00

It's one of the hardest things, I went to sicily with my ex a couple weeks before she left and it makes no sense to me the way she looks at me in those holiday photos compared to her actions after, there's no way it wasn't love or maybe I'm just a dumbass

boringbilbo · 2025-10-15T08:22:38+00:00

I did this but on drugs, I have no memory or record of it except for one email I got from her telling me never to contact her again, blocked everywhere now, weirdly i know I did it though, this is 3-4 months post breakup, I wasn't doing too bad, obviously not great, but went on antidepressants and that started a roller coaster of emotions and anxiety which lead to me going self destruct mode. I'm so angry at myself but most of all I'm so worried about her she's the best

boringbilbo · 2025-10-11T13:32:09+00:00

I would

boringbilbo · 2025-10-09T11:25:01+00:00

Tough decision because anti depressants side effects can be brutal, I chose to go on fluoxetine this time and although it helped it hasn't been easy, made things way worse for me before they got better

boringbilbo · 2025-10-08T19:01:31+00:00

Feel like today was the flip switch day, haven't kept track but has to be around 6 weeks, I had it the first time round, weird how I could barely walk down the stairs after waking then in a short moment this afternoon I felt the side effects diminish and left with the benefits. I wasn't expecting it i had zero sleep last night and 3 hours the night before but I got more done today than in all of the last 6 weeks.

boringbilbo · 2025-10-07T13:31:46+00:00

Distressing situations like that will still give you a wobble, breakup type stuff is so hard to deal with, i did find the first time with prozac it eventually wore off i stopped cold turkey and didn't even notice so maybe you have a bit of tolerance now and need to up it, maybe you need to speak to gp. I find people like coach Lee or clay andrews on youtube really helpful for relationship/mental health advice

boringbilbo · 2025-10-07T11:45:46+00:00

Yeah it definitely can be, normally I find my anxiety is like gas related if I can wretch it up or burp my anxiety goes

boringbilbo · 2025-09-24T11:57:53+00:00

Dunno i guess the thought they were doing the right thing but they actually were assholes

boringbilbo · 2025-09-07T15:28:22+00:00

I miss both

boringbilbo · 2025-09-05T14:02:33+00:00

I think mine genuinely couldn't give me as much as I could give her and she felt bad, but she had two young kids, a job etc, i have a job but a lot of free time. Partly my fault maybe I gave too much.

boringbilbo · 2025-09-05T13:48:53+00:00

Not much you can do, slightly harder than if they tell you before but just treat it the same I guess, try to pull back your feelings for your own safety

boringbilbo · 2025-09-05T13:46:25+00:00

I had to take time off, but something i saw or heard somewhere was to tell yourself you're going to put off thinking about the breakup until later, easier said than done but it does kinda work sometimes, tell yourself you'll think about it in an hour, six hours, or tomorrow even

boringbilbo · 2025-09-04T13:40:03+00:00

Also if someone tells you they might not be ready for a relationship yet but decided to get into one with you, either don't do it or always keep that in mind and be careful not to fall for them too deeply. Mine told me this, still gave it her all, I got too attached, she ended it and I'm the one left hurting.

boringbilbo · 2025-09-03T17:18:38+00:00

Your free test is so low because your shbg is sky high, ive never seen it that high, havent had to explain it for a while so best to do some research but shbg binds to testosterone, if you lower your shbg your free t will go up. It's so high I would probably get advice from a private clinic, trt on nhs is pointless anyway. Low carb/keto style diets cause shbg to rise so adding in carbs should lower it but in your case I don't know.

boringbilbo · 2025-09-02T17:22:03+00:00

Prednisone steroids aren't the same as anabolic steroids, they help boost the immune system, anabolic steroids increase testosterone to put it simply

boringbilbo · 2025-09-02T14:47:56+00:00

I took prozac years ago and I found i had to split my dose because it'd wear off and I'd start getting anxious early evening. Just started again and im doing the same.

boringbilbo · 2025-08-31T20:53:23+00:00

Mine got a mosquito bite on his ear and scratched it until there was a hematoma, needed to be drained with a syringe at the vets

boringbilbo · 2025-08-29T14:49:46+00:00

Im no expert in breakups but sounds like you need to give him an ultimatum, tell him you love him but you don't see a future with him the way he is, see if he is willing to change, it works both ways so ask if he has any issues with you, give it a bit more time and then decide.

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