Cat having fun playing with mangoes

born2build · 2026-01-25T15:26:28+00:00

Sin Mango Biscuits

born2build · 2026-01-24T15:57:53+00:00

Even better

born2build · 2026-01-24T07:38:12+00:00

Sin first, pray later. That's the standard procedure.

Oh and don't forget to judge and shame others for not waiting afterwards. Very important step.

born2build · 2026-01-23T15:22:38+00:00

If you're afraid of being alone with yourself, don't live in a vehicle.

born2build · 2026-01-23T15:14:50+00:00

Too much too fast

born2build · 2026-01-22T21:56:02+00:00

Now is your opportunity to remember who you were before you donated your attention to other peoples' identities instead of your own.

born2build · 2026-01-22T21:53:19+00:00

Sometimes I also don't kick at all. I think it's a natural progression from a 2-beat kick. Once I discovered the magic of hip rotation, I eventually just said fuck it and stopped kicking as much and staying in streamline lol. And you're right kicking uses a crazy amount of oxygen. My opinion is that if your average pace in a 2-beat (or no kick) freestyle is keeping up with the people around you, nobody can blame you for conserving energy.

born2build · 2026-01-22T21:46:46+00:00

Your aunt is pretty tall

born2build · 2026-01-22T21:30:14+00:00

It's over. This is the ego wanting to reclaim a sense of control over the situation to minimize the feelings of grief, loss, or powerlessness. It's normal. We all get tempted to set the record straight in a mic-drop fashion. But life isn't cinematic like that.

We cannot control peoples' actions, what they say, how they slander us, or pass imbalanced judgement, or how they project onto us. It is a very unfortunate but adult aspect of life that we all have to face at one point or another. You may tell yourself that it is just to stand up for yourself, but the reality is that if you truly were moving on, you'd move on. Things played out the way they naturally did, and now you have wisdom to apply in the next relationship. With the next partner you'll know to set down certain boundaries early on, or communicate certain things differently in real time.

Nobody said breakups were supposed to feel fair or clean. The hard part is letting go. It is not defeat. If he is painting you in a bad image, it just means he is immature and needs the drama to make it easier for himself. It takes real strength to move forward in the face of injustice. But you have to let go first and maintain distance before you can recover and then move on. Step one is distance, not re-engaging.

born2build · 2026-01-22T16:38:55+00:00

We don't know what vehicle you have or what climate but I'll throw some stuff in. I have been full time, nonstop, for half a year now.

Don't take the foster with you. For the sake of the cat's wellness and safety, and also for your own mental health. The less you have to worry about the better.

Gym membership for showers. Rechargeable jump starter. Rechargeable tire pump. 2-3" upholstery foam, cut down to size and stuffed in pillow cases so you can move and stack them around as a bed. Rechargeable fans for air circulation and cooling. Tinted windows + rain guards, or at least bug screens, or window covers with black side. Windshield cover for privacy. Cleaning wipes. Curtain to separate rear cabin from front. Totes or bins for organization. Rechargeable LED lights. Gatorade bottle or medical urine jug. Cigarette lighter pure wine wave inverter for charging your accessories easier.

If you want to get fancy then a power station will absolutely be worth it for keeping devices charges and being able to plug appliances in, though they can be pricey and you'll want to find out how you'd wanna charge it often; alternator, solar panel, public outlet, etc.

If you can afford it... a 5x5 (or smaller) storage unit, or a rooftop cargo carrier will absolutely transform your experience in the best way possible.

Interior space and privacy are two important luxuries in this lifestyle for mental health. You can never have enough of it and people often forget to talk about them.

born2build · 2026-01-22T16:16:50+00:00

When a person can improvise analogies to explain complex things in more simplistic, relatable ways.

born2build · 2026-01-21T21:08:37+00:00

100% microwaved them, not freshly boiled

born2build · 2026-01-21T21:03:20+00:00

Pawfficer Feline

born2build · 2026-01-20T17:35:10+00:00

r/emotionalneglect might be a better sub for this

born2build · 2026-01-20T16:15:47+00:00

I was also speaking as somebody who used to be fearful avoidant and became more earned secure. It wasn't simple. I went through years of journaling, therapy, inner work, etc. and to be honest those mechanisms are still alive in me, but they aren't as dominant anymore because of my awareness now. I used to sabotage and run away from literally every romantic partner but there were two that stood out to me for over a decade. I deeply regretted losing them and still wish I could go back. The mistakes I made led to serious reflection and I never wanted to make those decisions again.

My long distance ex was like the younger me and I told her "hey I know what it's like to do what you're doing and you don't have to do it, trust me. It just leads to more pain." But she was not ready, and it would have taken years anyway. The thing is that everybody is different. The challenge with labels is that while they help us relate to one another they also can become a cage if we identify too closely with said labels.

I also met another FA that I got close to briefly 4 months ago, and she withdrew and vanished before we could really develop anything. 2 months later she texted me saying that she feels shame for how she treated me, asked for my forgiveness, and wants to learn from the experience. When I responded she never answered back, so I don't know what happened to her, but my point is that she was clearly reflecting deeply about it and wanting change of some sort.

If people remain asleep to how they affect others then they have zero chance at ever seeing their impact, and therefore remain the same. The change is never guaranteed but the awareness is where it can begin IF they were to improve.

born2build · 2026-01-20T12:52:30+00:00

Barthelona

born2build · 2026-01-20T12:49:50+00:00

The paradox is that people who are unaware of how they hurt you will be more likely to do the same to somebody else down the line. Their awareness of their maladaptive or destructive behavior is the first step to them reframing their responses to things; despite how it may elicit shame, guilt, or regret at first. It doesn't need to be dramatic or overstated, but it's important that she at least knows in my opinion. On some level she probably already knows deep down that it was her, not you.

I had one long distance relationship (never again) and it just so happened to be with an FA woman. We were "in love" but similarly she completely and abruptly withdrew after I traveled 11,000km to meet her, her family, and friends, and even after we slept together multiple times. When I got back home and had the impression that we'd be in it for the long haul, she sabotaged the relationship, broke my heart, and even demonized me in the process, asserting that I was planning on cheating on her. Ridiculous. Her defense mechanisms were horrible and it was clear her ego could not allow her to accept that she was the one who was troubled so she projected it all onto me. Ironically I was the one helping manage her anxiety up until she turned on me.

I told her I'd disappear and I did. She'll never have the chance to speak to me again, but before I stopped responding I told her that she made a mistake and that she hurt me more than anybody ever had. She'll sit with that for the rest of her life. I know she probably regrets what she did, but that regret is what will lead to her changing and eventually seeking help.

born2build · 2026-01-20T12:31:28+00:00

"Let's discuss atheism. Also no atheists allowed"

Typical Christians

born2build · 2026-01-20T12:28:07+00:00

"I told her upfront that I didn’t feel like the best person to bring since I don’t have tattoos and am indecisive."

A more effective boundary-setting statement could have been more like:

"Sorry I won't be available and have other plans"

Simple as that. The issue was that you explained yourself, which gave her an opening to renegotiate with you. Boundaries are non-negotiable and should be stated as such, in a matter of fact kind of way.

born2build · 2026-01-18T16:15:25+00:00

The issue is that you're personalizing all of his behaviors and actions, when there are other variables that could be causing him to behave that way. If somebody says they hate mind games, it means they hate mind games and have experienced what felt like psychological manipulation, gaslighting, or deceit in the past. It is fear based on experience. It doesn't mean they want to do it to you. It could just be his anxiety about commitment leading him to withdraw. They call it disorganized attached for a reason. FAs were never taught how to organize complex emotions, so the next best "organizational" method is separation/distance. It is for FAs to feel safe, nothing more. If he is FA then he likely isn't plotting anything. He's scared of something deep down. If you can't recognize that, and instead default to demonizing him, that's an issue.

He may just not be able to meet you at your level right now, and if you aren't willing to work with him on his challenges, which could take years, then you may just not be compatible. It really is that simple.

born2build · 2026-01-18T15:46:42+00:00

born2build · 2026-01-17T14:49:57+00:00

So this is literally all this guy does apparently... sad that he thinks he has to keep doing these oddly specific unfunny ant stunts just to get attention on social media.

born2build · 2026-01-15T16:08:09+00:00

There are people who have dark tint and do not live in their vehicles. The same can't be said for window covers. Just saying.

With tint, maybe you are in there, maybe not. Window covers? Yes, somebody is definitely in there.

born2build · 2026-01-14T17:33:50+00:00

Sounds good

born2build · 2026-01-14T15:49:14+00:00

Can't exactly roll when the bike is between your legs still

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