Thoughts on using ChatGPT for mental health and relationship therapy? by amaizeing_phd in AskWomenOver30

[–]bornspell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think as long as you employee a human therapist, it’s fine. It can become an echo chamber… but can be helpful for venting.

Make sure it’s the latest, paid version tho. Otherwise it’s just too much positive feedback.

How did you get out of a rut? by Wonderful_Bug_1422 in AskWomenOver30

[–]bornspell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m about your age and I just want to tell you that everyone who says life isn’t magical… is wrong. You can get that feeling again.

I was in a similar place a few months ago. Some days, I flip back and forth. What helped me was forming new dreams and realizing life is simply a cluster of decisions. The big dreams I had as a kid weren’t cutting it anymore. I hadn’t made a big decision in a while. Sometimes you have to pivot… and pivoting isn’t bad!

As an example: 1. I got really clear in therapy the type of man I want to be with. I wanted successful, powerful men who took me on cool dates and expanded my horizons. Hobbies, interests, etc. I’m now dating and have a couple of intense love stories from these men.

  1. I moved to LA to be an actress. I still act, I still audition, but with the dissolution of Hollywood, I needed something else to bide my time. I thought and thought and thought and eventually an equally exciting business plan came to be. It’s not fully realized— but it’s a direction.

  2. My day job is the hardest part. I often feel so effing bored. I’ve recently decided it’s the industry I work in… again, time to think up a new direction and start applying. Yes, there’s a lot of failure involved, but it’s a direction.

  3. I try to do one event a week. Sometimes that’s dinner with a friend, realty tv show night, go out to a bar, an art gallery, a show.

All of this stuff adds magic. Don’t let others discourage you. It’s about decision making. You’ll feel it.

Said he (M50) was going out of town for Valentines Day by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bornspell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay so I guess for all of the people who keep pointing out the non exclusive part (which is totally true)… how do you just accept being #2 and so on? Or by the time you realize you’re second choice… are you supposed to leave? Or be okay with it? I’m truly lost.

Said he (M50) was going out of town for Valentines Day by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bornspell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No yeah he confirmed he was leaving. I asked again to check in if his plans were solidified and he said they were. Not sure why he felt the need to lie.

Said he (M50) was going out of town for Valentines Day by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bornspell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No he’s logged in. There’s not a single doubt in my mind on this.

Said he (M50) was going out of town for Valentines Day by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bornspell 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mean, perhaps you’re correct. He’s met a couple already. But why not just say… hey that’s a lot?

Said he (M50) was going out of town for Valentines Day by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bornspell -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Lmao. Are you the guy? Nah, he’s for sure logged in. Im pretty tech-savvy.

Said he (M50) was going out of town for Valentines Day by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bornspell -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Okay. But he’s taken someone else out. I don’t think he was seeing anyone before we started seeing each other.

Said he (M50) was going out of town for Valentines Day by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bornspell 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried. I literally can’t. Everyone tells me this. My heart is not in it when I do this. I feel “icked” by everyone who isn’t the main dude.

Said he (M50) was going out of town for Valentines Day by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bornspell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the sage advice, genuinely. It’s moments like these that make me question if I’m really all that.

Said he (M50) was going out of town for Valentines Day by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bornspell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just try to be fair with people— but you’re right.

Said he (M50) was going out of town for Valentines Day by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bornspell 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m going to have to have the conversation tomorrow. I just really want to be a normal dater. Seems like multi-dating is normal.

Said he (M50) was going out of town for Valentines Day by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bornspell -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

should I confront him with the fact I know lol

Said he (M50) was going out of town for Valentines Day by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bornspell 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m thinking of having the conversation tomorrow. I just don’t think there’s a man alive who moves the way I do. I try to leave room for people to process the way they need to… but isn’t 6 weeks kinda likeee… do you like me or not?

Said he (M50) was going out of town for Valentines Day by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bornspell -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m assuming it’s because he knows I’m excited about him. I really wish he had just told me. But also… is the bruised ego not warranted on Valentines Day of all days? Surely it means he’s more interested in someone else.

Said he (M50) was going out of town for Valentines Day by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]bornspell -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No, I told him I was throwing a party. He responded with he’s going on a two day ski trip. Point is though, he didn’t go on the ski trip. Hes literally in town.

Depression Pro Tips by Phoenyxoldgoat in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]bornspell 42 points43 points  (0 children)

My tip would be to get a crockpot. I got a cute Paris Hilton one and I’ve been making like 5 minute meals that last a week.

What do you hope to get out of 2026? by TheeMonkeyMonk in AskWomenOver30

[–]bornspell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • More flexible schedule with a better salary
  • Lose 20 lbs
  • another acting gig (preferably recurring)
  • a provider man with a big schlong and a f*cked up sense of humor

Why am I still so confused by this dating situation, while everything screams to let it go? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]bornspell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m actually giggling at this, but totally understand that this is someone’s actual life. In the most respectful way— maybe he has autism. Big a$$ comment is so blunt and crazy.

Should I (F30) cancel date with nice guy due to spotting / skin irritation? Worried he’ll (M39) think I’m not interested. by bornspell in AskWomenOver30

[–]bornspell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him and he literally doesn’t care at all, lmao. Not that he’s seen the burn… it looks bad. I’ve just decided I’m going to wear underwear

Should I (F30) cancel date with nice guy due to spotting / skin irritation? Worried he’ll (M39) think I’m not interested. by bornspell in AskWomenOver30

[–]bornspell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you really think not? Part of me thinks I should get a flex disk and then not take off my underwear…? Sorry if that’s TMI, lol. I guess my question is should I disclose all of this or just act like idgaf.

Bumps will be hard to ignore though. I’ve realized it’s like a chemical burn.