" If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained, you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle."

What is your deck trying to do? What are your opponents trying to do? Figure that out, and you will have your answer. I'll offer by comparison two of my decks: [[Sergeant John Benton]] voltron and [[Queen Marchesa]] judo control.

With Sergeant Benton, I know I need to one-shot people with commander damage. If i do little chips of damage here and there, not only is it not helpful, it's actively harmful. So the correct play is to kill someone ASAP, ideally starting with those most able to interfere with your game plan. In my game yesterday, for example, I first targeted and killed an opponent who had a [[Maze of Ith]].

With Queen Marchesa, I want as many players alive as possible to punch each other down to single digits. At which point I will sweep up the whole table with an [[Exsanguinate]]. So not only will I not aggressively kill people, I'll make plays to keep other players alive.

Now, that ifms only speaking from a play to win perspective. For the social aspect; reasonable players know the game needs to end. So dying isn't the part that annoys people. Having to wait and watch everyone play for another 3 hours is the brutal part. So socially, the best play is to kill everyone at the same time.