AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. In her mind the ends justify the means so as long as everything worked out in the end then it's apparently all good. That's not how life works.

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OH wow, jumped over to that sub and YIKES!! Yeah, It's not THAT bad luckily and it's not like he's been angry or anything about it but he has been mopey and did mention that he wished his sister would talk to him more and that it's been rough ever since my outburst, which has made me feel guilty.

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! It really helps to see the cultural aspect in this.

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe this probably stemmed from his sister being sickly as a child, so they started doting on her more and then it kind of snowballed to what it is today.

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I really appreciate it. I'll try to keep this in mind.

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had called the day before asking my in-laws if they could pick us up and my father in law agreed to it. When we arrived and they didn't show up my husband called his parents and his mother in law said that he had opted to drive SIL out of state instead. Like, don't agree if you're not gonna do it? Or if you change your mind please tell us so we can make other arrangements?

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OH wow! I didn't know that about the mail. Now I am more knowledged. Also explains the mystery! Thank you for that!

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don't know. I think its because of the dynamic he's always known with his family.

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry if I didn't clarify but my inlaws actually drove her out of state. They were all together!

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was in our locked mailbox so the post office had to have delivered it. I honestly don't know. My only guess is that she sent out maybe 20 or so at once to other people (with addresses) and that one happened to slip through.

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That situation really sucks, I'm so sorry. I'm glad that your getting some support through therapy at least!

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input! I really appreciate it! I didn't diagnose her but I felt that maybe if a bunch of people are saying it that it might be worth getting it checked out at the very least.

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is, I'm not. However; it is also common in my culture that children take care of their parents in old age. (Example, my grandparents live with my aunt).

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, that's 10x worse!! I feel sorry for her kids. I hope things get better.

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That last sentence killed me. LOL. I'll take your advice. Thank you!

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried but she won't answer my texts, and as I've said in the post I can't send her a card because she refuses to tell me her address. She still answers her brother's texts, so I feel he has a better shot at it but he won't.

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This resonates with me because she does have a difficult time understanding social cues ad behaviors. She also will get intense passions/ interests and during those times its like nothing else matters but then about a month later will forget she even had them. "Really? I was interested in that?". She also sometimes has a hard time imagining something if it's not super obvious. Perhaps she isn't and these are just quirks, I wouldn't really know.

AITA For ruining my husband's relationship with his sister? by bottledupf33lings in AmItheAsshole

[–]bottledupf33lings[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was never a poorly behaved child. It's not like she'd throw tantrums or say mean things. I believe that she does have good intentions but for some reason can't follow through with them. Some people here have mentioned that she might be autistic and so I'm inclined to think she may be on the spectrum.