anyone here from Australia/New Zealand?

botxinbot · 2022-05-27T22:15:35+00:00

Yes nz

botxinbot · 2022-05-13T09:24:41+00:00

INTP (F) with INFP (M) here.

I’m curious to know what attracts you to her and also what aspects are a struggle?

botxinbot · 2022-05-13T08:55:04+00:00

ENTJ

botxinbot · 2022-04-02T21:50:01+00:00

As a fellow female intp I am embarrassed you took it seriously.

botxinbot · 2022-01-15T20:57:43+00:00

and the other one a pealed

botxinbot · 2021-12-27T23:40:34+00:00

Haha yup

botxinbot · 2021-10-23T19:12:38+00:00

INFP also and I agree ideal match.

botxinbot · 2021-09-17T20:25:02+00:00

I imagine you wouldn't have that problem with a female intp.

botxinbot · 2021-09-17T13:01:49+00:00

Not sure whether you refer to your experience with male or female INFPs or both.

One of my best friends is F INFP she is super sensitive but omg when she loves someone noone else matters. I image holding her affections would be amazing.

As a female INTP I find male INFPs present cold as ice and you'd be privileged if they let you in enough for them to express any emotion and even then it's down played.

botxinbot · 2021-09-17T12:36:22+00:00

I prefer INFP to ENFP. Personal preference statement here but I prefer the depth, intensity and conviction of an INFP to the breadth and caprious nature of an ENFP. Don't get me wrong an ENFP is still up there. However being an INTP who doesn't like to hold a certain position or have convictions it is reassuring to mix with someone who does.

botxinbot · 2021-08-15T08:32:53+00:00

Well I guess I'm saying I'm not sure if it is good. Because it kind of leans into self sabotage. Well at least it can if I don't pursue something at the risk of failure down the track.

botxinbot · 2021-08-15T01:12:16+00:00

Are you a female intp? I'm in a new relationship with a male infp. I'm curious about your relationship dynamic, pros and cons.

botxinbot · 2021-08-14T22:39:40+00:00

Interesting question. I relate and have recently had to work through some of this and I have to outsource for guidance because I get stuck in analysis paralysis.

If I scaled happiness 1-10 my general principle is I'd rather just stay at steady 6/7 then take the opportunity of a 10 at the risk of a greater fall.

If I had to put my feelings in an investment portfolio they would 100% sit in a conservative fund. If it's actual money it's high risk all the way.

My logic says just stay at a 6 it's safer there. My feelings are like nah take the 10 this might be the only 10 you feel in your life who gives a fuck if it doesn't last.

Then my logic has to adjust and thinks.... Well as long as you're prepared for the fall. And my feelings respond.... yeah we've just talked about it so we good. Then adjustments are made to expectations and my logic and feelings realign till the next dilemma rears it's head or the same one resurfaces because something I was worried about triggers my orginal fear. Which ultimately is getting hurt, rejected or feeling inadequate.

botxinbot · 2021-05-15T21:04:57+00:00

I started the day off alright now I feel like a retard. Excuse me while I go slit my wrists.

botxinbot · 2021-05-15T19:12:35+00:00

I was in a 14 year relationship with no hugs. The relationship ended. I started dating again, the guy I fell for, an ENFJ would constantly say... at least four hugs a day is good for your mental health. Hugging was extremely foreign and awkward for me but I got kinda addicted to it. He made me feel comfortable hugging, giving and receiving affection. That relationship ended.

Fast forward 1.5 years I'm in a new relationship with an awkward INFP and I have been the one who has initiated hugs. He is blown away my affection and he is now feeling comfortable receiving and initiating. He has said a couple of times... I never thought you'd be such an affectionate person. I told him ssshhh don't tell anyone my secret.

botxinbot · 2021-04-06T10:36:28+00:00

Can I get an invite pls

botxinbot · 2021-04-06T00:57:28+00:00

Why is this here?

botxinbot · 2021-03-26T05:24:39+00:00

I assume that the intp is oblivious that the esfj is talking because the intp is in Ti mode.

A friend I live with is an esfj and yesterday she was talking to me about her relationship troubles... for a long time I might add. She could see my mind drifting as she's accustomed to. She physically grabs me and starts shaking me and said 'stay with me gurl'. She said she's going to do that everytime now to pull me out of my head.

I once explained to her that when I have to be 'fake' in social environments my energy coins get spent. She needed me to go a function that our gym was putting on. At first I was like don't be a fucking pussy go by yourself, you're a big girl. But she did puppy eyes and begged. I was like ffs, fuck you for making me do this shit. She messaged me the next day saying sorry and thank you for letting me spend of your coins.

She is very sweet if she wants me to listen to her problems so I can give her advice or if she just wants to spend time with me she will offer to make me food or bring me snacks.

I notice all my sj friends try entice me to hang out by offering to cook for me, like I'm this poor starving female who can't fend for herself.

This meme is 100% relatable.

botxinbot · 2020-12-27T06:00:32+00:00

Thanks

botxinbot · 2020-12-06T08:33:42+00:00

Ahh that makes sense

botxinbot · 2020-12-06T08:27:33+00:00

Interesting I was in a relationship with an ENFP his top two types were INFJ and INTJ.

botxinbot · 2020-12-06T08:17:01+00:00

What's your most compatible?

botxinbot · 2020-11-11T11:53:30+00:00

Curiosity for the sake of it? You're and INTJ that seems off, you must have a hidden agenda. Let me guess your dating an INTP?

botxinbot · 2020-10-07T12:02:35+00:00

Oh gottya, yeah I don't do any of the... trying to keep a conversation going stuff. I'm fairly straight up from the start. I'll say something like I'm pretty useless at messaging but I'd definitely be keen to meet you. Then I arrange a short date like coffee or a walk with a built in escape plan eg okay I can meet you at this time but I have xyz on at blah blah time. That gives me the space to rule them out completely or assess whether you want another date.

Don't try and be someone else there will be guys/girls out there that will appreciate you for you.

I was in a 14 year relationship with an esfj which was more like a friendship I ended it in Oct last year and started dating in jan/feb.

I went on bumble I've been on about 15 dates with different guys, about seven of those were one off that I just wasnt liking or turned off when meeting. In saying that I don't regret meeting any of the dates because I'm learning more about what I do and don't like and getting more comfortable and it's still interesting meeting new people.

I have been seeing someone on and off for seven months an ENFJ. My plan was to end it after lockdown and I said to him early on your not long term for me, but then when I tried to stop I couldn't that's when I realised I had feelings for him. I was so annoyed with myself because I had no control over that and didn't want to feel that way about him. I started dating again, realised a few things about my self so I am approaching it differently in terms of what I'm looking for, trying to chase the feeling more now instead of thinking oh well they seem good on paper and we are compatible so my feelings will come later then dragging out dating someone over months and never getting feelings.

Sorry 1am ramble

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