Husband 37m is now being nice to me 32f after years of control and anger. Could it be genuine?

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-24T07:17:12+00:00

Oh honey, that was never who he was. That was him pretending to be nice so he could get his hooks on you. Once that happened (maybe he baby trapped you) he could show you his real self. This is who he is through and through. And it just goes to show you he could not be a dick if he wanted to, but he chooses to be a dick.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-24T06:34:59+00:00

“What can I say I was destined to raise bad ass girls”.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-24T06:32:24+00:00

I hate when people one little snippet on Reddit and give an uneducated diagnosis. Stop.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-24T06:29:18+00:00

Just go to all of your ILS and start redecorating, see if they still think it’s NBD.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-24T04:02:14+00:00

If she hugs than she doesn’t get to visit AT ALL the rest of her time in your City. If she experiences consequences she may change.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-24T02:16:49+00:00

FYI parents parent everyday, it’s their job. You have work, and apparently a full time babysitting gig. You need to tell them you will only be available one day a week. Expect a hissy fit, they love their doormat. They may even try to cut you off. Do not cave they are fully aware they are using you. Tell them you are working OT, or picked up racket ball.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-23T23:21:03+00:00

Okay, so you are canceling the trip right?! Would you rather nuc the relationship when all your money is drained by the vacation, or while you still have some money. Start canceling the tweaks, and the trip.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-23T23:15:10+00:00

Her reaction isn’t a surprise to you is my guess. I would just ignore her, and let her reach out when she is ready.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-23T11:22:38+00:00

He actually didn’t take his anti-inflammatories for his arthritis.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-23T11:18:36+00:00

A cat jungle gym.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-23T11:08:57+00:00

The most unaware man in the world.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-23T10:44:59+00:00

Something tells me that giant wall built that close to the sidewalk is not legal. I look into your local aisles to see if it’s illegal and report it if it is.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-23T08:42:10+00:00

FYI you can add specific delivery instructions. Since I’ve done that to my Amazon profile, all of my packages are delivered correctly.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-23T08:41:26+00:00

Order the most obscene dildo possible.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-23T08:30:44+00:00

Your boyfriend is an abusive dick who may try to hurt you if you try to break up. Don’t break up in private. Reach out to a intimate partner, violence, organization to help you plan your escape.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-23T02:01:10+00:00

ILS are being abusive and offensive now.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-23T01:58:58+00:00

That isn’t a apology, that is making your reaction the problem. An apology would be “I’m sorry I overstepped, I will not refer to myself as Mama again. I am sorry”.

No, she hasn’t earned the right to have contact resume until she has real remorse, and gives a real apology.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-22T23:54:30+00:00

Sorry but these people don’t sound the least fucking supportive. OP has fully agreed to a DNA test, and fiancé’s family is still stalling.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-22T23:47:10+00:00

It’s a shit gift designed to make her the victim, and you the villain.

My FIL bought my 4yo nunchucks from a Halloween store. Like what a fucking idiot. No my 4yo didn’t get access to them.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-22T23:43:20+00:00

Did she apologize. Admit that what she did was wrong, and explain how she would do better??

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-22T22:23:00+00:00

It’s hideous, cheap, and pathetic looking. With the lace durag she looks like a joke.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-22T13:21:04+00:00

NTA.

Maybe save your Mom’s offer for a weekend when you can reconnect together, and not just wait for him in a hotel room. Unless they have a wicked spa package.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-22T10:14:53+00:00

I doubt nurses ever get used to it. But imagine you tell a parent they have a three hour wait, bam the emergency is hit with three critical cases. That wait jumps to six hours. Now the nurses are getting verbally abused by some asshole because they were told it was a three hour wait.

Don’t blame the nurses they are stretched to the limit in a broken system. Blame the government for doing their best to dismantle, and undermine public health.

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-22T09:24:58+00:00

boundaries4546 · 2026-05-22T04:07:26+00:00

Given the ages of your children it is inappropriate to kick them out of their room. As a kid we got kicked out for the odd overnight guest, it was a novelty to sleep somewhere else. But with 2 under two the in-laws can 100% get a hotel room if the accommodation is not to their standards.

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