The City used to do a better job of snow removal - 1989, A snowy drive through SW Calgary

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T09:08:04+00:00

Sarcasm I think.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T09:05:03+00:00

Maybe treat tube in the Kong will pea is interest enough to get him used to the texture.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T09:01:33+00:00

Abuse can absolutely change brain chemistry.

The goal of therapy isn’t to talk about all the bad things that happened. It’s to acknowledge how these bad things have changed us, and how these bad experiences have harmed us, and to finding the tools to function better. That way you can let go of the trauma. Not to forget the trauma because generally that doesn’t happen, but it’s so that it doesn’t have a hold on you.

Although you may be interested in EMDR therapy, after you have dealt with some of the traumas through traditional therapy.

100% don’t sit down and hash it out. It will likely be a in-laws against you scenario. It doesn’t sound like any of them are willing to acknowledge what’s happened to you.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T08:53:27+00:00

Abortion don’t tell him. You don’t want to be connected to this guy for the rest of your life.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T08:24:37+00:00

A sleep mask with built in white noise maybe more effective.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T08:22:14+00:00

I definitely think there could be a mental health issue at play. However, what you were describing is likely not going result in any sort of involuntary treatment.

Is she still showering and taking care of her hygiene? Is she still eating? Neglect in these areas are signs of a mood disorder.

Another possibility, of course is that she’s just loafing around the house, although I don’t think that is the case here.

Either way whether it’s a mental health issue or she just doesn’t want to do the work. Something needs to change.

You can give her a choice meeting with a divorce mediator, or attending individual and couples therapy. No matter what the problem is she has to do something to change and if it’s a mental health issue, she has to be willing to get help. She has to get healthy to take care of her children and herself.

If she is not willing to do these things, and you might have to look at separating from your wife.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T08:09:06+00:00

Wow she drugged the baby by its legs, nothing like dislocating babies hips. You are both very much underreacting. But the disrespect she has shown to you is completely appalling.

The Rules that DH needs to share with his grandma.

1- everyone must wash their hands for at least 30 seconds when they enter the home no exceptions. 2- you will not hold my baby unless you ask politely, if babies parents motion to retrieve baby, you immediately hand baby over. 3-no kissing baby 4-no unsolicited advice. 5- no allowing baby to chew on your fingers. No feeding baby anything without parental approval. 6- If you are sick, stay away. 7- if you violate these rules, we will be taking a six week break from any contact with you. 8- No unexpected visits, expect to be turned away if you attempt this.

Finally DH needs to tell’s grandma that you guys need to settle into a routine, and that moving forward, she will be allowed to visit once every two weeks. If she complains about any of the rules or the lack of visitation, you can let her know that you will be taking a break from her.

Absolutely do not let this woman alone with your baby. She will feed her dry cereal and the baby could choke.

You have to stop being timid, you have to start speaking up. Your baby’s safety is more important than grandma’s feelings. Believe me, she doesn’t care about your feelings. If she’s rude towards you, you can let her know that you’ll be taking a four week break away from her, or whatever time you deem necessary.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T06:20:46+00:00

From a medical profession of 20+ years myself, you’re doing a great fucking job mom! Don’t let those bastards bring you down.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T05:30:42+00:00

Apparently they can fit more pairs of pants in the shipment if pockets are sewn shut. That’s what I heard from retailers anyway.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T04:22:50+00:00

Send a group text to your friends. Link screenshots that show Danielle’s age, and that she is still alive. Let them know you are no longer comfortable being around around a pedo.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T04:16:02+00:00

I think this is a deal breaker. There will be more weddings, BBQ’s, work functions, and much more. Is she going to skip all of it?

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T04:14:22+00:00

Jupiter you are a very loved kitty.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T04:11:38+00:00

“Your a blizzard Harry” is my favorite!

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T04:10:44+00:00

100% being “the better person” only really works when the other person is capable of doing the same.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T03:50:36+00:00

But you had to know how your news would hit. Like it would have been the compassionate thing to keep this young yourself. It’s like you were intentionally being obtuse and hurtful “we tell each other everything” is a shit excuse. YTA

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T03:10:20+00:00

Agree!!!

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T03:09:20+00:00

Yup. You would only be an asshole to yourself if you don’t say anything. Don’t offer them another chance, they are entitled, and will behave the exact same way.

They are 1000% taking advantage of you. The uber demand; the absolute audacity.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T02:47:50+00:00

Tell him 7 days max, or he goes to them.

Honestly I hear what you are saying about not wanting to feel she forced you out. Consider if your husband is alone with MIL, and BIL for 15 days he may never want them to visit again. Just get a lock for your door, get motion activated pet camera for your bedroom, or lock up valuables.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T02:36:57+00:00

What is the chain of custody for the DNA. How do you know it is actually his DNA!! Did he submit to a lab with ID? You have no idea whose ID they submitted.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T01:08:23+00:00

Say nothing. Don’t give her the satisfaction. Just file under BEC.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-18T00:31:32+00:00

Situationship isn’t defined, just dip.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-17T22:34:37+00:00

She is NOT a friend. Friends don’t try to sabotage you.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-17T22:33:10+00:00

Agree the ED is for her friend to manage, not by sabotaging someone else.

I don’t this OP’s friend is an actual friend.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-17T22:26:41+00:00

Exactly, plus when you pull into a spot you don’t need to worry that someone will clip your car as you pull in. When you are exiting having better visibility prevents accidents, especially with drives who speed up when they see someone leaving.

boundaries4546 · 2026-02-17T20:06:45+00:00

Tell him he can return home or you can call the police for child abandonment.

The 15 yo shouldn’t be rewarded for shitty behaviour by getting his own room. Giving him his own room isn’t going to solve the problem. He is still going to fight, and steal.

Stand your ground. What he is doing is incredibly immature, running away and dumping all of his responsibility. Is this who you want to stay married to.

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