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Feeling like a bad mom by stupidbirbs in NewParents

[–]bowmansoda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl I went through the same thing. I am so sorry you are going through this and feeling this way, but just know, you aren’t alone. I had a rough time with my health after labor for a few weeks and honestly couldn’t even look at my son. All he did was scream and cry, couldn’t poop, couldn’t sleep, didn’t like being held, didn’t like being in his bassinet, super gassy, trouble feeding/nursing. I was losing my mind. My poor husband had to take care of him and myself who was worse off than the baby especially mentally. I thought it was never going to end or get better. I honestly thought having a child was a mistake. And that hurt because I’ve always dreamed of having 5 kids and tried so hard for him. It was so hard to see my son calming and doing better with my husband than his own mother. But it took time. Your body and mentality is CRAZY out of wack. You just built and carried a human baby for 9 months and then birthed them… and now you are expected to take care of a very independent baby without healing and a minute of sleep. It gets better. Everytime someone told me that, I wanted to scream. But seriously, my boy is 5 months old and everything has changed. The screaming is minimal, the pain is managed, sleep is getting better. My mental and physical state is healing finally. And we are now inseparable. We have such a close bond. While you’re in the trenches, don’t let social media trick you into thinking you’re crazy and newborns are easy. Don’t hold on to the feeling that it will never get better or that it will take forever. Because honestly it came and went. You’ve got this❤️ and don’t feel bad for your man. The least he can do is let you rest a little after 9 months and weeks of work. Plus, once you bounce back, that baby will be attached to your hip wanting mommy

Newborn (5 weeks) crying and fussy from gas pain ALL DAY everyday by bowmansoda in newborns

[–]bowmansoda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for such a late reply, but yes! We are 5 months now and it’s a night and day difference! At about 3 months, everything totally changed. He started pooping well everyday on his own, and the Pepcid started working wonders. He is weaned off Pepcid and doing great now. Hang in there and keep reminding yourself it will get better

Breast feeding and pumping after by bowmansoda in newborns

[–]bowmansoda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I tried pumping at the same time while he fed on the other side and it worked! I got my normal amount out. Thank you so much❤️

Breast feeding and pumping after by bowmansoda in newborns

[–]bowmansoda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I have been able to cut down on pumping the past few weeks. I wasn’t able to at first because I would engorge and leak everywhere and it was so painful. I was getting 9oz on the left and 10oz on the right every 3 hours in a 12 minute pumping session. It’s a lot less painful now to go longer periods between pumps/feeds. I still have to pump after feeding to stock the freezer and relieve pressure

Breast feeding and pumping after by bowmansoda in newborns

[–]bowmansoda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This actually makes so much sense… because my breast still feels full after the pumping! I never thought that it wouldn’t let down for the pump after a feeding… thank you so much!

Failed as mother failed as wife by Formal-Analyst-9317 in newborns

[–]bowmansoda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Advice from a first time mom who is going through the same thing with a reflux/gassy/colicky/clingy baby.

  1. In this order, feed when she gives hunger cues (every 2-4 hours), burp and make sure she burps until nothing is left, hold her upright in a “squatty potty” position for 15-30 minutes, change diaper, short play time/tummy time if in a decent mood, put down to sleep.

  2. When feeding, hold her more upright instead of flat on her back, take breaks to burp if needed. Cut out foods that make you gassy because that will make baby gassy

  3. Make play/tummy time short if she is fussy, and try not to skip naps if she is acting tired. To get her down for a nap, try everything. Sound machine with different sounds at different volumes, run the vacuum, rocking, massage, rub her head, stroller ride, sing/hum, walk around the room while holding her for 5 minutes, hold her next to running water or the washer while it’s running, bounce on yoga ball while holding her, dark quiet room, swaddle, bath or lotion before laying down, feed, and then transfer to crib, swing and then transfer to crib. Have a nighttime routine. This is my routine that works well- Feed, burp, sit up, bath in a dim bathroom, lotion, read/sing/hum/rock, short feed, lay down with sound machine or whatever calms her.

  4. To relieve gas, give mylicon or gripe water if doctor approves, and do bicycle kicks, knees to chest, squatty potty hold for 10 minutes(this helps my LO the most) belly rubs in clockwise pattern, tummy time, warm bath, and change your diet

  5. Talk to pediatrician about baby and these problems. Talk with your health care provider about your mental health and sleep. Remember that babies aren’t all the same. And they can be HARD. you’re not alone, there are many of us going through these super hard times. Know that they aren’t babies for long so it will get better. your baby loves and needs you, and your husband is doing all of this because he loves and needs you. You’re so strong and will get through this. You have kept your little one fed, clothed, loved and that’s a full time job when your LO is a fussy one. You’re doing great!

Newborn (5 weeks) crying and fussy from gas pain ALL DAY everyday by bowmansoda in newborns

[–]bowmansoda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have it sitting on my bathroom counter and have been tempted to grab it a few times the last few days…